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writes:i used to watch porn to make myself feel a bit better but now i have stopped because it always made me feel guilty, also i feel it ruins sex experience. is it good for me to stop masterbating?
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reader, person12345  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Masturbation is completely different from porn. Unless you are masturbating to the point where it's interfering with your life, then masturbation is healthy. It definitely puts you in a better mood for one thing and it's the safest sex you can have.
Porn is a different issue. As others have said, it can be addicting, can warp your ideas about what real sex and real women are like, and there is no way to know if the woman you just watched was coerced or trafficked. Plus your girlfriend will probably appreciate you for not watching! As you may have seen on the site, it can cause a ton of problems in relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): Hey,
Personally, I would not watch porn. I could give you so many reasons not to, but really there are that many.
Watching porn is addictive. Not only is is addictive, but opens your mind and exposes you to all sorts of disturbing scenes and sexual acts. By watching porn, you are seriously at risk of F****ing up your sexual life in the future. You should not learn from porn PUH... why watch and copy two people who are being told what to do...probably by a seedy old pervert.
I am an ex- stripper, I'm only 24 years old now and began stripping at the age of 17 and was exposed to a world I should not have seen at such a young age. Believe me, sex is awesome, masturbation can be satisfying, but beware not ti indulge yourselve into too many make belief fantasies and because you may become obsessed with these fantasie..which are just that.
Trust me, you may be watching soft porn now, but It's so easy to find yourself getting aroused by harder, stranger porn in the future. Who would choose to have guilty thoughtd of things you would rather wish did not turn you on. Choose reality, be passionate and try your own moves when you get a partner and don't become a porn zombie who ends up only being able to get his self off at the nastiest thoughts.
Good Luck
PS. Porn stars ARE treated very badly, all very messed up people with sad stories. You should not be apart of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): absolutely nothing wrong with masterbating. It is a completely normal human activity that can be enjoyable and relaxing at the same time. Daily. and can be done alone or in company. Between a loving married couple, as part of sex, between lovers and for those on their own. And very satisfying too. Men can do it. Women can do it. It's all good.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 There's a difference between porn and masturbation.
Masturbation is a perfectly reasonable thing for adolescent males to do. It's normal, it's healthy, it's been part of growing up forever.
Porn is something relatively new, in the context of what you can find on the internet. Internet porn is a very bad idea for young pubescent guys because it gives a really, really wrong idea of what sex with a real girl is like. Guys who surf porn at 13, and who get a girlfriend at 14, can have a completely wrong idea of what's supposed to go on.
It's a very good idea to not look at porn. But masturbate all you want.
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reader, Ignacio ramos +, writes (20 February 2011):
Its all good you are at a young age in life that you are discovering your body so don't fell bad about it don't stop have fun never do it in public restrooms
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): alright porn is definitely ok to watch you should feel no shame there the women aren't coerced into anything they do what they do bc they get paid and they like doing that.. and masterbating please everyone does it whether in a relationship or not it is perfectly normal and perfectly healthy actually very healthy it lets you know your junk is working and lets you know if you need to see a doctor.. so keep going at it if you wish but definitely dont feel shame or embarassment
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reader, Leah Knowles  +, writes (20 February 2011):
Masturbating is okay, but please, don´t watch porn. The women in porn are abused, tortured and coerced to do it. By wathcing porn you support such violence.
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reader, geordie29 +, writes (19 February 2011):
youwish. can you please expand on your response...'Porn is the other issue. Porn can become addictive because it stimulates your brain to release endorphines similar to any drug'
im not aware that this is the case. im not saying your wrong i would just like some more info. thanks
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (19 February 2011):
 There are no health benefits to stop masturbating. There are no health detriments to masturbating. God won't kill three kittens every time you masturbate. Unless you want to be with a girlfriend who condemns porn, there is no reason to stop what you enjoy doing. If you read stuff on here regularly you can see girls complaining about boys watching porn but you should be with a girl who is confident with herself and her sexuality. "It ruins sex experience." Are you having sex now? Masturbating, for some men, depletes him of vitality so it may affect his next performance the next day but there is no reason to stop masturbating if you are single.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (19 February 2011):
 I think these are two different issues here, so I'll answer each issue.
Masturbation in itself is healthy as long as it doesn't interfere with your ability to enjoy sex, and doesn't become obsessive (i.e. 10 times per day until your penis is raw).
Some people will unintentionally train their bodies to only respond to masturbation to the exclusion of partner sex, which can cause anxiety for both parties.
Porn is the other issue. Porn can become addictive because it stimulates your brain to release endorphines similar to any drug.
Your decisions involving if and how you use porn are yours alone. My personal opinion is that you have nothing to feel guilty about. However, if you feel it's getting out of hand and throwing your life off balance, then it's very mature of you to identify that and make decisions based on what you want to do with your life.
Good luck!
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