I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 9 February 2017: Okay well if you love him then stay with him, he will end up KILLING you with his temper, it is a punch now but he will go to far one day and then your parents will be left without a daughter, and he will be in prison for life. ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 28 November 2016: I am sorry that you have had to go through this. The only positive thing is you have had a lucky escape, I am glad you have finished with him, and I hope you reported him for the attack. Allow all your family and friends to help you during this ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 22 November 2016: You where right in that it should be him that is keeping away from facebook chat, not you being there to stop him. You know he is doing this behind your back, and am pretty sure it is not just his ex he is chatting to either. I would end things with ... (read in full...)
I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 21 November 2016: Stop allowing him to control you like this. As a young woman the best thing you can do now is tell YOUR parents. Stop making excuses for him. Stop allowing him to treat you like dirt. It won't get better, you will have a miserable future if you ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 17 November 2016: Why are you both not friends on social media? I think you could be right why he was mad at her. He sounds like a shady character. Now am not saying he is cheating on you, but still talking with an ex is not the best way to make you feel secure and ... (read in full...)
I am worried about my family's reaction when they see my test results.
Q. Hi there... So a little about me.. I recently moved to a different school and in a different country and Im turning 18 very soon.. So recently, I flew home to visit my parents even though I had tests coming up. And my holiday was just a week, the...
A. 16 November 2016: Maybe cut back on going out weekends with your friends and focus on your studies. Remember you did move half way around the world. Yes you said your course was intense that is why you need to put in more study. Nobody is accusing you off anything. ... (read in full...)
Why have her habits towards me changed so drastically?
Q. I will try and make this as short and sweet as I can. First off I just want to say that in the last couple of months I have become a very anxious person towards the woman i become enveloped with. Just 6 months ago i could care less about if a wom...
A. 16 November 2016: Saying that she could be the one just after a week sounds like you are going in way to deep and either you will scare her off or you will get hurt. You need to go with the flow at this stage. Show interest but don't scare her.... (read in full...)
Why does he never offer to pay for the hotel?
Q. I travel quite a lot and 3-4 times a year I fly through one country where I met a guy who I really like. Sometimes it's a lay over, sometimes it's a couple days stay. We always meet and it's usually just amazing. Sex is amazing and I really enj...
A. 15 November 2016: I think when people are saying free sex they mean he does not need to make a commitment to you, he gets a free room for the night buys some food and has sex. ... (read in full...)
Why have her habits towards me changed so drastically?
Q. I will try and make this as short and sweet as I can. First off I just want to say that in the last couple of months I have become a very anxious person towards the woman i become enveloped with. Just 6 months ago i could care less about if a wom...
A. 15 November 2016: The thing is are you showing her interest back? You mention in your post her interest in you but are you actually showing her some? Because if you are not then maybe she is tired off doing all the running. I wouldn't be playing games, I would be ... (read in full...)
I just want to know from a womans perspective what my wife may be feeling?
Q. What does intercourse feel like for my 26 year old wife, who has only been with me, until she started having an affair with a man that we both know from the past... we had a threesome with him, which didnt work for me, but my wife started seeing h...
A. 15 November 2016: Nothing good comes from inviting someone else in to the marital bed. In your case she had a better time with him and therefore started up an affair. Yes she may love you, but she is obviously attracted to the other guy to have had this affair going ... (read in full...)
Whirlwind love ? Have we only bonded due to our circumstances? Her ex still constantly sends her texts
Q. Ok so let me start from the beginning. About four months ago I separated from a 10 year marriage where it was not a good place and my ex was not a nice person to be around. Then about a month later I started with online dating apps and met a f...
A. 15 November 2016: She was only married three months? That raises red flags with me. Look if she is not going to let go off his daughter then she is not going to fully let go off him. What age is the daughter? Why not just change her number to a new one and then she ... (read in full...)
He is habitually late, and I am VERY punctual!
Q. The guy I've been dating for awhile is often late. . I'm not talking 10 minutes , I mean anywhere from 45 mins to over an hour. I'm a very punctual person so habitual latesness is my pet peeve. I've tried to tell him about this but it never goes ...
A. 15 November 2016: It looks like he is pushing your buttons. He has no respect for you therefore I would just end it and save all the waiting around and heart ache.... (read in full...)
Facebook jealousy is making me resentful and bitter
Q. I saw a question posted a while back similar to this, as I seem to have the same problem. I recently had to deactivate my Facebook account because everyone posting constantly about their wonderful lives is making me really jealous and resentful of ...
A. 15 November 2016: People have more luck in jobs, wealth and life than you do? What about people who are in the middle of a war zone that have no home, no food, no money? What about the ones who have lost there children? Who have watched loved ones die in there arms? ... (read in full...)
I just want to be his friend, but he is taking it slow ...
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles I met a guy a couple of months ago. We hit it off quite quickly and there is obvious chemistry between us. However, he is very hesitate to allow me to get close to him. I know there is not any one else. I know he has only...
A. 15 November 2016: Sweetie my guess is that he is not interested in friendship from you, he probably done what you asked him to do and deleted your number. Therefore the best thing that you can do is just move on. Delete his number as well. Am sorry that he is not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend admitted he hadn't thought about us living together
Q. I'm 53 and my boyfriend is 55, we're both divorced and have been dating for just over one year. We see each other about 4 times a week, talk and laugh a lot and the relationship has been great. However, I say great, but there are obviously issues ...
A. 15 November 2016: He seems to be happy with just seeing you half off the time and still having his freedom and independence. I think after a year I would be hurt as well. You are not teenagers, you should know at this stage how you feel, the fact that he still has ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's family is refusing to let me stay with them.
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 18 months now. He is Indian and his family is Muslim. We intend to get married in the next year (not engaged yet) and they know we are serious, but because I am a white blonde girl they treat me completely ...
A. 15 November 2016: I guess you just need to respect that it is there home and there choice who they allow to stay in it. Can you find a cheap motel? Can your boyfriend not help cover the costs? Can he not come and visit you?... (read in full...)
Will watching X-rated movies affect my married life?
Q. hey I am indulged in bad sex activities like watching X movies and doing all that stuff …… I want to know will it affect my married life if I continue to do so. please help me...
A. 15 November 2016: If you are currently single then it won't affect you unless you develop an unrealistic view off love and being intimate. Why not spend more time meeting girls and getting to know them instead off looking at movies.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have two separate Snapchat accounts on one phone?
Q. Is it possible for your boyfriend to have two separate Snapchat accounts on one phone? Just today I went to Add Friends from contacts in my address book and I saw my boyfriend's name under another user name and it said ADD beside his name. I alre...
A. 15 November 2016: Okay really am not sure why you have not just asked him. You obviously have no trust at all in him. It is possible that he set it up for his mother, it is also possible that he has two accounts, maybe he forgot a password. Either way I wouldn't ... (read in full...)
I read my sister's old life planning journals and I am shocked at what I found!
Q. My sister graduated university last june and as a result had a whole box of old stationary/notepads in her room at home which my mum said I could borrow since she left them behind when she moved out (she's currently renting a flat for a year as ...
A. 14 November 2016: I think a lot off people go through a phase off hating themselves. If you think she is okay now then no don't tell your parents. That was her deepest darkest thoughts, and you should have stopped reading them when you realized what they where. I ... (read in full...)
Can we save things? Or do I just need to give up?
Q. I have a confession. I ruined my family. I talked to other guys, maybe 3 at the most. Things weren't sexual but sometimes they were flirty. One man in particular was very committed to me. I know what I've done wrong. I'm know I'm a despicable human. ...
A. 14 November 2016: I don't think this is ever going to work between you both. He does not trust you, and I don't think he can make himself trust you. You talking to these other men are going to put even more doubts in his head. I think you need to concentrate on ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to act like his actions didn't bother me but I just can't get over him!
Q. At the moment, I have feelings for someone who has basically led me on a bit and messed me about and obviously doesn't reciprocate. I have to see him every day at work and I am trying to simultaneously stay away from him and act civilly if I have ...
A. 14 November 2016: You can't really do a lot but wait. Keep yourself busy and active and it will get easier and easier over time. When you catch yourself thinking about him, distract yourself.... (read in full...)
What do I do about this crush on my neighbor?
Q. I moved into my new house in March on a new-build park. On the day of moving in a guy walked past with his dog and stopped to chat to my Dad who was stood outside at the time. My dad called me from the house to come and say hello. I said Hi and ...
A. 14 November 2016: He sounds like a helpful guy. But you really don't know anything about him. The only way to find out is to stop him some day and chat to him if you meet him outside. Other than that I think it would be a bit strange just to start walking with him or ... (read in full...)
Should men in committed relationships be following bikini models on Instagram?
Q. I wanted to know if it's right for a man in a relationship to have Instagram followers ( him following women that are models on Instagram) lately I noticed that a lot of my male friends who are married or in relationships are always folling these ...
A. 14 November 2016: I don't think it would bother me, men are going to look and yes so are women. It is just something people do. Just because you get in to a relationship or married does not mean the world revolved around that person and that is the only person that ... (read in full...)
Six years and no proposal; we've lived together for two. Is he stringing me along?
Q. I love my partner of 6 years. A few years into the relationship he suggested we bought a house together (at the time he had just finished his service in the military, and I was finishing University - he had saved up a house deposit during his time ...
A. 14 November 2016: I think you are your own worst enemy here. You go along for six years and you don't talk to him about what it is you want, why is that? Does he shoot you down when you try to talk to him about the future? I don't think he should propose and give you ... (read in full...)
I am worried about my family's reaction when they see my test results.
Q. Hi there... So a little about me.. I recently moved to a different school and in a different country and Im turning 18 very soon.. So recently, I flew home to visit my parents even though I had tests coming up. And my holiday was just a week, the...
A. 14 November 2016: But I think you are also missing out that you have been spending a lot of time with your boyfriend against your parents wishes and my guess is that is why you are scared off telling them you failed. Also it could be the reason your studies have ... (read in full...)
I always find the wrong guy! I'm sick of being single.
Q. I seem to have no luck with finding the right guy... Recently met a new guy on a dating site. We spoke for a few days then he asked me on a date. I accepted and we arranged a day. However, as the day got nearer, he said he had to work so we could...
A. 14 November 2016: A lot of people use dating sites to have hook ups and also to find someone where they can cheat on a partner with as they are bored. If you set up a dating site that you pay for then maybe more sensible guys are on there, but my guess is they would ... (read in full...)
Stuck in a cycle and unable to initiate the conversation ...
Q. I am 55, my partner is 64. We have been together 11 years. We got together immediately after I left my previous relationship, we were friends before I left my relationship, which went wrong for many reasons. She initiated the relationship, and at ...
A. 14 November 2016: It sounds like you and your partner are sexually incompatible. The mistake you made was to carry it on for so long and falling in to a routine. Do you actually love your partner? Or is she someone that is just there so that you are not alone? As you ... (read in full...)
My friend thought I was in pornographic pictures.
Q. MOD NOTE: I believe the asker has a male friend who is close like a brother. They are both married. Her friend ignored her for two weeks, and when she insisted he say why he sent by text pornographic images which he believes to be her. He is ...
A. 14 November 2016: If it is the third interpretation then my suggestion would be to tell him that he has crossed a line. Also tell your husband what he has done. He does not see you as a friend, or a sister, he sees you as someone who he hopes to have sex with, and ... (read in full...)
How do I make my husband notice me
Q. My husband and I have been married for just over a year and together for 4 and I need help trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong. My husband spends all his spare time with his friends. He hangs out with them every single day. I hang out with my ...
A. 14 November 2016: Have you spoke to him about how you feel? Remember communication is the key to a good relationship. If you have spoke to him and he does not seem to change then stop mothering him. Stop doing his laundry, stop making him his dinner and doing his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is gaslighting me!
Q. Can anyone give me some advice on "gaslighting" please?its a technique used by narcissists etc to make people doubt their sanity!I'm having a lot of problems with my boyfriend of 2 years...the main problem is that hes not had sex with me for 6 ...
A. 14 November 2016: The relationship is just not working between the two off you any more. No intimacy for six months spells it is over to me. Maybe he feels you are the one to blame for how he feels. Whatever the case is finish with him and don't look back. You know ... (read in full...)
I really want this girl. How can I get her interested in me? What do I need to do?
Q. Alright there's the same girl from my last question and I've been chasing her for the past two months now. I asked her if she liked me the same way I liked her or not because I couldn't tell and not even her friends at school knew if she liked me...
A. 14 November 2016: It sounds like this girl is very popular with the guys. But you need to accept that you cannot make her interested in you. You are not her type. You and her are much to different for her to accept and you need to accept that as well. For me smoking ... (read in full...)
I'm really attracted to my friend, won't cheat on my partner so how do I handle the attraction?
Q. Hi, I have myself a very loving boyfriend, we are each others rock, and best friends, enjoy food, and home life, and hobbies together, we help each other to work through any stresses and fully support each other as much as possible in all we do. I...
A. 14 November 2016: Generally a relationship comes out off the honey moon period and life gets in the way. Both people become comfortable in home life and sex can sometimes take a hit. So concentrate on doing something about that. Make more time for intimacy. Try new ... (read in full...)
Crush of 7 years is ignoring my hints. Should I confess my feelings to him?
Q. I've liked a guy for 7 years but I don't know how he feels. We used to be classmates but now we live in different cities so we can't meet. We communicate via text. I have kinda dropped hints but I don't know if he knowingly ignores or just doesn't ...
A. 14 November 2016: What are you scared off? Rejection? Because I would rather be let down than go on another seven years hoping something will happen. I think you need to tell him for your own sanity and to help you move on.... (read in full...)
My relationship seems to be breaking down, and I think I'm having a quarter-life crisis over it
Q. Long story short, I feel like I am having a quarter-life crisis. I turned 23 this year and although I am in a good career already and finished university, I have become paranoid about EVERYTHING. From the way I look to the friendships/relationships ...
A. 14 November 2016: Your relationship is bringing you down. His little lies has made you paranoid and anxious. Trust is not there and I doubt it will ever come back. You need to take a step back and deal with these issues that you have. Trust your gut, if it says the ... (read in full...)
I want to tell my crush how I feel, but I'm afraid of losing his friendship. Do I speak up or let it go?
Q. so ive been friends with this guy for about 4 years now and we were kind of interested in each other at the start but i started dating his friend and since then we've both been in and out of relationships but we've become best friends. i guess i...
A. 14 November 2016: If you are both going to different uni's then my guess is that a relationship wouldn't work for you both if it is long distance. It is true that getting in to a relationship with a good friend can be risky and can end up a disaster.
My advice woul... (read in full...)
What does it mean if your bf stays up all night trying to convince you he isn't cheating?
Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend stays up with you all night after you accuse him of cheating on you, trying to convince you he ISN'T? Does it mean he really isn't cheating? Or does it mean he is doing his best to throw you off track because ...
A. 14 November 2016: Hmm I don't contact my other half all day when am at work. I am pretty sure that is legit enough. If it only takes an article on the internet to accuse him off cheating them maybe you don't trust him as much as you should? A relationship is ... (read in full...)
He says we won't work as couple but still contact me. Why?
Q. Hi. Would appreciate a bit of advice please. I was seeing a guy for a few weeks, it has all been very intense and fun. I struggle with insecurity, and it rose its head and he's run a mile. We have decided to stay friends, and when I hold ba...
A. 14 November 2016: I would hate to see you getting hurt here. Maybe you should take some time out and try and deal with your insecurities? There is something that is holding you back from trusting guys so maybe you should work on yourself for a while and build up your ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about whether this guy is gay or straight
Q. I'm very confused about this guy is he straight or gay. Before we started talking their were a couple of instances he'd stare at me once in a supermarket once or twice in my gym. We started talking through one of the social media platforms and what...
A. 14 November 2016: The only way off knowing for sure is to continue to get to know him, the more comfortable you get with each other then hopefully the more he will open up about who he is. Just don't expect anything, as friends could just be trying to set you up with ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 14 November 2016: I would just ignore it. My guess is that she was curious as to why you added her and that is why she wanted to chat. I think you should be honest with your partner. You say he is mad at her, but I don't understand why when it was you that send the ... (read in full...)
Girl Is Trying To Make Me Jealous But I'm Not Interested In Her
Q. Met this girl recently, she's hot but I'm not really interested in her that way because I like women who are intellectual. I thought she was a bit too friendly when we first met, laughing at all my jokes etc. I also keep noticing her trying to catch ...
A. 14 November 2016: Sounds like she is still quite immature and is trying to play games to get your attention. She appears to be quite younger than you and probably doesn't know how else to get your attention. If you are not interested then just ignore her behavior. If ... (read in full...)
I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 14 November 2016: Sweetie he is trying to control you. Don't let him. You need to talk to your parents about this and let them know what he is doing. Please talk to an adult as he is going to end up destroying you if you don't get help now. You need to learn to have ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I'll be there if she wants to be more than friends
Q. Hi all, I'll try to keep it as short as I can but, this might get quite lengthy. So, sorry about that. Let me preface this by telling you that my first serious relationship ended about a year and a half ago (it was my fault), though we still c...
A. 14 November 2016: If you just want to go for it and kiss her then do that, but be prepared in case she rejects you. She is not over her ex if she is still talking about him so much, and if she did not say she liked you back then it shows she may not be as interested ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I'll be there if she wants to be more than friends
Q. Hi all, I'll try to keep it as short as I can but, this might get quite lengthy. So, sorry about that. Let me preface this by telling you that my first serious relationship ended about a year and a half ago (it was my fault), though we still c...
A. 11 November 2016: No you are not going insane, it is hard when you fall for someone and they don't feel the same. She is being honest with you and telling you she is just not ready to be with anyone at the moment. It is a hard pill to swallow sure but at least she is ... (read in full...)
If you miss someone could it make you realize that you love them?
Q. Could missing someone make you realize that you love them, even if you might not have realized it before? The reason I ask is that my boyfriend is overseas and he's been gone for 4 weeks. He's back in 2. But for the very first time he told me ...
A. 11 November 2016: Yeah my guess is that now he is away he realizes how much he does love you and he misses you. He probably just wanted to reassure you that he is thinking about you. ... (read in full...)
How do I turn this FWB relationship into something more?
Q. I am in a friends with benefit with a girl I has known since I was 15. We are both now 25. We used to be just good friends but the sex started about 2 years ago. It is a bit of an unusual FWB relationship because she stated that in beginning that ...
A. 11 November 2016: Telling you that you are like a brother is not something you really want to hear to be honest. I don't think it is going to develop over time. I would sit by a friends bed if they where a good friend. It sounds like she does love you as a friend. ... (read in full...)
I fear I'll regret breaking up with him
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I'm worried I'll regret it. I love him a lot and I don't even know if this is the right choice or not. He's nice sometimes and used to make me happy all of the time for the first year, but now ...
A. 11 November 2016: What could you possibly love about him? Honey he is treating you like dirt. I do agree with him that you should tell your mother what happened with your uncle. Getting him sent to prison might stop him from hurting more young vulnerable girls.... (read in full...)
I still have hope of getting him back
Q. So I was dumped by my ex 4 weeks ago now. We were in a great relationship for a year and knew each other for 3 years before that. The last 3 weeks of our relationship wasn't good (my insecurity and trust issues) which I am getting help with. There ...
A. 11 November 2016: It is funny you realize now you need help with your issues because you have lost him. This is the case so many times where people want to change when it is to late.
Logically you need to meet up with him and tell him you are getting help for your... (read in full...)
Why does he never offer to pay for the hotel?
Q. I travel quite a lot and 3-4 times a year I fly through one country where I met a guy who I really like. Sometimes it's a lay over, sometimes it's a couple days stay. We always meet and it's usually just amazing. Sex is amazing and I really enj...
A. 10 November 2016: This guy has it all, sex on tap, a free hotel room, no commitments. He has it good. Why does he not offer? Simply because you pay for it so now he takes it for granted. It shows how much he values your time together really, because he would have ... (read in full...)
My heart belongs to another and I want out of my marriage but I won't be able to support myself/kids
Q. I am married and have been for 10 years. I have three beautiful children that I love more than anything. I stay home to care for them, as one of them is too young for school. Here is my dilemma. I am not in love with my husband. I haven't been for ...
A. 10 November 2016: I think because you have met this other man and you think the grass is greener that you will do anything to be with him and leave your husband. My guess is that if this other man was not involved you would make more off an effort in your marriage. ... (read in full...)
How do I turn this FWB relationship into something more?
Q. I am in a friends with benefit with a girl I has known since I was 15. We are both now 25. We used to be just good friends but the sex started about 2 years ago. It is a bit of an unusual FWB relationship because she stated that in beginning that ...
A. 8 November 2016: It seems to me she has issues from her bad relationship with her father that she has never dealt with. She may have shared them with you but I don't think she has accepted her past and dealt with it. She is not interested in a relationship. She ... (read in full...)
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