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*ailey J
writes:Hello. I’ve been broken up with my ex-boyfriend for 4 years now. He was my first love and to be completely honest I have never fallen out of love with him. We had a load of relationship problems from fighting, arguing etc. He cheated on me with someone I knew and I could never get over it. In the end we ended up breaking up. I was with him for a year and a half. Now I live with my present boyfriend who I love dearly, I’m happy and content with my life. But of late I keep dreaming about my ex, and thinking about him all the time. We didn’t end on good terms, well to be honest he hates me and he thinks I hate him. All I want is for these feeling to go away. Its been so long and I don’t know why I even think about him let alone waste my time writing about him. I just don’t understand why I feel the way I do about someone I was with so long ago. Please could you tell me how I stop these dreams and feelings and how I get on with my life without him in my head.
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (14 March 2007):
Bailey J is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thhank You all for your time in replying to my dilemma. I just need to stop thinking about him and move on. My current boyfriend is simler to my ex so that might be it. I dont know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): They are just dreams and shouldn't be taken any notice of. If you did end on a bad note then that could be playing with your mind. Don't let the past spoil what you have and your future together. Put your ex to the back of your mind and don't dwell on him. I met up with my ex years later, was it still the same, no, we both had changed and i didn't like the person that he became. Never ever go back. Put 100% into all you have now.
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reader, Bella55  +, writes (12 March 2007):
You say, that vyou left things quite harshly and that you hate each other?
It is clear that you need to face this situation with your ex and forgive each other in order to let go. Closure is needed. The dreams will stop and you will be able to completely let go of him.
You dont have to meet up with him for this to happen, but take the time out, and try to work out whre it went worng, and forgive him. I dont know why you would want to go on in life hating someone, thats a terrible baggage to carry.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (12 March 2007):
 To dream about your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend or ex-husband/wife suggests that something or someone in your current life that is bringing out similar feelings you felt during the relationship with your ex. The dream may be a way of alerting you to the same or similar behavior in a current relationship. What you learn from that previous relationship may need to be applied to the present one so that you do no repeat the same mistake. Alternatively, past lovers often highlight the positive experiences you had with that person.
In particular, to see your ex in your dream, indicates that you are finding yourself in a situation that you do not want to be in. It suggests that you are experiencing a similar relationship or situation which makes you feel unhappy and uncomfortable. Seeing your ex in your dream also signifies aspects of yourself that you have x'd out or neglected.
Once you feel happier in yourself and whatever this situation is that's bothering you disappears or gets "fixed", then these dreams will disappear.
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reader, lamo +, writes (12 March 2007):
 you broken up on bad trems and never got over him. if ya can try and see him just for coffee or something you might fine that your eyes are open and you find something that you dont like about him or he changed and you dont know who he is anymore. i had a same think. we never was boyfriend and girlfriend but there was something between us his girlfriend hated it anyway we got really really close ring up all the time and that but he moved to scottland and never got over him he was my frist love. well he been back about 2 3 years now. i saw him now and then and one nite we kissed all my feeling come back to the surface but that was it for ages then i saw him again but this time was different i started to noticed thing and i though what what did i see in him. i reliased that i never got over him coz he just left now i see him all the time and i think y. dont hide from your demons or they will find you. face up to them.
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