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*ob123
writes:recently i think my girlfriend is going off me. she talks to other guys over the net a lot, and i know she is sending other guys messages. she flirts with them, i know for sure, as i have seen some of the messages she's sending. she has pretended in some of them to be single too, i know i shouldn't know this as i shouldnt be looking, but, i saw what i saw. also, she just doesnt seem too bothered about me any more, i always seem to be doing something wrong, and im not exactly a priority to her. we argue a lot, over petty things, and she always starts them, and seems so prepared to walk away from the relationship, does it sound like shes gonna end it?
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reader, AskEve +, writes (14 March 2007):
 Trust me, she's only with you just now until someone better (in her opinion) comes along. She's enjoying the attention from you meantime but she's doing her own thing regardless of your feelings. What are you afraid of? Be assertive! Stand up for yourself! Finish were her or at least give her an ultimatum. Let her know if she wants to continue talking with these guys then that's fine with you but she's on her own if she does! Then move on, it's not so hard, get some confidence and believe in yourself!
Don't settle for second best! You deserve someone who will love and treat you in the way you deserve. Close the door on this relationship and another door will open. As long as you're hanging on to her by the skin of your teeth you'll never meet someone else. Let her know you won't put up with it any more and if she doesn't put an end to it then YOU will put an end to the relationship!
Eve
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reader, bob123 +, writes (14 March 2007):
bob123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni think maybe im too afraid to let go?
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reader, AskEve +, writes (14 March 2007):
How can she possibly be your true love when she's doing the things she's doing? If she was your true love she'd be putting you first, loving and caring for you, YOU would be the most important person in her life! She is treating you like a piece of dirt on her shoe! How can you stand or even WANT to put up for this? How can you possibly say she is your true love????
Eve
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reader, bob123 +, writes (14 March 2007):
bob123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all :) see thats the trouble, its hard when you're in the situation yourself, because like, i think she is my true love, when we're together she's amazing, it's just when we're apart that shes not
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): I agree - tell her how you feel and dont back down at any cost. Suggest that you take a break at the very least and go and find your own space. If she really wants you, then space is what she might need to realise that. Personally, I would go and find your perfect girl. Life is short and you only live once. Dont settle for the next best thing. In a few months time, you'll be so much happier! Dont ever let a partner treat you like a second class citizen. Go for what you deserve. Be happy and do it for yourself! good luck!
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (14 March 2007):
 It dosn`t sound like she`s worth hanging onto. Let her go (a firm push out of the door normally works), so she can latch onto her next victim. There`s someone NICE out there for you, so get looking & good luck! Kind Regards, Heather.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (14 March 2007):
YOU should end it with her! Don't sit there and be used like a doormat. Have some pride in yourslef and kick her to the kerb and find someone who will love and respect you more.
Eve
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