Is it really wrong to be in love with my best friend's ex?
Q. I am 27 year old female and I am in love with my best friends ex boyfriend. They had only been with each other for a year or less. My friend is very mean to him all the time and says if she stayed with him she would continue to cheat consistently on ...
A. 18 December 2010: I would talk to your best friend first and ask her if she would be okay with you dating her ex. A lot of factors could be at play here. Did they just break up? Is it possible that she's putting him down constantly because she's not yet over him? ... (read in full...)
Its been a week and he hasn't called, should I forget about it?
Q. A few weeks ago, my roommate was telling me about a cute single friend of her boyfriend's and she thought I should meet him. Soon after, we met when a bunch of us (friends) went camping together and I was interested, so a couple weeks later I ...
A. 15 December 2010: I agree with Cindy on this one.
You're worth more than to be some guy's afterthought, and if he hasn't called you in a week, it's his loss.
This guy isn't really into you, sorry to say. You've been pursuing him since the beginning, and h... (read in full...)
I had a surgical procedure, am I still a virgin?
Q. Hi. I just want to know if im still a virgin coz i was curious i did put my finger on my vagina (masturbate) a lot of times. does this means im not virgin anymore? im 26 and dont have any experience so im curious that's y do the masturba...
A. 15 December 2010: You're still a virgin. Trust me. You fingering yourself doesn't de-virgin you.
Even moreso, you had a Foley catheter inserted into your vulva, which isn't the same as your vagina. Unlike a guy, we don't use the same orifice for urinatio... (read in full...)
She won't shave or trim!
Q. I have had multiple conversations with my wife regarding the shaving of her vag, but she will not so much as keep it trim. I've actually shaved her a few times, but I feel like it's just part of a woman's grooming process to keep it trim if that's ...
A. 15 December 2010: I've thought about this question a bit, and your follow up sheds a bit more light on what might be going on.
You've been married 12 years, and you're 41-50. Is this a second marriage for you? Is she significantly younger than you, as in at least... (read in full...)
Do girls look at porn?
Q. Do girls look at porn? And why are girls so shy to say they "flick the bean"? ...
A. 15 December 2010: "Flick the bean"??
Never heard that one before. Sounds painful! :P... (read in full...)
Will 1st time sex still hurt when I am 32?
Q. I am so embarrassed to be a 32 year old virgin and am wondering if sex still hurts even when you're this old. I have kept my virginity for so long because I was caught up with studying and also because of cultural beliefs. I am just worried if I ...
A. 15 December 2010: Well, I'm no doctor, but you'd think that in some ways, being that your body is more mature than that of a young teenager of 16-17, in some ways it'll hurt less. However, like your fingers and toes, your hymen still exists, and unless you broke it ... (read in full...)
Should he have called to wish me a happy birthday?
Q. Would you be offended if the father of your kid did not call and wish you a happy birthday? We're not together and haven't been for 7 years......
A. 15 December 2010: I agree. "Happy Mother's Day" is one thing. Your birthday is another. You are the mother of his kids, but he has no more personal relationship with you and hasn't for 7 years, unfortunately.
If you have somone else in your life, let them sho... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate for my boyfriend to buy his ex a mother's day gift?
Q. my boyfriend has a daughter and he and i have been together for 5 years. Do u think its appropriate for him to buy the kid's mom a mother's day gift? is it ok for me to feel a little jealous over that?...
A. 15 December 2010: I might be in the minority on this one, but unless the gift is accompanied by other acts of affection, frequent unnecesarry contact or obvious flirting, I think it's actually a really honorable thing to show respect for the mother of his kids. Too ... (read in full...)
She won't shave or trim!
Q. I have had multiple conversations with my wife regarding the shaving of her vag, but she will not so much as keep it trim. I've actually shaved her a few times, but I feel like it's just part of a woman's grooming process to keep it trim if that's ...
A. 14 December 2010: For the record, I am PARTIALLY on your side. I think it's good to have a bit of a trim there to keep it neat and not make things a jungle.
However, do you have any idea how rough it is to shave completely down there? To wax is painful,... (read in full...)
Gave an ultimatum and he counter offered?
Q. I told my husband that I do not like that he text other girls and flirts with them thru texting. He claims that he understands and that the flirting is wrong and will no longer do that. However he is not going to stop texting them and he deletes ...
A. 14 December 2010: He is showing a lack of respect. He's covering himself by continuing the texts and then showing you only what you won't get mad over. That way, the names can still remain on the contact list and he can claim that he's showing you everything.
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We cuddled and kissed after sex. Now he's calling me clingy!
Q. I desperattley need help !!!! Basicly Iv really liked this boy and we only just decided to get together properly a few days ago.... He stayed over the night and I had amazing sex ... I wasnt nurvous I was happy I acully smiled when I woke up t...
A. 14 December 2010: This guy used you for sex. When he got what he wanted, he wasn't interested in showing you the kind of affection you needed.
I would highly recommend NOT having sex in the first 3 days of a relationship. Keep sex out of the equation until yo... (read in full...)
Are YOU happy?
Q. I was just wondering. And if you are happy, what is making you happy? If you aren't happy, why aren't you happy? Stories/details are welcomed....
A. 14 December 2010: Actually, I thought about this question. I can say that in most things about my life, I'm happy. There are a couple of things that I'm not happy about, but the happy things way outweigh what I'm not happy about.
I have a great family, good fri... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and have a crush on a 30 year old married man
Q. I don't even know where to start on this question, I guess i'll just get straight to the point, I have a major 'crush' on a married man, i'm 16 and he's in his mid 30's.. he lives near me so my parents are quite good friends with him and his wife ...
A. 13 December 2010: Maverick is onto something. Make him less attractive in your mind. Also add this thought as well:
If you were to get with him, being that he's married, you would cause devastation and heartache to his wife. You didn't mention if they have kid... (read in full...)
Will she still be 'tight' for me?
Q. My girlfriend had sex one time before she met me for literally only 2 minutes and told the man to stop. She knew what she was doing was wrong theres a long back story to this. But I'm wondering will she still be tight when we do it? Tight as a ...
A. 13 December 2010: Ahh, I figured. Thanks for clearing that up!
One thing most guys don't realize about us girls is that a lot of the time, our first time is not a pleasant memory. There's pain, tons of awkwardness, and more pain. I'm wondering if that's not part... (read in full...)
Will she still be 'tight' for me?
Q. My girlfriend had sex one time before she met me for literally only 2 minutes and told the man to stop. She knew what she was doing was wrong theres a long back story to this. But I'm wondering will she still be tight when we do it? Tight as a ...
A. 13 December 2010: Heh. I was sitting here getting irritated at you for not feeling lucky that you had her for HER sake when it hit me. Are you a virgin?? Were you raised religiously where you were told to be a virgin until your wedding night and that God had a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend pressured me into having an abortion
Q. Hi guys, please give me some advice. Iv been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and about 6 months into our relationship I fell pregnant. I was on the pill at the time and think it must have happened due to a little tummy bug. I was head over hee...
A. 13 December 2010: Your boyfriend might have pressured you into having an abortion and blackmailed you into aborting or else he would have left you. However, you did it for your own reasons. You had your own motives.
You could have postponed college. You could ha... (read in full...)
Will she still be 'tight' for me?
Q. My girlfriend had sex one time before she met me for literally only 2 minutes and told the man to stop. She knew what she was doing was wrong theres a long back story to this. But I'm wondering will she still be tight when we do it? Tight as a ...
A. 13 December 2010: I don't think you have anything to worry about, but your question disturbs me a bit. Is this all you care about when it comes to her?? What happens if you two become sexually active and she is no longer "tight as a virgin"?... (read in full...)
We have sex but he won't kiss me
Q. I have been dating this guy on and off for about 8 mos. now, we are sexually active, but he never kisses me. He knows it is an issue, I have tried to talk to him about a couple of times. It is depressing. He is a really great guy besides that. I ...
A. 12 December 2010: If he doesn't smoke and you do, the breath is *awful*. Since you smoke, you don't realize how incredibly nasty smoker's breath is. Imagine if he was a heavy garlic eater and you didn't like it. You'd want to gag every time he breathed near you. ... (read in full...)
Is he done with this relationship but just not man enough to end it?
Q. I have been dating a man for 7 months. We are both in our mid thirties. Our interests and our faults complimented one another, and we got along great. The sexual chemistry is fantastic. We live an hour away from one another, and it was beneficial in ...
A. 12 December 2010: He is scared of commitment. It probably scared him to have told you that he loves you, and even scared him more to hear you say it back. For many guys, the words "I love you" are more than just an emotional declaration. Saying them announced a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was robbed and says that if I love him I should go cash in my bonds and give it to him
Q. My boyfriend was robbed for several hundred dollars, right before Christmas. He has a 6 yr old we've been together for 3 1/2 yrs. The past year has been rocky because he cheated on me and I'm stiiill trying to regain all the trust. He says because ...
A. 12 December 2010: RUN AWAY from this guy! Seriously, if you let him pull this on you, no telling what he'll try next. Take a lesson from his family - you are not his bank. He is your BOYFRIEND. Not your fiance, not your husband, not your family.
Does he not h... (read in full...)
Should I see him again, even though he's hung up on his ex?
Q. I met a guy last night, went back to his place, and then he said he didn't want to have sex because he had only recently broken up with his ex-girlfriend and wasn't ready. I said that was fine, and we had a really nice time together afterwards. ...
A. 12 December 2010: Definitely be his friend. He's a guy of good caliber to not have used you for rebound sex.
Unfortunately, he is hung up on his ex, so it's possible you'll be left out in the cold if he goes back to her.
I think your chances depend on why he... (read in full...)
My wife has a list of rules and guidelines for sex!
Q. My wife insists on having rules for sex, no oral unless we are freshly out of the shower. No cumming on her face or in her mouth. And no matter what, I have not convinced her even once to swallow. I love her dearly but, I think this kills the s...
A. 12 December 2010: Well, actually, I like those rules!
You want to have a blowjob before you know what's going on? Well, did you urinate at all while you were working? I'm guessing yes, you don't have a cast-iron bladder. Also, sweat buildup on top of urinatio... (read in full...)
He hardly ever wants to have sex... What's wrong with me???
Q. my boyfriend of 5 years rarely wants to have sex with me! I have explained how this makes me feel and how it kills my confidence and self esteem. but yet it seems like he does not understand....he always says I have issues meaning I am a nympho and ...
A. 11 December 2010: Yikes! First of all, don't ever change. You do not have issues, and most guys would jump for a girl as into sex as they are.
Second, has he had erectile problems at all? Sometimes guys with issues like that tend to just shut down rather t... (read in full...)
He doesn't enjoy giving oral sex....
Q. Me and my partner have been together for about 6 months. We have a great relationship and a great sexual relationship apart from one thing that really bothers me. He doesn't enjoy giving oral sex. He wants oral sex at least once a day and he gets it ...
A. 10 December 2010: Let me clarify my "demand" statement and put it into context.
I don't agree with carte blanche demanding for specific sexual favors, especially if they go into matters of uncomfortability (i.e. threesomes, S&M if both aren't into it).
However... (read in full...)
He doesn't enjoy giving oral sex....
Q. Me and my partner have been together for about 6 months. We have a great relationship and a great sexual relationship apart from one thing that really bothers me. He doesn't enjoy giving oral sex. He wants oral sex at least once a day and he gets it ...
A. 10 December 2010: He wants oral sex at least once a day and he gets it??
It's easy to get more oral sex from him. Demand your satisfaction first. He may not like to give oral sex, but he sure as hell loves receiving it.
If he says he wants it, just say "I ... (read in full...)
Does his facebook stalking mean anything?
Q. Okay so I'm in a long term relationship at the moment, and I'm very happy, we live together, the ususal stuff. However the other day at home I was on the net on my boyfriends laptop- we do share them as his is faster than mine and mine breaks ...
A. 10 December 2010: This guy is lying his head off! Tisha's right! You look once, maybe twice, and then it's over with. He's looking at her profile every day, at 20+ pictures and some are half nude. Is the dog in every picture he's looking at??
Also, he picks th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me once, should I trust him again?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 1 year now, we'r planing to marry together because he asked me to and I do love him. Our relationship is going well and sweet nowadays. I remember it was 3 or 4 months ago that I found out he che...
A. 10 December 2010: Did you say that you were the third and that he lied to you saying he was single? So he cheated with you, then cheated on you, pressured you for sex right away, told you while you were having sex twice a day that he didn't love you and was using ... (read in full...)
How to know that a guy likes you, but is hiding it?
Q. how to know that a guy likes you but hiding it. we study in same class at same tiution.he always helps me in bad times when no one helps me.he teases me alot playfully not seriously.sometimes he tries to sit next to me but sometimes he sit...
A. 10 December 2010: Well, there's the obvious. If you have feelings for this guy, tell him! I think he likes you.
If you don't have the courage to tell him straight out, you could incorporate it into your teasing. If he makes fun of you or something, slip in that ... (read in full...)
Having an affair and torn between my love and my husband!
Q. Hi, I am a married woman(33yrs)and i am having an affair for the last 1 year with a single man (31yrs) My husband( 55yrs) and i have a daughter together(3 yrs) and been together for 8 yrs. My affair started whn my husband wanted to divorce me aft...
A. 10 December 2010: I was reading your whole question and got stuck on your very last sentence. "Is it safe?" That's an odd question to me. Usually people in this situation ask "Should I leave my husband?"
Are you worried that he will do something if you leave hi... (read in full...)
I don't want my love life to be this difficult!
Q. Here was my situation a few months ago: My girlfriend confessed to cheating on me by saying that she's developed feelings for another guy, who also happens to be an old friend of mine. He knows that i and her are in a relationship but even then sh...
A. 10 December 2010: Honestly, there's only one thing you can do at this point. You need to end things with her for good. In fact, you should have ended it as soon as she asked you to "let her off", so to speak. She dropped you for someone she has never even met yet? ... (read in full...)
Why do men treat women like this?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I got treated bad (I know,I know why didn't I leave). I always felt something wasn't right about him. I tried to make him happy, wore my heart on my sleeve and tried even harder even though I couldn't do ...
A. 10 December 2010: Cerberus is absolutely correct. It has to do with you letting him mistreat you and then crawling back to him. He is a lemon of a boyfriend, yet you stay with him and subject yourself to more ill-treatment and neglect.
This has everythi... (read in full...)
Did I say YES too quickly to his proposal?
Q. I have had this boyfriend of mine for 6 years now, and I am really in love with him although we both have differences (as any couple does). On the other hand, there is a guy that I met at school who is amazing. He is perfect for me in every wa...
A. 10 December 2010: Let's take this other guy out of the equation for a second. This is about you right now. It says something about the relationship you're in if you're thinking about what could have been in regards to someone else. You felt chemistry with this new ... (read in full...)
Ladies, what do you think of a 40 year old virgin? No, not the movie.
Q. OK, here is a simple and straight-forward question for the ladies. I am going to be honest, and I want the HONEST truth, as you see it. I am a male, 39, going to be 40 in 3 months. I am a virgin. Mostly I am a virgin because I believe sex sho...
A. 9 December 2010: Nah, nothing wrong with that unless I find out that you're a really heavy porn user with some weird quirks (like sex with furniture while wearing a tutu).
I personally would much rather be with a virgin guy than one who uses women, is a man whor... (read in full...)
Why do men get defensive when asked to wear condoms?
Q. hi dear aunts and uncles. why men don't like wearing condoms and get defensive when you ask for it? they always throw the 'you don't trust me' line. that doesn't work with me be cause i believe that no glove no love is the best thing to do. but ...
A. 9 December 2010: They only get away with what they can convince a girl to get away with. If you tell him under no uncertain terms that there will never be an exception to condom use, he'll either get the idea, or he'll leave. If he gets the idea, great.
If he... (read in full...)
Husband's comment "I don't support no bitches" has made me want to leave
Q. hello i been maried to my husband for 2 years now. I meet him on aol..though come to find out we had meet in the pass but I was married at that time..I have been a full time working mother just up until the thanksgiving holiday and got laid off. I ...
A. 9 December 2010: You need to tell him how you feel. You were laid off? Are you not on unemployment benefits? If so, why not tell him that since he thinks he's the sole supporter in the family, you'll take your money and keep it all to yourself.
What a complete... (read in full...)
13 year old son sexting. What should his punishment be?
Q. Just caught my 13 year old sexting with a girl in his class. They sent each other pictures of each other and everything. Not sure what his punishment should be. His phone was taken indefinitely. Not sure what else I should do. What do u all think?...
A. 9 December 2010: The phone being taken is an excellent start. He's shown that he's not mature enough to have one yet.
I don't know if "punishment" is the right motive here. The motive is to educate and correct the behavior so that it's never repeated, and he u... (read in full...)
Secret relationship with much younger sister-in-law
Q. I am 42 year old married man. I am very close to my 18 year sis-in-law. She is bubbly and jolly in nature. She is very fond of me. She allows me to hugg, kiss and touch her boobs. She often says she loves me.I too say same. We enjoy a flirting ...
A. 8 December 2010: Is this a real post? I have a hard time believing that a 42-year old says stuff like "she lets me touch her boobs". That actually sounds like something a 15 year old hormonal virgin boy would say.
Also, if your sister-in-law is 18, how old does... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mother in law I find her sexy?
Q. I'm 28 and very sexually and emotionally attracted to my mother in law. she is 45. I have known her for 8 yrs and we get along very well. she knows I check her out every chance I get and has never said anything, she has checked me out before and ...
A. 8 December 2010: You would think it would make her feel good knowing that a younger man finds her sexy? How would it make her feel if she knows you're checking out another womanh while still married to her daughter?!
You don't even begin to realize how protecti... (read in full...)
Is she breaking up with me? I don't know what to do.
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been arguing a lot lately, she is always so snappy and argumentative. ,She says i annoy her all the time, but i really cant see what im doing and if i ask her she will cause a massive argument and threaten to end the ...
A. 8 December 2010: Okay, first, it's not a breakup text.
However, geeze, she is FULL of toxic drama. She says that you annoy her all the time, and you're afraid that if you ask her what annoys her that she'll threaten to end the relationship? Sorry, but that is ... (read in full...)
Do most boys choose their X-Box or PS3 over their girlfriend?
Q. It seems like my boyfriend's life is playing on his xbox or ps3, I dnt understand why he would rather play on that instead of talking to me on the phone etc. Anytime I go to his house he would rather play on his xbox than me?! Is this normal? ...
A. 8 December 2010: I'm a girl who has loved gaming since putting my first quarter into Pac-Man and Galaga at the arcade. (Yes, I just dated myself!) I have owned almost every major gaming system since the Atari 2600.
Speaking as a gamer and a wife and mom, the word... (read in full...)
I have no feelings or sex drive for my 330 lb. husband!
Q. Iam so imbarrased to write about this! But iam so tired of this I really need some advise! I have a husband that weighs 330pounds. I weigh 140pounds. Our sex sucks really really bad because of his weight. I keep on asking him to loose weight in ...
A. 8 December 2010: If the shoe was on the other foot, and it was a guy coming in here talking about how disgusting his overweight wife is now and how he is now attracted to thinner women, the advise usually is to help her through it and love and support her.
First... (read in full...)
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