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writes:I have a problem, about 6 months ago I told a friend of mine that I had strong feelings for her, the response was that she wasn't ready to be in a relationship, after that we remained good friends (if not better friends). 2 weeks ago she got together with someone and every time I see them together it is ripping me apart. What should I do? Do I tell her that my feelings haven't changed or just let it ride and try to get over it? I did go on a date recently and had a great time but I never saw her again because she was nothing like my friend is. I need help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're right, thanks Eve.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (14 March 2007):
 I'm sure your friend was very flattered that you had feelings for her but she unfortunately didn't feel the same with you. I wouldn't tell her your feelings are still the same, I think she'll know that, she just doesn't feel compatible to you that way. It's hard when someone we really like goes off with someone else, it seem so unfair. Maybe if you distance yourself from her a little then she'll miss you and want you back in her life again. It might not even come to anything with this guy she's seeing so my advice to you would be to lie low for now, let her get on with it and in the meantime find another hobby or past time.
Do something you've always wanted to do. Find out what you really want from life and what you want to achieve. Time is a great healer and if you keep busy then I'm sure these feelings will pass. I always say if it's to be it will be, meanwhile move on and enjoy your life, after all we only get one shot at it so make every day count, don't just sit around and mope all the time, life is definitely too short.
Eve
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