My boyfriend went out without me again and there is more...disrespectful!?!
Q. I have been dating a guy for about a year now. We spend about a 1/2 a day together each week due to his career. I try to be understanding but admit I often feel lonely and there is a lot of tension. The relationship feels one sided. We typically ...
A. 19 March 2011: You see him a half an evening each week. You've been dating for a year and you've never met his friends, family, nor has he said "I love you". He says his schedule is tight, yet he goes out without you. He refuses and hates public affection, and ... (read in full...)
Been married for 29 years, we're more like room mates than man and wife. The sex is dull and I'm tired of everything..
Q. I have been married for 29 years to the same woman. We have been more like roommates than spouses. We are growing further apart. The sex is an exception rather than the norm. I am at the point I am tired of this life. Because of religious beliefs ...
A. 19 March 2011: Does your wife know all of these things? Have you sat down and talked to her about all of the things you wrote here? You have valid concerns, and sex is a valid need in your relationship.
I'm thinking that the two of you would benefit from som... (read in full...)
How can I let her down gently? She was a virgin. I was drunk. Her family could be a problem
Q. hello. i slept with my best mates sister the other day. im 20 shes 18 it was just a drunken mistake at a party. but she thinks were together how can let her down gently and without her family finding out. also make thing worse she was a virgin. plz ...
A. 19 March 2011: "hello. i slept with my best mates sister the other day. im 20 shes 18 it was just a drunken mistake at a party. but she thinks were together how can let her down gently and without her family finding out. also make thing worse she was a virgin. plz ... (read in full...)
All talk, no action
Q. I have known this guy for many years now. Intially I was attracted to him and let him know about my attraction. Since then, he has been contacting me to share intimate details of his life. We have had a chance to see each other at functions but in ...
A. 18 March 2011: Okay, he goes to strippers, sees other women, yet preaches at you spiritually? Does he do all this during phone sex, because that sounds like one hell of a fetish!
Seriously, the guy sounds a bit unbalanced. Are you sure you want to choose h... (read in full...)
Does the old boyfriend deserve another chance? Or should I go for the new man despite the fact that my sister was in a relationship with him and is unhappy about "us' together now...?
Q. I had been in a relationship for 5 years. He was wonderful,charming,sensitive,everything a woman could want. He was my best friend. A year before we got together he had lost his young wife to a health problem and was devastated.After 5 years,he ...
A. 18 March 2011: Hold on - I'll get to the rest of your message/questions in a second. I want to know what you mean by "prove himself". Why would you ever start a relationship by making someone prove himself to you? That is a weird thing to say, and a true ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that gold-digger can turn into a mature and loving wife?
Q. Dear All, I have a small question “is it possible that a gold-digger turn into a mature and loving wife” I ask this question with a reason, as I want to give my wife a second change (ok I am lying I want to give myself a second chance). Let me ...
A. 18 March 2011: This is an interesting situation. In truth, both of you married each other for mutual needs. She married your financial stability, and you wanted a good looking teenaged trophy wife. You got the flash, and she got the cash.
Both of you got buri... (read in full...)
I need practical suggestions to help get over my crush on my married boss
Q. I'm a 42-year old divorcee. I had a crush on my boss who is 15 years younger. But the biggest problem is, he's married. I think he's also interested in me cos' had been getting many hints from him! I know it's wrong, so I tried to "disagree" with ...
A. 17 March 2011: Well, I'll give you some practical advice. Put yourself in his wife's shoes. How would you feel if the love of your life betrayed and cheated on you? Now put yourself back in your own shoes. How would you feel knowing that your relationship with ... (read in full...)
Love triangle with my ex and his new girlfriend......
Q. I got with my boyfriend when we were 14 and we split up when we around 16. He got a new girlfriend and we went our separate ways for a while. However, we share the same friend circle so are nearly always in contact, and whenever we are together ...
A. 17 March 2011: What do you do? You look at him for what he really is, not what your feelings and good memories want him to be.
Put yourself in his new girlfriend's shoes. How would you feel if you were being cheated on? How would you feel if he were having d... (read in full...)
He kissed a girl during a game of truth or dare, I overeacted and now he is mad at me, how do I fix this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have only been dating about six weeks. I'm only fourteen, but I have the strongest feelings ever for him. He recently though went on a 'rowing' camp and kissed a girl there in a game of Truth Or Dare. Honestly, I thought he was ...
A. 17 March 2011: Uhh, if he's mad at you because you got mad that he kissed another girl, then drop him. Games aren't an excuse, period. I guarantee that he would react twice as mad if it had been you kissing another guy like that.
Don't EVER fall into the trap... (read in full...)
I don't want the excitement of the affair to end but I know it is wrong! Help!
Q. i am a married lady of 31. i am very happy in my marriage except for the fact that my husband cheated on me wid an office collegue. but his affair was only restricted to chats and phone calls which i caught later. some months ago i began chatting ...
A. 17 March 2011: So, you wouldn't get physical with the married man, and now he's cold to you? Guess we know what he's after, and it isn't you. It's your body.
What the hell are you doing? You're about to do something you'll regret for the rest of your life. R... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before I am sure that I have made the right decision to finally divorce my husband?
Q. I have asked my husband for a separation due to the fact that I was hurting so much as a result of his words and actions. We have been married for 13 years. He had 2 emotional affairs; 3 years into our marriage and another one 6 years thereafter. I ...
A. 16 March 2011: You've made the right decision to divorce him. Don't draw it out, or you won't be able to move on. He is a serial cheater, and if he's giving this other woman money and such, he's having sex with her.
... (read in full...)
Is she communicating with me because she is lonely? Or is there a chance?
Q. Ok so this is a bit of a long one. About 5 weeks ago my girlfriend of 3 years who I was living with found out that i had been sending erotic emails to women on and off for almost a year and that I also met with an old friend for a date after we were ...
A. 16 March 2011: Blond is right. Why did you feel the need to send erotic messages to other women? How would you have felt if she were sending erotic messages to other men? You would have seen red.
Yeah, she's having a hard time trusting you. But she still ha... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and sex is daunting!
Q. I am 19 years old and i am still a virgin. I am ready to finally have sex but i find it very daunting and being that intimate with someone is rather scary. I have someone i would like to be my first but i keep avoiding it because of this. How ca...
A. 16 March 2011: Do you *want* to have sex with him, or are you scared of losing him if you don't?
If you want to have sex, then it's all a matter of being comfortable with your body, with his, and with him as a person. Sex is risky, and it's important that the... (read in full...)
I hate having sex with him, is this normal?
Q. I hate having sex with my husband,but I still love him even after 13 years of relationship. He was my first and only sex partner...Is that normal? What should I do?...
A. 16 March 2011: Yeah, that makes sense. There needs to be a balance of love shown vs. sex. If he's giving you a hard time about parental and mundane duties, yet comes to you for sex all the time, it's out of balance.
Also, making advances by putting on a con... (read in full...)
Should I go to my ex's house and tell his family he cheated on me?
Q. What should I do? are my friends right? ? My ex boyfriend cheated on me, betrayed my trust and my love for him. I loved him so much and he hurt me and lied to my face over and over. He told me he doesn't want a relationship and wan...
A. 16 March 2011: What would be the reason for doing that? He is your ex now. Doing that is only to satisfy feelings of revenge in you, and truthfully, if you're wanting to do that, then you're not over him. Your life will hit a rut and grind to a standstill if ... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend seems to be trying to make me jealous!
Q. Pardon my ignorance, but when a girl breaks up with her boyfriend of a year, and gets another one three weeks later...isn't she supposed to be happy with her new bf and moved on... ...but, My ex keeps asking people how I am and saying "Make sur...
A. 16 March 2011: Yeah, she hasn't gotten over you. She's trying to make you jealous, and unfortunately, her new boyfriend doesn't realize that he's just the accessory to get to you.
She sounds immature to be honest. I'm sure you consider yourself lucky to be ri... (read in full...)
I cant cope with my fiance being bisexual!
Q. My Girlfriend and i have been together some time now and we are engaged, we're quite young but i know i feel strong enough to make this commitment as does she, however she has cheated on me twice before but promises me that it was stupid mistakes ...
A. 16 March 2011: Being bisexual is not a license to cheat on your significant other. If she weren't bisexual and told another guy that she wanted to do things to him, you'd clearly drop her.
The fact that someone's bisexual and is attracted to both genders ... (read in full...)
Promise rings......
Q. What are some things I should know about giving a woman a promisory ring? What does it mean on both sides?...
A. 16 March 2011: I guess that it's about what you're promising. If you buy her a promise ring, you're making a promise that you're faithful, and that the relationship is serious and exclusive.
I agree that usually it's a teenager thing since marriage and engageme... (read in full...)
After 7 years I still pity his ex-wife
Q. ive been dating to a guy for 7 years. now we are both seperated. The problem is that he still feel guilt about what he had done to his wife and still pity her. Sometimes he wants to be alone to choose between his wife and me. He cant have the ...
A. 16 March 2011: After 7 years, he's not going to choose you. He's had it good for this whole time. He can "pity" (code word for he still loves her) his wife, yet he knows you'll come running at his call.
You need to end the relationship unless it's your dre... (read in full...)
I hate having sex with him, is this normal?
Q. I hate having sex with my husband,but I still love him even after 13 years of relationship. He was my first and only sex partner...Is that normal? What should I do?...
A. 16 March 2011: What is it that you hate about sex with your husband? Did you always hate sex with him, or was it good before? Are you attracted to him, but the technique is bad? Is he a one minute man? Is he selfish in bed? Have either of you gained/lost ... (read in full...)
Do you consider watching porn cheating?
Q. How can watching porn be cheating? Random question.. girls/guys some thoughts??...
A. 16 March 2011: "Do you consider a graphic sex scene in a non pornographic movie cheating?
Do you consider watching two people kiss passionately in a regular movie cheating?
You see at the end of the day people who consider porn cheating are hypocritical."
... (read in full...)
Do you consider watching porn cheating?
Q. How can watching porn be cheating? Random question.. girls/guys some thoughts??...
A. 15 March 2011: Every relationship has its different rules. These rules can be as stringent as never acknowledging another person's beauty all the way to an open relationship, where sex with others outside the relationship are "in bounds".
In regards to the subj... (read in full...)
The debts have been piling up and I have to file bankruptcy...but I don't know where all the money is going!
Q. I've been with this man for 20 years, married for 14. We have children together. For a few years now he's been wracking up credit card debt like crazy, with nothing to show for it. The debt is more than we make in a year. I don't get it. It's ...
A. 15 March 2011: Oh boy. This doesn't look good I'm afraid. If he has work related expenses, are these for meals, mileage, fuel, etc. for business trips?
The money *has* to be going somewhere. If he isn't showing you anything, and you see no evidence of his p... (read in full...)
He gives off signals that he rejects me. Should I just be happy that we are together?
Q. I'm 24 dating a man who is 39. He's been in previous relationships that ended in them having children, his woman taking all his money then saying bye, "I'm leaving you for someone else and I'm taking the kids" I understand his issues, I'm patient ...
A. 15 March 2011: SweetSmoochy hit it right smack dab on the money. If he is treating you like this now at the "butterfly" stage of a relationship, think about how he must have treated his wife and children.
The greatest mistake a girl can ever make is to hear a m... (read in full...)
My wife is pregnant and our sex life has stopped. Is this normal?
Q. Me and my wife had a great sex life but shes pregnant one and half months from now. We both missings our days but we're afraid of losing pregnancy. What should we do?...
A. 14 March 2011: Wait, you got pregnant one and a half months AGO, or will she be giving birth one and a half months from now??
If it's the former, then she might be feeling really sick and nauseous. Just wait until that passes, which in most women it will. W... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted at the male penis. Is it just me or anyone else feel this way?
Q. Penises just completely disgust me. I literally feel like i am going to throw up. And thats just from looking at it. I've been told there's great looking penises and horrible penises, but I just think they are all nasty. I don't want anything to do ...
A. 14 March 2011: Hmm. Yeah, that does sound unusual. A lot of things came to my mind as I read your posts, but something in me warns me not to guess about this on here, except to say that you might need to talk to someone professional to determine why the penis ... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable that boyfriend flirt texts with other girls!!
Q. My bf is mega flirty with girls via text. He's never cheated and I don't think he's the type but it still makes me very uncomfortable, especially as most include sexual flirting such as "Oh, we could have some fun with an empty house ;)". What d...
A. 13 March 2011: I'd be uncomfortable too. Either he has feelings for you or he doesn't. Either he wants to give you 100% of his interest or he doesn't. If he has you in his life, what use does he have telling other women via text that he'd love to be in an empty ... (read in full...)
Is it strange to not like pornography?
Q. I know this may seem odd for a lot of people to hear, but I'm a 16yo guy who is not at all into pornography. What I wanna know is, am I the only one? All my friends say I'm weird because I don't like it, but I personally don't understand why they do ...
A. 13 March 2011: You are awesome! You just summarized my thoughts on porn! I call them "plastic bombshells" and I know they have to earn a living same as anyone else, but blech! You're not missing anything. If you find and fall in love with someone, it's go... (read in full...)
Sex with virgins; STD risk?
Q. If I have had sex with three people and all of them were virgins, is there any chance of me having an STD?...
A. 13 March 2011: I agree with Tennisstar88. One of the subjects we're unable to verify is truth about the sex life. STD's are always a risk, even if the most that's ever been done by these virgins is oral sex. That is still possible to transmit STD's. A good mo... (read in full...)
Justified in my divorce request?
Q. I have been with my husband for a little over 4 years, married almost 3 years now. When we are alone together, everything is great. We enjoy each other's company and can chat for hours. However, I know he fits only into one aspect of my life -- he ...
A. 12 March 2011: Actually, my heart almost breaks for your husband. Apparantly, he was strong enough to date you, propose to you, and marry you.
Think about it this way. You would throw away an obviously great guy because of how he makes YOU look in front of... (read in full...)
Do you think it can work out between a 17 yr old boy and a 20 yr old girl?
Q. Do you think it can work out between a 17 year old boy and a 20 year old girl?...
A. 11 March 2011: Don't have sex with him! It's statutory rape until he turns 18.... (read in full...)
I cant sleep with my boyfriend's snoring!
Q. Hey readers, I don't know what to do - whenever I spend the night with my bf, his snoring and loud breathing keeps me awake so I can't get to sleep til, like, 5am! I don't know what to do about it. We've been together 6 months, and he knows he ...
A. 10 March 2011: Actually, I say you get a big sock and ram it right into his gullet and hold it in play with duct tape! Yay socks!!!
LOL..just kidding!
I concur with the Anon Male's post about ear plugs. They are a life saver and a half for you! A friend o... (read in full...)
She lied to me and I was completely honest with her!
Q. Hello everyone, I just need some help and advice. I am m27 engaged to someone I truly love and adore f21. Both of us know each other for last 8 months. I cleared and said everything about my past and she did the same as well. Now 3 days back, i...
A. 9 March 2011: It's not an emotional affair unless she's cheating on a boyfriend or the person she was having the relationship with was cheating on someone.
The fact that she was interested in someone and they chatted doesn't make a relationship. It's not... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up then texted me saying "I hope you get over me soon"
Q. Why did my ex boyfriend text me this? please help? ? ? ? My boyfriend of 5months suddenly tells me he doesn't want a relationship cos he got so used to the single life before we got together and he might cheat on me if we stay together, he doesn...
A. 9 March 2011: Hah! What an idiot. Unwittingly, he just gave away that *he* isn't getting over you and that *he* isn't doing okay. Displacement at its finest. Heh
Your reply is good! I'm thinking that he'll contact you again to try and take you back or ... (read in full...)
Is it midterms or is she just avoiding me?
Q. Me and this chick seemed to hit it off really well. Hung out a good few times, 4days in a row actually. However now she has big exams coming up so we can't really meet up.. and it's always me that initiates texts. I'm kinda wondering if the midterms ...
A. 9 March 2011: Just relax. Midterms are a LOT of work, sleepless nights, studying, reading, more studying, etc.
Just chill until after midterms, and she'll most likely go back to hanging with you. Either way, you'll know your answer based on her behavior... (read in full...)
I feel like a ghost and my life has been swallowed up by being married, living my wife's dream
Q. I am in my mid-40's, successful, have a pretty wife, 3 kids - but it feels like I am living someone else's dream, not mine. It seems to me that many, perhaps most, of the men in my situation, at least whom I know are in the same boat. We are living ...
A. 9 March 2011: You are going through a mid-life crisis, and in a way, so is your wife. For such a long time, your wife's focus was your three kids. Raising them, cleaning up after them, staying up sleepless nights because they were sick, etc.
You have spe... (read in full...)
I feel like a ghost and my life has been swallowed up by being married, living my wife's dream
Q. I am in my mid-40's, successful, have a pretty wife, 3 kids - but it feels like I am living someone else's dream, not mine. It seems to me that many, perhaps most, of the men in my situation, at least whom I know are in the same boat. We are living ...
A. 9 March 2011: You are going through a mid-life crisis, and in a way, so is your wife. For such a long time, your wife's focus was your three kids. Raising them, cleaning up after them, staying up sleepless nights because they were sick, etc.
You have spe... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me, am I overreacting by what I'm asking of him?
Q. im kinda confused and i hope that somebody can help me.ive been in a relationship with this guy for 5 months now. he cheated on me at the very beginning. but i did forgive him, because we hadnt been together that long and maybe he didnt take us ...
A. 9 March 2011: Nope, you've been with him for only 5 months. If he's been cheating with other women, then the relationship is doomed. You can not request these things from him. You're not married, AND, it'll do no good. It's so easy to get a pre-paid phone, a ... (read in full...)
He asked me to move in with him, now he wants his space!
Q. My boyfriend asked me to move in with him in December to help out with some family issues I was going through. We both agree that the move happened too soon, but neither of us wants me to move out. He wants more space. Either I spend the night two ...
A. 9 March 2011: That's strange on his part. I can understand space, but that's achieved without leaving for a few nights per week. I'd be worried about him cheating. Where would he go? Who would he invite into the house while you're gone?
Something's fishy he... (read in full...)
A friend kissed me, I told my girlfriend about it, but I'm still anxious!
Q. I am currently in a long distance relationship and last weekend went out with some friends. I was quite drunk and so was one of my friends and she kissed me. It took me a couple of seconds to react mainly due to my drunkeness but I pushed her away. ...
A. 9 March 2011: The average reaction time in a sober person is one second. While driving a car, that's the main reason why tailgating is so dangerous. In a drunk person, that can increase to two or even three seconds, so I do believe you when you say that it took ... (read in full...)
Online dating: IMing for only a week and now she's telling me that we're twin souls! Advice?
Q. I met this girl through a dating site. We've been IMing for only a week and now she's telling me that we're twin souls, that I'm what she's been looking for all her life. She said fate brought us together. We've been exchanging fantasies about ...
A. 8 March 2011: Be on guard! A relationship has a batural pace, and nobody can be "twin souls" in a week. She sounds unbalanced and could possibly be clingy and extremely high maintenance.
It is not natural to move this fast because you hardly know each oth... (read in full...)
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