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writes:Hi I need some help! I have been going with my boyfriend for 3 months and i am madly in love with him and he says that he loves me! Last night he sent me a txt message saying that he wants to slow our relationship down because he thinks that it is going too fast too soon. He was going with someone before me for 5 years and he spilt up with her a month before we broke up! But last thursday night when we were out in the bar that within six months we would be living togther! I don't know what to do, say or think! I want to be with him so much! And i asked him last night if he wanted to be with me and he said yes! He said that he doesn't want to see me as much as we have been! We would see each other on a monday, wendesday sometimes on a thurday or a friday and saturday and maybe the odd sunday! Plese can someone help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2007): If i was you i would take some time out and re-evaluate the situation. You be the one playing it cool.
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reader, siane  +, writes (14 March 2007):
well the answer to your question is to step back a bit let him call the shots for a while it wont hurt to back off a bit or he might call you clingy and guys hate clingy girls. Also this way when you do see him the time you spend together will be special and more enjoyable.I hope this helps answer your question best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am more confused now than i was! So i could be a rebound! SO am i using him a rebound because i spilt up with my ex boyfriend one month before i started this relationship
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (14 March 2007):
 I can understand how you must be feeling but dont push things,he may just need a bit of time to him self flower.
Dont forget he was with his ex for a long time and then more or less went straight out with you.
He must like you otherwise he would have just ended it, and he didnt so give him his dues and see how it goes.
It will work out,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): Because he's been in a previous relationship for 5 years, he probably is a little scared of how fact your relationship is. He's probably not ready. If you take it slow and see how it goes you may find you had nothing to worry about. Rushing in to a relationship is never a great idea anyway, so i think he sound really genuine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): He is probably as confused as you. He was in a long term relationship for 5 years. You met each other so quickly after his relationship split up. You could be looked upon as a rebound. Now after this time he is saying 'Whooa", that is so understandable, please just give him a bit of space and let him sort his head out. Also you must need time to get your head together too. Don't push things and i bet it will all turn out ok in the end.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for you advice i will be there for him cause i want this reltionship to work and i will talk to him if he needs me
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reader, AskEve +, writes (14 March 2007):
 He was in a relationship for 5 years, that's a long time. I think he's beginning to have deep feelings for you now and is scared in case it doesn't work out so he wants to slow things down a bit. Don't worry about this though, it's only natural for him to feel this way. Be supportive and don't be too much in his face. Agree to go at HIS pace, remain friendly and continue to get to know one another. Laugh and have fun together and don't get too emotional and needy with him at this stage, it's still too soon.
If he sees that life with you is fun and makes him happy WITHOUT THE PRESSURE then he'll be fine. Men are like rubber bands. The get so close to someone then get frightened so they stretch back from you. A rubber band only stretches so far though and once he stretches back so much then, if there's no pressure, he'll come back better than ever. Give him his space! Support him if he wants to cool it a little and you'll see he'll be absolutely fine.
Eve
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reader, star* +, writes (14 March 2007):
if youre confused about his motives then talk to him about it, theres no point in thinking the worst. ask him why he wants to slow things down and what he means by that e.g. does he want to go on a break..or just keep things the way they are for a while...if you ask him, itll soon sort itself out...it looks as if hes confident enough to be honest with you via telling you he want to take things slow, and you say he said he still wants to be with you so take his word for it. and DONT worry
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reader, nancey +, writes (14 March 2007):
hay glad im not the only one im 17 and thats what mines like we've been together 2 years and he says we see to much of each other, it kills dnt it. but if you ask me i think u should turn round and dont acts surprised of something just walk away and then he will be worried and be begging you to go back with him.x
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