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writes: i am 19 and I have been in a relationship for 4 months with a man who is 16 years my senior and i couldnt be happier! some of my family members know about us and are supportive. his family knows and is supportive for us too. i am worried on how to tell the rest of my family. they are very old fashioned and would not approve of this. i want to tell them in a way where they wont feel hurt or threatened but am unsure on how to do so. it is important to me that my whole family knows because i care about them and value their opinions. nothing they say will change my mind about us, but i think it is important that they are aware of how i feel. any suggestions on how i can tell them or what i should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2007): i am in the exact same situation. except the other day my parents found out, and made us break up. they think i am crazy and taking me to counciling. they thought all he wanted was in between the legs. not true. love is love. we will still continue to see each other, and no matter what happens with you and your situation, and whatever arrises from it. you should still be with whom u love and trust.
just prepare for the worst and hope for the best.
life will go on, i wish u the best.
we cant help who we fall in love with.
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reader, loveandlust  +, writes (12 March 2007):
 if your both happy thats all that matters and if your family really love and care about you they will respect your choice and see that this man is making you happy.when your in love ages really isnt an issue and your family will see that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): Age is only a number and it is up to you two who you go out with and not your family. Go for it and stop worrying. If you love each other then what else matters??? Enjoy life, it is too short.
Take care
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reader, AskEve +, writes (12 March 2007):
 Why don't you just let them meet him? As long as he's good to you and cares for you and they SEE that then that's the main thing regardless of how old he is. All your family want is for you to be happy and if they can SEE he makes you happy then I'm sure you'll have their backing 100 per cent.
I wish you all the best in your relationship together.
Eve
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reader, Bella55  +, writes (12 March 2007):
Okay, I am dating a divorced man, 12 years my senior, and he has two children, quite close to my age, and he was my boss when we first started dating. My family are roman catholics, we are spanish and I have 3 brothers. You can imagine how I was kucking myself to tell my parents and my brothers that I was inlove with my boss, who's alomost old enough to be my dad.
But when youre inlove, and you know you really want something, you find a way. I broke the news to my mom first, she was shocked but she could see how happy I was and it made her happy to see that glow in my eyes. Eventually I organised to introduce him to my brothers at one of their birthdays. Then once they accepted him, my dad was introduced to him, at a family braai. Their first reactions were all shocked and dissaproval, but when they saw how well we got on and how happy it makes me, they accepted him with open arms.
We have now been together for almost 2 years, he gets on really well with my family, and I am pregnant with his baby. We are hoping to get married in the next year and have more babies.
My family could have not asked for a better man for me. It has nothing to do with age, nor does it have to do with differences. If you love one another, and make each other truley happy, the world sees this, and believe me, thats all that your family want, is to see that you are happy and looked after.
I hope my experience inspires you to have confidence and courage because there is nothing to worry about. Your family will accept him because they love you and want to see you happy.
Goodluck!!
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