I have no feelings or sex drive for my 330 lb. husband!
Q. Iam so imbarrased to write about this! But iam so tired of this I really need some advise! I have a husband that weighs 330pounds. I weigh 140pounds. Our sex sucks really really bad because of his weight. I keep on asking him to loose weight in ...
A. 8 December 2010: If the shoe was on the other foot, and it was a guy coming in here talking about how disgusting his overweight wife is now and how he is now attracted to thinner women, the advise usually is to help her through it and love and support her.
First... (read in full...)
My husband likes for me to sleep with other men, I feel like I'm cheating!
Q. Hey, My husband likes me to sleep with other men. It turns him on and is his greatest fantasy. At first I thought it was really strange but I found I actually really enjoy it too. Only thing is that I generally meet these guys out in pubs and club...
A. 8 December 2010: I might be in the minority, but in past questions about this subject (open marriage or man that likes when his wife sleeps with someone else).
The very terminology "Cheating" implies someone who covertly breaks the rules. In a marriage, the over... (read in full...)
My husband likes for me to sleep with other men, I feel like I'm cheating!
Q. Hey, My husband likes me to sleep with other men. It turns him on and is his greatest fantasy. At first I thought it was really strange but I found I actually really enjoy it too. Only thing is that I generally meet these guys out in pubs and club...
A. 8 December 2010: I might be in the minority, but in past questions about this subject (open marriage or man that likes when his wife sleeps with someone else).
The very terminology "Cheating" implies someone who covertly breaks the rules. In a marriage, the over... (read in full...)
My guy gets charley horses during sex?
Q. Why does my fiance get those charly horse leg cramps during Sex, it kills the whole mood and how could he stop getting those cramps..specially during Sex??...
A. 8 December 2010: I used to get charley horses, especially in the morning when I've stretched. It literally feels like you're tearing your calf muscle in half, and the pain is excruciating. I went to my doctor about it, and he said that it was all about dehydration ... (read in full...)
Sex makes me nervous, how can I stop this?
Q. I am extremely good at going down on my girlfriend, but she's getting tired of it and wants me to actually have sex with her now. Theres one problem though: I have not had a lot of sex in my life, and when it comes down to do the damn thing, I get ...
A. 7 December 2010: Like I would tell a woman, if you're not ready, do not feel pressured into having sex!
However, if you do want to, but are too nervous, remember that sex isn't a performance to her. It's an expression of love, and if you are kind, caring, ... (read in full...)
I'lll never be able to accept he's with other women!
Q. Right, this is the first time I've ever done this so bear with me. I was with my ex for over 2 and a half years. When it was good, it was amazing and when it was bad, it was absolutely awful. I have a lot of insecurities and trust issues (w...
A. 6 December 2010: You may need to talk to someone professional because this sounds like it may be edging into full-blown obsession.
Starting with your childhood, you were bullied really badly. I'm really sorry you had to go through that. But actually, that exp... (read in full...)
Are there any herbs, or tablets I can buy that help with premature ejaculation?
Q. I've suffered from premature ejaculation for years now and I finally plucked up the courage to go to the doctors about it. They prescribed me 30 Paroxetine (20mg) tables which is a form of antidepressant. I had one each day and literally after ...
A. 6 December 2010: Hey - instead of going to the doctor, you could make a quick call and request a refill over the phone. That'll save you time and get you the good stuff today!... (read in full...)
He called me a prostitute! I'm his mistress!
Q. I'm having an affair with a married man. Well today his wife caught us in a hotel and called me a prostitute? Then she started fighting my man and in the midst he told her I didn't mean nothhing to him but a prostitute! Wtf?! I'm a mistress! Will ...
A. 6 December 2010: First of all, he's not YOUR man. He's HER man. And this guy just showed you what his character is. He cares nothing for you and views you with zero respect. You *are* a prostitute to him.
In most people's eyes, a mistress is not a better m... (read in full...)
My guy gets charley horses during sex?
Q. Why does my fiance get those charly horse leg cramps during Sex, it kills the whole mood and how could he stop getting those cramps..specially during Sex??...
A. 6 December 2010: Well, since I am not a doctor, I can't answer that one definitively. However, most true charley horses are brought about by dehydration and/or a lack of nutrients.
Tell your fiance to drink a lot more water and take a daily multivitamin. If that... (read in full...)
Can my boyfriend's laziness be cured?
Q. I'm just going to jump into this because I hate long intros. My boyfriend of 2 years constantly forgets to pick up after himself. He leaves clothes all over the floor, trash everywhere, always forgets to do the few chores I've put him in charge of, ...
A. 6 December 2010: Okay, first, I can guess that he's been this way his whole life. His parents were either the same way, or he is used to other people making his bed and cleaning up after him.
You're already realizing that nagging doesn't work, as he's tuning y... (read in full...)
He cheated and denied it... I'm stuck and want to get a divorce!
Q. im 36 with three kids under 10. ive been married for 11 years. my husband about a year and a half ago signed up on ashley madison .com. i found his profile three days after he signed up. at that time i also found out that he was talking to his ...
A. 6 December 2010: Oh YEAH, AuntyEm, right on! Your story is fantastic!... (read in full...)
Is it true men get more out of casual sex than women?
Q. Is casual sex empty and meaningless or is that just something prudes say? Is it true that men get more out of casual sex than women do? Like, are men more able to enjoy something purely physical than a woman can? I've had plenty of sex in my ...
A. 5 December 2010: I don't know if it's that men get more out of it. It's that some need less from it, at least they think they do. Most women seek the whole experience from sex in the context of being in love and being loved. Sex for us is a connection of the soul ... (read in full...)
How effective is the pull out method?
Q. How effective is the pull out method? We have sex without contreception and we have been using this method for over a year now. And I still have not got pregnant. But how much of a chance could there be that I could get pregnant?...
A. 5 December 2010: Actually, I sort of disagree. According to Planned Parenthood, the pull out method is 96% effective if done correctly.
However, their same statistic shows that if it's NOT done correctly, then you have a 27% chance of getting pregnant. Yuck.
... (read in full...)
He cheated and denied it... I'm stuck and want to get a divorce!
Q. im 36 with three kids under 10. ive been married for 11 years. my husband about a year and a half ago signed up on ashley madison .com. i found his profile three days after he signed up. at that time i also found out that he was talking to his ...
A. 5 December 2010: Here's the way you get through it. There will be time to be angry or mourn what is lost. Now is the time to coldly plan your divorce and more importantly, your future after divorce.
Make your financial decisions regarding child care, your job... (read in full...)
Married professor wants to have sex with me!
Q. Ok I have a problem that i am unsure about. I am 21 and have a fiance and a 11month old. I am in college and 1 of my proffesors wants to have sex with me. He has made it clear and hes 32 married with children as well. He wants to meet me after ...
A. 5 December 2010: Basically, one night of passion will cost you far too much, even if you don't get caught. This guy does not love you. He wants to use you for sexual relief. Both of you are taken - you with a fiance and he who is married.
Think of the kids... (read in full...)
My girlfriend loves and is attracted to me, but she's not sexually attracted to me!
Q. My Girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We were both virgins when we met and were planning on getting married before we had sex but things turned out differently. After around 1.7 years of dating we had sex and have been having sex often ...
A. 4 December 2010: This has everything to do with age. If she is your age, she is feeling like she might be missing out on what else is out there. You're not doing anything wrong. The only thing you can do is let her go to find out that she is making a big mistake ... (read in full...)
What's with this threesome double standard?
Q. My boyfriend told me he'd like to try a threesome. I told him I'd do it but that I'd also like a threesome but with another guy. He went from totally enthusiastic that I said yes to furious. I told him I didn't want him to do anything with the other ...
A. 3 December 2010: So why can't a man please another man just as easily and well?? Seriously. I'm not even a lesbian, but I *hate* the portrayal of lesbians in porn, which basically portrays them as doing what they do only to either turn a man on or to prime ... (read in full...)
What's with this threesome double standard?
Q. My boyfriend told me he'd like to try a threesome. I told him I'd do it but that I'd also like a threesome but with another guy. He went from totally enthusiastic that I said yes to furious. I told him I didn't want him to do anything with the other ...
A. 1 December 2010: Heh, I think you know the answer to this one. You answered correctly to him about having another guy instead of another girl. Why he doesn't think you wouldn't be furious about him wanting another girl into his bed is funny. Of course he wouldn't ... (read in full...)
He says I need to relax and take things slow
Q. i have been seing this guy now for about 4 weeks. we are so happy with eahother and i know he is going to ask me out soon. only problem im faced with is he is now having major work issues he has pushed me away from it which is not fair on me and he ...
A. 1 December 2010: Okay, you might not want to hear what I'm going to say to you, but it's the truth. If he's blocking you off of Facebook and ignoring your texts, then he's wanting to get away from you. This is not a "rough patch".
The only way you have any poss... (read in full...)
Are there drugs to diminish the sex drive?
Q. Hi. I'm 23, physically fit, and healthy. I started taking a drug a couple months ago, and one of the side effects is reduced sex drive. Being a young man I thought that would suck, but to my surprise it's actually pretty good. Anyway I had my heart ...
A. 1 December 2010: Well, there's chemical castration, where you take drugs to drop your sex drive to about nothing and is reversible, but why do you want that to happen?
If you had your heart broken, that's no reason to trash your sex drive! You need to heal fro... (read in full...)
My friend's fiance says he loves me more than her
Q. My best friend and i share everything axcept boyfriend and bra .. she have big bobis and i have little one .. I went to visit her after 2 yrs we apart each other .. she move to other country for work and i went to work in different country as well ...
A. 1 December 2010: Listen to me carefully. You are not the reason that your best friend and her fiance are breaking up. Her fiance is the reason they're breaking up. He is a jerk. You just met him and he's telling you he loves you and that he would have married ... (read in full...)
Help!!! I have a gut feeling that my boyfriend of 3 years is cheating.
Q. I have a gut feeling that my boyfriend of 3 years is cheating. Lately he has been distant, says its more work related. We don't speak as much as we used to. Last week as we were texting he called me "Judy" my name is no where even close to th...
A. 30 November 2010: It's a possibility. Do you know someone in his life named Judy? Is there a Facebook friend named Judy? A co-worker?
It's a good bet, but even if he isn't cheating, he's getting distant, meaning the relationship is on the outs. Don't let him ... (read in full...)
I am not satisfied with my wife...
Q. hi i am 34 years of age married man from amravati, india. we have been together since 3 years. Why i dont know i am not happy with my married life. I alway think some thing is missing in my life. My wife doesn't understand my feeling and my fantasy ...
A. 30 November 2010: Do you understand her feelings and fantasies for a married relationship? Did you love each other before, and if so, what caused that to end for her? You've only been married for 3 years. Did you just have kids? Is she taking care of babies? If ... (read in full...)
He's got all these girls falling at his feet, should I admit how I feel?
Q. Hello, i just need some advice. So basically my best guy friend and I have been close for about 9 years. We both study at different universities, so we don’t get to see each other much but since he’s come back I really don’t know what to do. Over...
A. 30 November 2010: Yeah, never rely on signals to convey your message. It is a risk to be sure to put your friendship on the line to confess your feelings, but if you've known him for 9 years, I'm guessing that he's liked you too.
Tell him, clearly and directly... (read in full...)
24 reasons of why I should break up with him?
Q. Ok so I've listed the things my ex has done during our 6 month relationship. What would others say/do in response to this kind of behaviour? 1. Leaving me outside in the cold waiting for him while he continued to drink with mates and ignore me...
A. 30 November 2010: I was about to respond with the standard "forget about this loser", but I re-read the list, and something jumped out at me.
6 of those 24 reasons have something in common.
5 more are definite side effects of the same "something in common".
... (read in full...)
Girls, what turns you off?
Q. Girls what is a major turn off about a guy? Is it appearance? Smell? What?...
A. 30 November 2010: I have a feeling you'll get a list a mile long with this one. ;)
For me, bad breath is a real turn off. Actually, not only bad breath, but bad hygiene. I don't want to get anywhere close to a guy who smells like a yak and looks like he just rol... (read in full...)
Do women always find out when they're cheated on?
Q. I used to be a pretty positive person but within this past year i've become increasingly negative with regards to relationships and guys. I think the thing that really pushed me over the edge was a guy i liked, who knew i liked him, asked if we...
A. 29 November 2010: It's not true that women always know. Guys can cheat for years until something trips them up, and something eventually does. Some women see the evidence and choose to live in denial about their significant others' double life because facing it ... (read in full...)
If she was sexually abused, is she still a virgin?
Q. So my girlfriend was sexually abused at the age of 13. Anyway, her and I were thinking of taking things to the next level. She says that she feels bad cuz she isn't a virgin cuz of what happened to her. I was just wondering if she is still conside...
A. 29 November 2010: Medically and physically, she is technically not a virgin because she was penetrated by a man's penis, to put it rather bluntly. The stark definition doesn't allow for willingness or situation in which it happens.
However, in every other way, she... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't have time or money for me!
Q. Please help me with your opinions; My boyfriend of a year over commits. I was aware before i got into a serious relationship with him that he is very busy but i can not help but feel he has his priorities wrong. He puts his massive sport comm...
A. 29 November 2010: Sports are his dream. You have to decide whether you can live with the fact that he has a season where he's much less available on the weekends. He's with you a lot during the week for a few hours, as you say, but if you're wanting a guy who is ... (read in full...)
Any woman that shows interest in me I want to shove away!
Q. I had a really great romantic relationship going with a girl I loved. She decided that she was in love with a guy she spent a weekend with a few months ago. We did a lot of great stuff together, and a an awesome personal intimate connection. but I ...
A. 29 November 2010: You're at a crossroads. Events, and your reaction to them, will change the course of your very life right now when it comes to romantic encounters, and even platonic social ones. You have had a betrayal so intense that you could swear you felt ... (read in full...)
Why do cheaters feel entitled to lie, sneak and hurt others?
Q. Hi all, when I read through questions and answers I read about people cheating on others (my ex did it to me) It literally tore me apart. But my question is; If you are a cheater, Why do you do this? Why can't you get out of a relationship honestly ...
A. 29 November 2010: Odds is 100% right. I agree with everything he's said. The only time there is any societal disapproval is if the wife had some sort of terminal illness (like John Edwards) or if he or she has a child as a result of the affair.
There's another ... (read in full...)
Am I being a bad boyfriend?
Q. So I have this question people. Last night me and my "temporary" ex (temporary because she asked for a temporary break up). Now anyways, we were texting and I asked her why she broke up with me. She told me because I lied to her, and the poi...
A. 26 November 2010: Wow. Well, based on what you've typed, it sounds like you're not a bad boyfriend. She *is* trying to control you. Making you account for your entire day and getting pissy if you missed any details. Don't get me wrong, not telling her you met up ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend still shares a bed with her ex! What should I do?
Q. Hi. Well I got a problem. My girlfriend and I live miles away from each other. I live alone, and she lives with her 5 bestfriends. 3 of them are guys, one of them is her ex. I'm a really jealous kind of guy, and she knows that. I really dont like it ...
A. 26 November 2010: My god! If she's even trying to tell you that she and her ex will continue sleeping in the same bed, drop her and drop her now. It's so easy to get another bed, or find new roommates. You do NOT need this crap one bit.
Find a girl who isn'... (read in full...)
The Young'n who cant stay out of the club.....
Q. Ok...first...this isnt my first rodeo....im 32 and have been in several long term serious relationships....I have made TONS of mistakes, and have done bad things to good women....all that being said, I found somebody who i fell completely in love ...
A. 26 November 2010: Well, that's a bit different. She's cheating on you and lying to you. You still can't have this relationship where you're the tolerant one who's hoping she'll change. A relationship has to be based on trust and equal footing, not one person ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said it wasn't him on facebook
Q. I have a boyfriend of 5 months and I love him soo much. We're both 17 and he is my first boyfriend ever. Yesterday I logged in his facebook account (we both have each other's password) and saw a conversation of him with this other girl from school ...
A. 26 November 2010: You should break up and do it now. That's him, not his friend. How stupid is that? Did Facebook run out of accounts so that his friend doesn't have his own? That's the stupidest lie in the world!
Who cares who's the "bad guy"? Get rid of him f... (read in full...)
The Young'n who cant stay out of the club.....
Q. Ok...first...this isnt my first rodeo....im 32 and have been in several long term serious relationships....I have made TONS of mistakes, and have done bad things to good women....all that being said, I found somebody who i fell completely in love ...
A. 26 November 2010: You two are at different stages in your life. You said that you made a lot of mistakes when you were younger and can see her going down a similar path? This could very well be true, but it's her path to go down, as long as she's not doing anything ... (read in full...)
Does he love me, or is he unattached, just being polite until he moves to another woman?
Q. My boyfriend of nearly two years, *Tom, is a creative personally that functions within logic. He is friendly to everyone. He has manners, is attentive to my needs in his presence, and strives to please me in bed. We treat each with respect and ...
A. 26 November 2010: This one is actually a lot easier than you think. Pull back emotionally from him. Don't be the mover. Don't be the "chaser". Relationships have ebbs and flows. You say you've been seeing each other for two years? Has he been distant in the ... (read in full...)
Some pleasure with him would be nice!
Q. Ok, so I'm sixteen, and have been dating this guy for four years now. We've had sex tons of times, I lost my virginity when I was fourteen. We've both been through some rough times, and we've both slept with other people. But here's my problem. I've ...
A. 26 November 2010: Honestly, the only way to get what you want during sex is to talk to him. Tell him the truth, even if it hurts. However, I doubt it will hurt him as much as you think if you tell him why.
You know that you have the capacity for pleasure... (read in full...)
Doctor's professional life is spilling over into her personal life! what do I do?
Q. I have a dilemna: Three months ago I began seeing a psychiatrist due to depression behind a breakup...My pschiatrist is a well-known in the state with which I reside...In addition to being a Psychiatrist, she's an adjunct professor for an ivy league ...
A. 26 November 2010: Actually, I think I need to know more about this, as something is missing here. Your psychiatrist certainly sounds like she's got experience, longevity (she's an author) and you even say that she's a 5-star woman.
So I have some questions for you.... (read in full...)
Allergic to cat hair but not dog hair?
Q. i have bad allergies when it comes to cats..it will affect my breathing for atleast a day and a half. Alot of people i know have them so it was hard to avoid. I have a poodle which doesn't shed and have no allergies at all. My brother and ...
A. 26 November 2010: Actually, you might be surprised at why you're allergic to cats and not dogs. The truth is, you're not allergic to the actual cat's hair itself. What you're allergic to is either a chemical found in the cat's saliva, or their sebacious glands, ... (read in full...)
I want more but I don't want to risk our friendship
Q. So i asked this girl out about a week ago. She said no but we still talk and hang out and stuff so we're still cool. But i cant get her out of my head. I mean im always thinking about her because i really do love her. I want to try and show her that ...
A. 26 November 2010: First, I totally understand how you feel. You're right - chasing her hard and heavy will jeopardise your relationship and possibly your friendship.
Second, the approach you take now pretty much hinges on why she said no. Does she already ... (read in full...)
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