I have a noticeable mustache, I wear glasses, I'm overweight, and I've been told I look like a man and that I'm ugly. Please help!
Q. Hi well I’m 14 going on 15 and I’m very insecure I’ve always been overweight but not that much overweight. I’m 165 pounds I gained 30+ pounds in a year. I’ve been trying to lose but no success. I’m also very much unattractive. I feel very much use...
A. 27 February 2011: Actually, I have an idea you might not have thought about. If you're having a noticeable mustache, and you've suddenly started gaining weight (and you're not eating nasty high-fat, high-grease, sugar-binge food), you might want to ask your mom to ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend in jail keeps writing to me saying he's changed.
Q. Hi i have another question after my ex boyfriend doing all that messed up shit to me and now being in jail i havent talked to him or wrote to him but he has been writing me for months already telling me hes sorry and that he changed and he wants me ...
A. 26 February 2011: Well, my cousin went through what sounds like the same thing as you're going through. They were in a relationship and had a very young son together. He also, lied, cheated, and abused her as well. Then he got sent to prison for 2 years. In the ... (read in full...)
I'm not opposed to a threesome but I feel the girl and my man might become a little too interested in each other...
Q. My wonderful boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years. He is very good looking, in beautiful shape, great eyes, and not to mention well endowed.. So, one night this past summer, we almost had a threesome with a girl he met first, but I ...
A. 25 February 2011: Wait a second. I think there's something missing from this story. Either way, you're living a very dangerous and risky lifestyle from the way this sounds like. Random naked hot tub sessions, this girl just having casual sex with guy friend. She ... (read in full...)
I love him. but am I missing out on my teenage years?
Q. Hey guys. I'm 16, almost 17, and currently in a 6 month relationship with my boyfriend who I absolutley love to pieces. He is the best, he does everything for me and is always there for me. I can be my total self around him all the time. We do ...
A. 24 February 2011: Hmmm...this sounds like a case of insecurity on his part. You can reassure him that in going out with your buddies that those other guys aren't half as incredible as he is. Tell him that your there to enjoy time with your friends, not flirt with ... (read in full...)
I have just had a miscarriage and he told me he cant deal with this right now, and wants a break! Should I fight for him?
Q. I've been with the same guy on and off for two and a half years. Its' a long distance relationship, we live at opposite ends of the country, but we see each other as often as we can. I recently (in the last week) had a miscarraige we didnt know I ...
A. 24 February 2011: First of all, I'm really sorry about your miscarriage. I know that you must be going through a lot, and I'm truly sorry for your loss.
You do not want to fight for him.
You may not understand why I can come to this conclusion, but when you loo... (read in full...)
I'm severely depressed about my weight gain and not feeling attractive to my man
Q. Ok i have a few things to get off my chest and need solid help!!I've been with my man for about 9 months now we are very much in love but recently i have put on a few pounds and I'm starting to feel as if he is less attracted to me we have went from ...
A. 23 February 2011: Drop him!!!! You say you've only been with him for 9 months and he makes you feel like this? He is obviously not for you. No man should have the power to completely depress you and throw you into anxiety. And your children are resiliant - nine ... (read in full...)
I'm at a loss and stuck between my boyfriend and my future!
Q. I am 25 have been with my 28 year old boyfriend for a total of 6 years, (we dated for 3 years, broke up for a year, and have now been back together for almost 3 years). Most of the relationship has been long distance, as I was going to school in a ...
A. 23 February 2011: This is a big, big, big, choice. Regardless of how any one of us advises or throws our two cents in, this is a life-changing issue that only you can make.
Here's what I see. You've had him in your life for a total of 7 years. That should b... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a bad kisser?
Q. is there such thing as bad kissers? i have never kissed anyone and im really scared and nervous. i have been seeing this and he always trie to kiss me but i refuse. im scared im a bad kisser, i dont want to tell him i've never kissed anyone. any ...
A. 23 February 2011: Yes, there is such a thing as a bad kisser, but not knowing technique isn't usually the top indicator. If he's good and you follow his lead, you'll do excellent.
Also, you might want to think about telling him. It's definitely not a bad thing, a... (read in full...)
If he makes a move on me, how do I stay faithful to my boyfriend?
Q. a year ago, me and this boy i liked kissed, but we didnt go out, and stopped talking after a while. now i have a really lovely boyfriend, but this boy has come back into my life again. he's got a reputation as a bit of a tool, and he's really ...
A. 23 February 2011: Why does this guy have a rep for being a tool?
If you don't want to be a cheater, then it's simple. Don't get alone with this guy, and if he makes a move, shoot him down. Stay away from alcohol and dark corners with him.
Also, to pre-... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my ex's best friend
Q. I was dating a girl and lets say her name is....Brittney. anyways we never talked. well after having a falling out we decided to end things but me and her best friend keep staring at each other in class and we do talk ,but I dont want to mess up ...
A. 22 February 2011: The only way that dating your ex's best friend won't put a huge strain on your ex's relationship with her BF is is she asks her friend if it's okay with her if she goes out with you. If there is still messiness and unsaid things from your ... (read in full...)
Why did my wife get upset when I saw a topless sunbather on a beach?
Q. This may be a funny question to ask but my wife got so mad on a trip we took to Mexico when we saw a woman laying out topless. Why is that? I am not the guy who makes comments about other women or takes long stares at them; I have always been very ...
A. 22 February 2011: Yeah, your wife is nearing middle age and is self-conscious that her body doesn't look like a "barely legal" body anymore. I know that it's impossible not to look, but there's that split second between noticing and ogling, and she saw the intent ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating because he doesn't want sex?
Q. Hey, I really want my boyfriend to have relaxed sex but hes always too serious! He goes for about 2 minutes and then says stop being childish, I have to get rest. I'm thinking of breaking up with him because hes been not wanting to have sex, ...
A. 22 February 2011: Hmm, I'm going to assume that your boyfriend is the same age as you? Does he go to high school? Does he have a job after high school? I know I did in high school, and I worked until 11pm often in order to pay gas and insurance on my first car.
... (read in full...)
Am I separating love and sex? Or just being slutty?
Q. Hi there! Been with my boy for a long time: he'll soon move in with me and we'll get married in a few years. Love him with all my heart and I feel my future is with him. Still, I've recently started an affair with a super seductive and sexy man...
A. 22 February 2011: How would you feel if it were your BF going behind your back and having an ongoing sex life with someone else while leading you on as being his true love? You wouldn't like it one bit, and you wouldn't buy his excuse that she (or they) had nothing ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Where IS the G-spot???
Q. Hi I'm just wandering if it's possible for a womans g spot to be literally JUST inside the entrance to the vagina. When I have read about it before it's always described as being 3 to 4 inches in. The only part of my vagina that feels different and ...
A. 21 February 2011: Yeah, that's about it. It's not 3-4 inches in, but in many women, it's about 1-2 inches in and feels spongy. Not all women are stimulated by it, so it might take some experimentation.
However, what's universally known is that the clitoris... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and confused I might be gay. Help!
Q. I'm 13 and I have a girlfriend but I can be around her but not get an erection but I do feel emotions for her. If I watch something gay or to do with a penis, I get an erection quickly but i dont feel any emotions for any male. I hope I am straight ...
A. 20 February 2011: You're 13-15. You're just starting to awaken to adult feelings about sexuality. The proverbial sap is starting to rise, and before you get all worried about what label to use for yourself, just explore what you feel physically and emotionally. 5 ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned he may want a no strings relationship...
Q. Since the beginning of the year, I had been seeing this guy, whom I used to date a few years back. We met up for drinks, and we both felt an instant spark and a desire to get together again. However, he had just broken up with his ex, and said he ...
A. 20 February 2011: You're right, he is wanting a FWB thing with you. "Taking things slowly" should include taking physical stuff slowly as well. However, when he wants to take things slowly, yet speed headlong into a sexual thing with you after only a few dates, ... (read in full...)
Is it good to stop masterbating?
Q. i used to watch porn to make myself feel a bit better but now i have stopped because it always made me feel guilty, also i feel it ruins sex experience. is it good for me to stop masterbating? ...
A. 19 February 2011: I think these are two different issues here, so I'll answer each issue.
Masturbation in itself is healthy as long as it doesn't interfere with your ability to enjoy sex, and doesn't become obsessive (i.e. 10 times per day until your penis is raw).... (read in full...)
He's sweet but tells me possibly fake stories. Should I be trusting him?
Q. Okay.. This question has more to do with trust than the issue at hand.. My partner of several years told me when we met he had a long term girlfriend of a year before meeting me with whom he'd broken up a few years before meeting me.. This expanded ...
A. 5 February 2011: Of course you're not sure. He's lying! Remember, many people who are caught in a lie will try and throw you off the trail by coming clean with part of the truth. They'll reveal just enough truth so that you'll be thrown off of trying to find out ... (read in full...)
He's sweet but tells me possibly fake stories. Should I be trusting him?
Q. Okay.. This question has more to do with trust than the issue at hand.. My partner of several years told me when we met he had a long term girlfriend of a year before meeting me with whom he'd broken up a few years before meeting me.. This expanded ...
A. 5 February 2011: Never ever ever discount or try to self-explain the feeling that you have that he's lying to you. There are too many things that either don't add up, or the story has blatantly changed. Stay on guard big time, and do your research on him.
So wh... (read in full...)
Does he regret cheating on me?
Q. Its been two years now since I broke up with my ex of five years and although I caught him cheating on me, and I ended things, and have not spoken to him since. He was my best friend. I am wondering if he ever regrets what he did? Or if he ever ...
A. 3 February 2011: If you two were best friends, then I'm sure he does. However, Shania's right. Two years, and not a single noise asking for forgiveness.
You, however, have to redirect your ego from wondering what was so wrong with you that he cheated on you. It... (read in full...)
I really like him, but I'm helping a friend to date him!
Q. I really am in like with this guy at work. He has so much in common with me in so many ways, I feel like we are perfect for each other. And I know he can see it... I can see it when he asks me certain questions, because he's trying to figure me ...
A. 3 February 2011: Boy, this is a difficult position. The others have given you great advice. However, I have a couple thoughts that might take this in a different direction.
This whole thing is happening at work between co-workers. This drama can put your job... (read in full...)
I know he is never going to leave his wife for me, so how do I go cold turkey when I have to see him everyday?
Q. Hello I am a 33 year old lady who has got myself into a bit of a mess. I started seeing a co-worker in December 2009. He and I are both married, unhappy, but both staying for childrens/financial sake. He only married in January 2010. He didn...
A. 3 February 2011: CaringGuy is right on the money, and Vintage makes great points too.
Based on what you said, here's what I objectively see.
This kid is 3 years old, yet the guy wanted to marry the woman last year, when the child was 2. I'm guessing that th... (read in full...)
The pros and cons of staying with a temperamental girl?
Q. Ive been dating this girl for about 7 months now, and she always makes me pissed off. She's unconsciously selfish about herself as in she think's her ideas are the best and thinks my advice is bs when i'm older and more experienced. We've been ...
A. 3 February 2011: I don't know if someone could just lay out a blanket "pros and cons" list, because each individual person is different.
I can only tell you what a good friend of mine said once about a relationship she was in. She decided that when the bad time... (read in full...)
If I didn't really like oral, how am I going to like intercourse?
Q. dear cupid, soo, this might seem like a really weird question, but it's something that really bugs me and that i actually catch myself thinking about quite a bit. i've received oral sex from two other guys...and to be completely honest, i wasn't...
A. 2 February 2011: You might not have enjoyed oral because they either weren't doing it right, or you were too tense, or it felt weird.
Actual intercourse is a bit different, but it is a technique that gets better with multiple times.
You don't have to answer t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not kiss me!
Q. hey, i need help! my boyfriend and i are still in our hugging phase but i want to kiss him. im scared if he doesnt want to, and i dont want to make the first move! help! :|...
A. 1 February 2011: If he is the same age as you, he's not maturing as fast as you are. He's just awakening to these feelings he has with girls, and he's insecure and nervous about the physicality of it all.
Give him time and lots of love. Let him get used to his n... (read in full...)
My husband is sucking me dry... emotionally. Need advice!
Q. I don't even know why I am posting this here or how to phrase this so that I don't seem like the bad guy...but I am. And I know it. And yes, feel free to tell me so. I tried to tell my hubby that if he posted here with this problem you would all ...
A. 1 February 2011: Let me ask you this:
Why did you two marry? What was it that pushed both of you to consider each other as better than the casual hookups you're both having now? What needs aren't being met by exclusive physical and emotional intimacy with eac... (read in full...)
He already has a child and doesn't seem to want another, but he is the love of my life...What should I do?
Q. i am 30 years old and have never been married and never had a child, my boyfriend whom i love more than anything, has been married and has a child with his ex wife. i know in my heart that i want to get married and have a child someday. on the very ...
A. 31 January 2011: There's really only one thing you can do. Either stay with him and give up the idea of having a kid, or leave him and find someone else who also wants children.
But never dismiss his desire not to have a kid. You won't be able to change him or p... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got mad that we weren't friends on Facebook?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have now(today) been together for 10 months. (BTW hes in a different state right now and has been for 2 months now but we're working it out till he comes back)Today out of all days he decides to get another one of his ...
A. 31 January 2011: I'm guessing your boyfriend is around the same age you are, right? He sounds terribly insecure about himself, and he's completely insecure about you liking him. This Facebook thing as well as his attitude on the phone with you is a total symptom ... (read in full...)
While my boyfriend performs oral on me, he masturbates?
Q. OK so the other day my boyfriend was going down on me and I noticed that he was masturbating while he was doing it!! This made me feel like crap because it's like, is going down on me SO boring and unsexy that you need to touch yourself to make...
A. 31 January 2011: Ohhh noooo! On the contrary! Dirtball is right on the money!!!
Your boyfriend was going down on you and the idea of doing it absolutely drove him so wild that he couldn't help but touch himself! Everything about you and his going down on you d... (read in full...)
He comments that I smell great. Does he want to date me?
Q. There is this guy at my gym who will on occasion tease me about my workouts. He will make comments about the machines I am on and the weight I am lifting. Then one day I am getting a protein shake and he walks up to me and say's god you smell ...
A. 30 January 2011: He's interested! It's funny - guys never outgrow showing interest by teasing. If you're interested back, show him. :)... (read in full...)
Is it important that I move on first after our breakup?
Q. So, I'm in a bit of a situation right now, my ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago, and he's been really flirty with one girl lately.. She's known for being a complete slut, so I wouldn't be surprised if something happened. I talked to him about it, ...
A. 30 January 2011: DO NOT HOOK UP!!! Just because he manwhores around doesn't mean that you have to. He is right. You both did break up. It's not wrong for him to go find some slut to validate his wounded ego, but it is stupid and immature. Why on earth do you ... (read in full...)
I'm not feeling validated in this relationship and she can't fully commit!
Q. Alright, this is going to be slightly long, but bear with me for a moment. I started dating this girl when I was 19. I've always had a lot of trust issues, so opening up to people wasn't something I was good at. For about 6 months things were goin...
A. 30 January 2011: Quite frankly, I see issues on both sides.
Wow, both of you are totally feeding off of this dysfunction. You make her break down your walls, work to earn your trust from the start, you didn't open up and were distant. She was clingy and atte... (read in full...)
I'm almost 20 and totally inexperienced in life?
Q. I'm a guy and in my first year of university. I've never even been on a date and i've only kissed one girl in my whole life and that was when i was drunk and in a club. Is that a turn off?? If a girl liked me now then i wouldn't know what to do ...
A. 29 January 2011: I met my husband when he was 19 and I was 18. We were friends for a long time before we started dating. When I met him, he had never kissed or dated a girl. It didn't bother me, and on the contrary, I was nervous because I had experience that he ... (read in full...)
Which states perform legal lesbian marriages? And is the marriage upheld if we re-locate?
Q. Does anyone know what states perform lesbian marriages, and if the marriage is still considered legal, if the married lesbian couple relocates to a state that doesn't uphold lesbian marriage? My girlfriend proposed to me yesterday, just ...
A. 29 January 2011: Hey! First, congratulations on your engagement! That's fantastic! I wish you both a wonderful life together!
As of today, you can legally get married in six states, and they are:
Massachusetts
Iowa
Connecticut
Vermont
Maine
New Hamps... (read in full...)
Help!!!! Never kissed properly, does it come naturally?
Q. Ok, the question is simple enough and i'm really nervous about it. Does kissing like (getting off) come naturally? i get put off going out with boys because of this. i'm really self-conscious my first kiss will go wrong or something. But l...
A. 29 January 2011: Kissing doesn't just come naturally actually. It is a skill that must be studied and practiced in order to get really good. Instead of dreading the practice of it, pretend it's like your great hobby that you want to be really good at! Look up on ... (read in full...)
I messed around with two women...now I want the second one who loved me but I ended up hurting...
Q. Before anyone starts throwing rocks at me pls hold off and hear me out. I fell in love with 2 different women (woman A and woman B). I fell in love with woman A first and boy did I fall hard. The complication was she wanted an open relations...
A. 29 January 2011: Okay, I read your post twice, and I think I understand what happened. Woman A completely hurt you by opening the relationship. In order to salve your heart, you quickly found Woman B. That was your first mistake. You hadn't broken it off with ... (read in full...)
She says she's hung up on the age difference
Q. Hey guys. I'm having some issues I guess you can say. I've fallen in love with my friend. But as the scenario is. She told me she loves me and would go out with me but she says there is an age difference and it would be weird. I know this for a fact ...
A. 28 January 2011: Well, if you were both in your twenties, 3 years is nothing. However, if you're 13, then she's 16. If you're 15, then she's 18? If she turned 18 and you're 15, there are some serious legal problems with her dating you. If you were to have sex, ... (read in full...)
How to tell if he likes me or is just looking for a booty call?
Q. Ok i met this guy from the internet and weve been talking for awhile but he tells me that he doesnt want to rush into a relationship, because all his other relationships never worked out. Well we use to text each other everyday and now he wont even ...
A. 28 January 2011: He's busy all weekend. The substance of his conversation is that he's "lonely and horny", and his answers are short.
He wanted to use you for sex and possibly already has a girlfriend.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my online friend my real name? And was it wrong of me to lie about my name?
Q. I started exchanging messages with someone I 'met' on a internet forum. Completely against my expectations, we still 'talk' about a lot after 3 weeks. The problem is that I didn't tell him my real name and he did give me his. (first names only, ...
A. 27 January 2011: While I don't usually condone lying, I think if you explained to him exactly what you explained to us, I think he'll understand, as the internet truly requires caution when it comes to online relationships.
But in the future, instead of lying, y... (read in full...)
Boyfriend told me if I don't stop calling so much he will dump me!
Q. Dear Cupid I kind of panicked today since my bf of an year was heavily flirting with an other girl in IM. I snooped around his computer ( i know i shouldnt have done), and found out this and panicked and tried to call him 4-5 times within 4 h...
A. 26 January 2011: You feel for him much more than he does for you. If he was truly into you, he wouldn't be flirting with other women using IM or any other method.
While it's always good not to be clingy with someone i.e. calling several times a day, texting ... (read in full...)
How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?
Q. I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...
A. 25 January 2011: Oh yeah. "Felt like peeing". She had an orgasm. :)
Way to go!... (read in full...)
How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?
Q. I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...
A. 24 January 2011: Birdman, I didn't say it was a "favorable" timeline, as any timeline before you have to break up in the end is bittersweet. However, 8 months ia a good chunk of time, and as they say, the bitterness of the impending breakup makes the time you have ... (read in full...)
How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?
Q. I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...
A. 24 January 2011: Illithid brought up the "feeling" of a clit having an orgasm. The clit itself does not spasm like a penis does. It's the muscles in the vagina and anus that pulses when it happens. What happens to the clit under your tongue is that it will ... (read in full...)
How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?
Q. I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...
A. 24 January 2011: Hmm...you are (or were...I wasn't clear) both virgins. That makes much more sense now.
Then it's very possible that she's either faking it, or more likely, she's enjoying what you're doing to her and doesn't realize that it could get much bet... (read in full...)
How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?
Q. I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...
A. 24 January 2011: Flushing is a good sign of orgasm. Breathing and oversensitivity is another good sign. Not many women squirt when they orgasm, so I wouldn't rely on that as the definitive sign.
How do you have a hard time finding and handling her clit? Do you ... (read in full...)
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