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writes: dear cupid,soo, this might seem like a really weird question, but it's something that really bugs me and that i actually catch myself thinking about quite a bit. i've received oral sex from two other guys...and to be completely honest, i wasn't really all that crazyy about it. people talk about it like it's some awesome, wonderful thing...and i really didn't think it was. i liked it a little bit better with the second guy than with the first, but...well, let's just say that there weren't fireworks going off or anything really drastic like that.my question is, since oral sex doesn't really do a whole lot for me, am i going to feel the same way about actual intercourse? and could there possibly be a specific reason that i didn't enjoy oral?
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reader, KelseyLeeann  +, writes (7 February 2011):
whenever i first had oral i didnt like it at all.
it actually freaked me out a little bit.
but sex is nothing like oral.
it is definitely WAY better.
also,about the oral.
it grows on you,try&have the guy not only eat you out but finger you as well,does the trick for me ;)
hope this helps!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 February 2011):
 First of all, you are still very young. The "boys" who tried to please you orally were presumably also still very young and likely had no idea about what they were doing. I know, however, that perhaps you and most young folks like to think that you have everything figured out, or soon will. But you don't and you won't - and someday you will know that you didn't. My advice to you is to chill out about your concerns - there's no reason to hurry. Someday, when you meet an experienced man and you have also matured, you will likely enjoy most everything about healthy sex. You have millions of years of desire stored in your genes. Don't rush it.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (2 February 2011):
 You probably won't like it at all if you're like most women you'll just 'tolerate' it until it's over then breath a sigh of relief and dream up excuses for the next time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): There are lots of possible reasons why you didn't like it. Oral may just not be your thing, we're all different, so you may just be one of those people who isn't aroused by it, maybe the guys were inexperienced, maybe the mood wasn't right etc.
as for intercourse, I would go into it with an open mind, just go with the flow and relax, so long as your not pressured, and be safe lol
Good luck xx
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reader, YouWish +, writes (2 February 2011):
 You might not have enjoyed oral because they either weren't doing it right, or you were too tense, or it felt weird.
Actual intercourse is a bit different, but it is a technique that gets better with multiple times.
You don't have to answer this publicly, but do you spend time getting to know your own body? Can you give yourself pleasure? That I think is the single greatest thing for your love life - the ability to know what YOU respond to and what works for you. Then you can show him what works for you. No matter how much experience a guy has, all girls are different.
You know yourself better than anyone else ever could. You just need to let yourself go and be relaxed with both yourself and with your partner.
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