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writes:a year ago, me and this boy i liked kissed, but we didnt go out, and stopped talking after a while. now i have a really lovely boyfriend, but this boy has come back into my life again. he's got a reputation as a bit of a tool, and he's really popular and in the year above. i dont want to be a cheater, and i dont want to get involved with him, but what if he makes a move on me and how do i stay faithful to my boyfriend? we go to the same parties and get a little drunk...
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 Smart girl you are OP. Alcohol is NO excuse, that goes for everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf my boyfriend kissed a girl while drunk and he blamed it on the alcohol i would think its utter bull so its the same thing the other way around!
I think its because he's popular, and i used to be unpopular at school before getting my rep up a bit, and now I'm just amazed someone like him likes me. It's all okay now. I avoided him at parties until he asked me whether i would consider him, and I said no, and now he has got a girlfriend. so it's all good, thanks for your help! :)
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reader, TeaLady +, writes (23 February 2011):
 Don't get drunk with him or flirt with him or hang out with him or talk to him or be within 10 feet of him. Obviously you want him to make a move on you and you are enjoying thinking of it and don't want to take my advice. So, do what you want to but if you cheat then blame the alcohol that is total crap and everyone knows it.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 February 2011):
How has he come back in your life? Are you two friends? Did he tell you he wants to get with you?
You say you don't want to get involved but you're pondering the what if..I get the image that you still like this guy now that he's resurfaced. Are you questioning your relationship?
The obvious answer would be to avoid parties he will be at and drinking all together so you won't be tempted. Easier said than done at that age.
You could take your boyfriend with you to these parties. Perhaps ask some of your girl friends to go and keep an eye on you to make sure you don't do anything you will regret. However, how reliable will your girlfriends be when they turn their head to flirt and in a blink of an eye you're drug upstairs by your former crush? Not the least bit. Your best option would be to go with your boyfriend or to skip the parties all together.
P.S. Remember even if you're drunk you're still held accountable for your actions.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (23 February 2011):
"we go to the same parties and get a little drunk"
If you think such situation will make you less of a cheater, you are very wrong. Being with a person you are attracted to and drunk is no excuse for cheating. Anyway, if you think you are that weak that you couldn't help but cheat on your boyfriend if you get alone with this guy, just avoid him.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 February 2011):
 Why does this guy have a rep for being a tool?
If you don't want to be a cheater, then it's simple. Don't get alone with this guy, and if he makes a move, shoot him down. Stay away from alcohol and dark corners with him.
Also, to pre-empt this guy from making a move, talk a lot about your boyfriend when he sees you. That tends to splash cold water on the plans.
However, I'm guessing you're still interested in the guy. You have a choice to make, but it's not right to hedge with your boyfriend and cheat with this guy in the event that he'll get all "tooly" on you. Leave your current guy, or stay with him and put thoughts of this new one out of your mind.
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