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writes:Its been two years now since I broke up with my ex of five years and although I caught him cheating on me, and I ended things, and have not spoken to him since. He was my best friend. I am wondering if he ever regrets what he did? Or if he ever thinks about all the fun we would have?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): I think whether or not he regrets it depends on the nature of his cheating and whether he felt justified in doing it, or whether he felt the other woman was his real true love. You say he was your best friend. You may have considered him your best friend, but was the feeling mutual - did he consider you his best friend?
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reader, ShiShisAdvice +, writes (4 February 2011):
 I would say YES! he thinks about what could have been. But men are wired differently than us. He will not let it affect the REST of his life. So don't you do it either. Move on. You will be the better for it. And of course, NEVER do what was done to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't want to get back with him. I guess it would be more of remorse rather than regret. I was just curious if he ever felt bad for what he did....if he would think of his actions, or if he just has no empathy at all. I don't know if it makes any sense, but to know he felt bad, or at least thought of what he did, maybe I could finally reach closure. It's not every day I think of it.....it just hits me every once in a while, everything he did!
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reader, Leodjoneluv +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Wow! two years is too long to be thinking back. He has a whole new life now. I say move on and give your self a fresh start by meeting a new man. Sometimes you simply have to move forward in life
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): It's possible he does but he's the only one who can tell you for sure.
Why do you want to know?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): I'm sure he does think of you from time to time. We all remember people who have featured in our lives. But beyond that, I would say his life has moved on and you'd be best adviced not to dwell on what he thinks. It changes nothing. If you can, just look forward, otherwise you spend all your time looking back.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 February 2011):
 If you two were best friends, then I'm sure he does. However, Shania's right. Two years, and not a single noise asking for forgiveness.
You, however, have to redirect your ego from wondering what was so wrong with you that he cheated on you. It's been two years. Hopefully, you're a better person by having dropped him from your life, and if you're not, what will it take to move on?
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reader, shania  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Maybe he did, maybe he didn't...who knows? Its been 2 years now and he hasn't exactly, broken down your door and beg you for forgiveness...or did he? No doubt he has probably met someone else now and even if he had felt guilty about cheating on you,what difference would it make to you? Your not in his life anymore,he has moved on,I suggest you do the same,only because its so fruitless...pining for a lost lover who has done nothing to get you back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): He probably regrets being caught.
If he was the sort of person to regret abusing your relationship, then he wouldn't have cheated in the first place.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 February 2011):
Some people cheat, and genuinely realize they've made a mistake. Others cheat, and don't give a damn. My feelings are more people don't give a damn. On the basis of that, I don't think your ex is bothered. I really wouldn't spend time wondering whether he remembers or regrets. I doubt he does.
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