My bf refuses to change his fb status, what can I do
Q. My boyfriend of 5 months won't change his FB status and I am angry!! Right now it doesn't say he is single, he has it blank on that line. I sent him a request to change his status on FB from nothing to "in a relationship" and link it to my page. H...
A. 28 April 2011: Congratulations. :)
Good luck to both of you!... (read in full...)
How can somebody can talk to you the sweetest words on earth and dump you only a few minutes later?
Q. Hi all, I'm really confused and would appreciate every bit of help in understanding my current situation. I've been seeing this guy for a few months now. Things were never easy between us, as he was still in a dysfunctional (as I thought) relation...
A. 28 April 2011: The answer to your question is extremely simple.
He was using you. He never loved you.
Think of it this way. You dated this guy while he was with another woman. If you knew this, why did you become an accomplice to his cheating? Of co... (read in full...)
Text messages on girlfriend's phone have me upset!
Q. ok so i wanna know if im over reacting i picked up my girlfriends phone last week and saw a couple of messages.. from guys but i'm not sure if they are ex boyfriends of hers or not but what got to me the most was they were sending kisses and she ...
A. 27 April 2011: Nah, I wouldn't get outright upset, but I wouldn't forget either. So far, she hasn't crossed the line and disrespected your relationship. Yet.
Now if they were saying things like "I love you", "I miss you", anything sexual, or anything regardin... (read in full...)
My gf eats with her mouth open, how to make her pay attention to what;s bothering me?
Q. i'm in a long distance relationship with my gf of 4 months... she's cute and all, but the problem is that sometimes when she eats, she does that with her mouth open... i am very well mannered, and i hate it when people do weird stuff esp w...
A. 27 April 2011: I'm with you! I *hate* when people chew with their mouth open. Tell her straight with no meanness or irritation that she chews with her mouth open. Don't tell her right after she does it, but wait until a time when you're not eating.
Ask h... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law is too clingy towards my husband. What do I do?
Q. My question might sound weird, but the situtation that Im in is making me more and more anxious. So me and my husband have been married for a little over two years now. We have two beautiful children(ages 3 and 1)Our marriage itself has been ama...
A. 26 April 2011: Aunt Honesty is right. You're jealous of his sister. Why do you have to remind him that he's a husband and father if he laughs and jokes with his sister? Getting married doesn't mean that he can't have a close relationship with his family.
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He talks to other women...what do I do?
Q. I found my husband has been talking to a lot of women. He has started hiding things better now that I found out he slept with one. He mashed up his cell phone because he didn't want me to see who was on it. He even went as far as changing the ...
A. 26 April 2011: He's cheating on you! What does it matter if he's in love with one of these women? He's cheating. You need to kick him to the curb and fast.
He'll never stop either. He's hiding things from you, changing passwords on bills that you are enti... (read in full...)
Could taking a shower after sex somehow get me pregnant?
Q. i didn't get any clear answers from this last time, so im asking again, and making my question clearer, my boyfriend ejaculated onto my breasts and stomach. we did not have sex!!!( i want to make it clear, we didn't have sex, or use the "pull ou...
A. 26 April 2011: Nah, you're fine!
If you're taking a shower, you're standing upright. To impregnate you, his semen would have to defy the laws of gravity to travel all the way down you, then up you. Nope.
Unless you're taking a shower standing on your... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get enough of my FWB! She wants me to cool down my strong desire for sex-but it's hard to when we're together!
Q. I was a virgin up until about 2 months ago, I lost it to a FWB. Since then, I've been pretty sex mad and we've done a lot of stuff since then, she recently told me that she doesn't always wanna have sex when we meet up and I've agreed to that, but ...
A. 26 April 2011: Just before you meet, have a quick jerk off session. That should slow you down some so you can spend time with her without the raging hormones.
Also, maybe do things in public with her. Being in a bedroom of course is going to drive you crazy. ... (read in full...)
I'm nervous. Should I propose to my long distance girlfriend? Is it even the right time to?
Q. I'm 31 and my girlfriend is 18. We've been together for five months, talk every day. I want to propose but don't know if it's too soon. I want her to come live with me in Canada, we've had long distance and I feel that makes us even closer. I'd like ...
A. 26 April 2011: Five months is very soon, especially if it's long distance. How many times in 5 months do you meet up?
She's also 18. She's very young. Good things are worth waiting for, and especially if it's long distance, you should go even slower. ... (read in full...)
We've known each other since thrid grade and I have feelings for him but he can be a jerk sometimes which hurts!
Q. well i feel like i have feelings for my best guy friend but idk if he feels the same because we met in 3rd grade and been close ever since and like at times he is all flirty and sweet and then he can be a dick idk wat to do..i mean i kinda like ...
A. 26 April 2011: Good rule of thumb: Never ever date someone just because you don't want to be single. Your guy friend you've known since the third grade can be a jerk. There are others out there who aren't jerks. Trust me, you will hate dating a jerk mor... (read in full...)
After being sexually active for twelve years, I STILL can't climax during sex. I've tried so many things, please help!
Q. I have been sexually active for twelve years, and I still cannot orgasm during sex. I can make myself climax six or seven times a day if I wanted. Occasionally, I can climax with oral stimulation. But never have I climaxed during sex. I have read ...
A. 26 April 2011: First of all, never take a guy's word that *all* of his past girlfriends climax easily. Statistics have shown that up to 80% of women have faked it, and a good many of them fake it on a regular basis. If your partner were to hear any candid ... (read in full...)
Did he just say those things because we were having sex?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months. We are both grown adults. We have discussed love and we both feel that we love eachother, but neither of us ever say "i love you" to eachother (because we are both afraid of heartbreak) last night ...
A. 25 April 2011: He didn't say these things just because you were having sex. The timing was just right in his mind. He was already feeling vulnerable, and if he looked into your eyes and said you were beautiful while having sex, he DOES Know how to give a ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to ask a married man out for coffee?
Q. Hi everybody. First time here. Could use your advice. I am friendly with a married man. Our sons go to karate together. We talk a lot when we see each other twice a week. He always finds me to talk and seems to enjoy my company. I enjoy his compan...
A. 25 April 2011: I wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole. I'm sure this married man would not like it if his wife were to have coffee with another man. If you're married or involved with someone (you mentioned having a son), would you want him going out to cof... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty for loving him but getting over him?
Q. I need to get over a guy and stop feeling guilty. When I was almost 15 pretty much my bestfriend who was 20 asked me out. I was stupid and naïve and said yes. Things progressed out in our relationship and when I was almost 16 I ran away to live with ...
A. 25 April 2011: You aren't the same person you were.
You were 14 when you met the 20 year old.
You were 15 and having sex with him when he was 21.
Depending on the state you live in, the penalties of statutory rape are stiffer than other states.
But the... (read in full...)
Is kissing another guy in front of your Bf redeemable?
Q. Alright so a couple nights ago, my boyfriend invited me to stay with him and visit a university together. We are actually a relatively new couple but we are dating exclusively. We partied both nights we were down there, and I have not had that much ...
A. 25 April 2011: Stay far away from alcohol, or it will get you into even more trouble. Kissing another guy in front of your BF is unforgiveable. You stabbed him in the heart. If alcohol makes you do that, I'd suggest cutting it out, or you will either break ... (read in full...)
He says he's too lazy to love me any more. Is this real or is it his depression talking?
Q. What does it mean when you get dumped by your depressed boyfriend because he doesnt want love or relationships anymore because he's too lazy? Is that even possible? Can someone seriously be too lazy to want love and relationships?...
A. 25 April 2011: This guy's hit rock bottom. He should see someone and get help for his depression. "Too lazy" to love someone doesn't sound like a cop out, but he could really feel like he's underwater and have no strength for anything.
I don't think he's in ... (read in full...)
Will a married man cheat if he is truly happy?
Q. Will a married man cheat if he is truly happy at home. As cheating I mean carrying on a emotional and physical relationship for over acyears?...
A. 25 April 2011: Ask Halle Barry or Sandra Bullock. Their husbands had drop dead gorgeous trophy wives, and they still cheated. A married man could have a beautiful saint for a wife and still stray.
It's true that if a wife is ignoring him, he could be at a hig... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he doesn't feel anything for the first couple of minutes of sex anymore. I'm not enough!
Q. Me and my boyfriend of five years have recently started having problems. We both enjoy sex and usually have it once every day or two. A couple months ago he started this thing where I'll be touching him and going down on him but he is surfing th...
A. 25 April 2011: Oh dear. By surfing on the laptop, I assume you're talking about porn? I doubt he's looking at stock quotes or dancing babies on Youtube during fellatio.
You can't do anything except drop this guy, because you've already confronted him on his b... (read in full...)
Should I try to reconnect? first he was going to propose then he dumped me.
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for almost a year. It seemed perfect. We were always appreciative and affectionate. He told me over Christmas that he already knew how and where he wanted to propose. And that he wanted to stare at my face for the ...
A. 25 April 2011: Man. This is a tough one. I'm sure you feel like you've been blindsided with this whole thing.
You said he lived with someone before and it didn't go well? I get this vibe like he's terrified of commitment. Once a relationship gets to a cer... (read in full...)
My bf refuses to change his fb status, what can I do
Q. My boyfriend of 5 months won't change his FB status and I am angry!! Right now it doesn't say he is single, he has it blank on that line. I sent him a request to change his status on FB from nothing to "in a relationship" and link it to my page. H...
A. 24 April 2011: Actually, I'm kinda on both of your sides on this one. I am also pretty private about things I say on the internet if my true name is attached to it. I probably would choose not to display a relationship status until I got married.
I would be... (read in full...)
Does he not find me attractive now? He loses his erection as he gets the condom
Q. my boyfriend and i, are ready for sex, he's 21 and im 20, but the problem is... he loses his erection when he reaches for the condoms. i still play with him but that doesn't keep him hard enough to place the condom on. he blames exam stress f...
A. 24 April 2011: Yeah, he's actually way attracted to you. It's most likely either performance anxiety or he's psyched himself out about the condom. But I'm betting it's the performance aspect. All of the advice given is spot on! ... (read in full...)
Fingering my girlfriend, and she bled a little. Is that normal?
Q. My girlfriend is a virgin, and I fingered her for the first time, and she bled a little. She told my it hurt a little bit. It bled when my finger was in there, and she told me that it bled a little bit after. When she said it was hurting here, I ...
A. 23 April 2011: You could have torn her hymen a little when you fingered her. She'll be okay!
Two things - first, you may want to focus not inside the vagina, but her clitoris.
Second, use some KY on your fingers. Use lots of it. Also, do not put any f... (read in full...)
Is masturbation a normal thing??
Q. i have this problem i mustarbate sometimes i have a gf and we have briliant sex but i do and sometimes i feel watching porn and thats against my believe of 10 commandement. Wat i tink is i m too old 2 mustarbate and also tink i m not normal is the ...
A. 23 April 2011: It's definitely normal to masturbate! It's even healthy unless you're obsessively doing it 10 times per day and your penis is raw and blistered.
There is also nothing in the 10 commandments against porn. In the New Testament, it talks about if... (read in full...)
My wife was not a virgin
Q. Hello, my wife and i have being married for 4 years, i just found out she had a hymen reconstruction, i though we where both virgins now am stuck between a rock and a hard place.. I feel like cheating on her for what she did to me.what do you think ...
A. 23 April 2011: I can't tell you how many guys who answer questions written by women regarding their devastation about finding out that their men either lied about porn or they found out that he watches it regularly answer women by saying "99% of men watch porn and ... (read in full...)
My wife was not a virgin
Q. Hello, my wife and i have being married for 4 years, i just found out she had a hymen reconstruction, i though we where both virgins now am stuck between a rock and a hard place.. I feel like cheating on her for what she did to me.what do you think ...
A. 22 April 2011: I'm not diminishing deception, and that's a pretty big deception, especially if you were also a virgin. You saved yourself for marriage, and you expected that the woman you met would have also likewise saved herself as well. As a Christian, I do ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a guy only wants sex or does he really care about you?
Q. Hi guys. Can you tell me how you know a guy only wants to sleep with you? Are there signs, things he does, says, etc. that shows you he only wants sex with you? And if he really cares about you as a person and has feelings for you besides the...
A. 22 April 2011: Yikes! I meant to say "It doesn't look shaky"! ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a guy only wants sex or does he really care about you?
Q. Hi guys. Can you tell me how you know a guy only wants to sleep with you? Are there signs, things he does, says, etc. that shows you he only wants sex with you? And if he really cares about you as a person and has feelings for you besides the...
A. 22 April 2011: There's no surefire way of knowing, but there are possible signs. If you haven't had sex yet with him, tell him you want to take things slow in the physical department and see how he acts going foreward.
Also, there's an indicator in the way he c... (read in full...)
I just can't accept the fact that she will spend her life with a person who does not match up with her looks!
Q. Dear Agony aunts, My sister recently got engaged to a guy that i just saw once before. At the engagement party i found him to be really unattractive and short for my sister. My sister is very beautiful and i felt like they looked like beauty and t...
A. 22 April 2011: Why can't you accept that? What's not to accept about a guy who is flat out crazy in love with your sister and no doubt treats her like a queen? So he may look like Quasimodo (I'm guessing he's not THAT bad), but she thinks he's Prince Charming! ... (read in full...)
He became controlling. Pinned me down. Do I get back with him, or move on?
Q. i was with my bf for 8 months. I'm 17, he's 18. It was a good relationship at first. He was a great laugh, made me smile, took me places. It was great. 6 months into the relationship however, he changed. He got controlling, aggressive, overprot...
A. 22 April 2011: He didn't change. You just got to know him and found out that he is a controlling, manipulative jerk. That behavior is a huge and scary red flag. Why do you think lots of ex-girlfriends get killed?? It's a control thing.
You're in high sch... (read in full...)
I caught him having cyber affairs. how do I deal with my cyber surfing husband?
Q. Ok I'm 23 and my husband is 43, we will be married a year in May 2011. We met on a online hookup site, yes I know it sounds bad but I had just been divorced a few months and joined and out of all the guys I chatted with he was the only one who didn...
A. 22 April 2011: Of course it bothered you! Your husband is cheating on you. He's not merely watching porn, he's connecting with other women. He's getting off with other women. He's maintaining sites designed to get people in touch with each other.
The m... (read in full...)
My wife was not a virgin
Q. Hello, my wife and i have being married for 4 years, i just found out she had a hymen reconstruction, i though we where both virgins now am stuck between a rock and a hard place.. I feel like cheating on her for what she did to me.what do you think ...
A. 22 April 2011: Heh, I was almost right about #3, but I should have changed the beginning to "Your religion". I don't believe in lying, but I have zero sympathy for you. It's a crime that people like you are responsible for a woman feeling like she has to mutil... (read in full...)
We had make-up sex and then I find he has a girlfriend?!
Q. So, this guy and me quit talking for six months and the the other night he showed up asking me to forgive him. Well, i did. He said he was sorry and i wanted to be close again. Then one thing lead to another we had sex. He hasn't talked to me since. ...
A. 22 April 2011: Yes, you were used, but you are far from nothing. What a complete and total asshat jerk of a man. Aunty Susie is right, "rat" is an appropriate description of this pathetic loser. I hope his girlfriend catches him cheating and kicks him to the ... (read in full...)
Never even a first kiss at 21 -- how lame is that?
Q. Dear Anybody who can help me: I am a female. I am 21. And I have never gone on a date... Or had my first kiss. How lame am I? I must seriously suck at life. And it sucks more when youre family is constantly asking.. "Why dont you have a boyfriend...
A. 22 April 2011: You are not lame! And you're not old! All it means is that you're not out there running through guys just for kicks. People asking why you don't have a boyfriend? It's none of their business! You are in the adventure of sexual discovery... (read in full...)
Been married for 5 years and attracted to someone else
Q. I have been married for almost 5 years I got married really young it was the day after my 18th birthday. I love my husband very much, but I don't think I am in love with him anymore. I am extremely attrated to another man. This has happened once ...
A. 22 April 2011: I'm not that surprised that you're experiencing this. You got married really early, and you have three kids who I'm thinking are all very young?
You are using other men as an escape from your life. With your husband and baby's dad, you've a... (read in full...)
My wife was not a virgin
Q. Hello, my wife and i have being married for 4 years, i just found out she had a hymen reconstruction, i though we where both virgins now am stuck between a rock and a hard place.. I feel like cheating on her for what she did to me.what do you think ...
A. 22 April 2011: I have never ever heard of a hymen reconstruction! Why the hell would a woman want that back? Is she a masochist who loves the sensation of a man's penis ripping through it? OMG.
I'm still wrapping my brain around this - I can't speak from wis... (read in full...)
She's sure I cheated when I didn't
Q. my gf have been together for 1 year and 9 months now and she truly believes i cheated on her when i know i didn't but i can't back up my story and its ruining our relationship. i love her and would never hurt her but i have no idea what to do. ...
A. 22 April 2011: Why is she so convinced you cheated, and what is your story that you can't "back up"?
It's hard to advise you without knowing the particulars.... (read in full...)
G/f gives me bj's just to make me happy
Q. Hello, i have half a problem. Basically my girlfriend didn't give bj's much because she didnt like them. I wanted to boost this number so i read tips on how to make your girlfriend feel more good about giving bj's, and not pressuring her and stuff. ...
A. 21 April 2011: Think about it this way - girls don't feel the same sensations as guys do when they're giving BJ's. Are we having an orgasm? Nope. You are. Are we sucking on a sex organ that you also pee out of? Yep, and it's worse if you recently urinated. ... (read in full...)
Lost virginity equals pain. Help!
Q. I recently lost my virginity and I'm sore as hell and bleeding. What would be the best products to use for feminine hygiene until the soreness goes down?...
A. 21 April 2011: Ooh! Don't laugh, but Preparation H and sitz baths are wonderful! Lots of women use these things right after childbirth when we're all torn up and healing from it.
After using the bathroom, gently dab your...uhh...parts, and it will be most ... (read in full...)
My wife admitted she cheated on me when we were engaged!
Q. Hi, my wife of 6 years just confessed to me that she cheated on me while we where engaged, she said it was a one time mistake and has being faithfull since then. Am hurt and am thinking of divorce. How can i trust her again?...
A. 21 April 2011: I would be focused on why she told you. After six years, unless something happened, usually someone who cheated and held onto it for that long will never spill unless they're caught.
Yes, it's very reasonable to think about divorce. She cheated ... (read in full...)
Should I consider having anal sex?
Q. in the last year i have had twins. i love them to pieces, but being a single mother is hard. in the last 2 weeks i have had sex with 2 people. now, for the 1st time un my life, i wasnt tight downstairs. they litterally just slid it up and there was ...
A. 21 April 2011: Yep...Kegels! Only go for anal if it's something you think will give YOU more pleasure. Don't do it just because you want to be tighter for a guy. And no, it doesn't make you a slut. There are a lot of factors that make you seem "too ... (read in full...)
His ex knows things about me only my boyfriend knows, is he still seeing her?
Q. Hi. Recently I've been gone through a lot of dumb stuff with my boyfriend.. we broke up 3 times already but next day we just get together 'cause there is something in the relationship that just keeps us together.. But recently his ex(they was t...
A. 21 April 2011: You two broke up three times and he's been discussing you with his ex and going into personal detail about your life? Understand that your name, age, and location is something that can easily be pulled from the internet. If she has access to hi... (read in full...)
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