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writes:How do you know when your truely in love with someone? Ive thought ive been in love bout 4 times (alot for someone my age (20) i know) but then after the relationship has ended or something, ive realised it wasnt love. I think ive fallen in love with my boyfriend but how do i know if its the real thing this time? Reply to this Question
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reader, Keria +, writes (27 April 2007):
I recommend you read my answer about WHAT love is at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-your-definition-of-love.html, before you decide if you love this guy. If love is a feeling, then only you can know if you "love" him, and how infatuated you are with him. But love is much more than this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): your in love when you cant stop thinking about that person when you no u want to spend the rest of your life with them when you dont care what anybody else thinks about you just once they love you.when all the love songs start making sense when all you wana do is be with them when you laugh uncontrollably when your with them when you know deep down that this person is part of you and that you cant picture your life without them and when something awful happens having them by your side makes it even just a little bit more bearable and even just thinking about them makes you smile.xxxxx
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reader, AskEve +, writes (14 March 2007):
 If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small. They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
Real love stands the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
Eve
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (14 March 2007):
 I don’t know. All I know is that when I’m truly in love, i know I’m in love (no questions asked) Loves a funny thing, but above everything, when your in love you know it. It hits you like a ton of bricks. You find yourself feeling nothing else matters just you and him. He's your whole life and you love ever inch of him. I guess you have to look deeper, keep searching you’ll find your answer
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reader, mum2be +, writes (14 March 2007):
I know it is wuite negative, but think about what you would be like if you didn't have this guy anymore... would you stop washing and loose the will to live? Love is soemthing that you just know about when you get there... and there is no possible doubt in your mind, because your partner feels it too, and you can see it in eachothers eyes...
If you were in love, i don't think you would be writing this question, because you would already know...
all the best
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