I am beginning to hate my best friend
Q. i am beginning to hate my best friend and i don't know what to do so basically... we have been friends for the past 3 years, since the start of high school and now i'm beginning to find her more and more annoying she is REALLY moody, and it's ...
A. 22 December 2014: I understand you still wanting to have her in your life, as part of your group. But, as I see it your friend seems really narcissistic, and friends like that can be toxic and damage your own self esteem, at the very least. If she's racist aga... (read in full...)
Unhappily married and strongly attracted to another woman
Q. Hi last week I went out for a Christmas meal and drinks with colleagues and it ended up with just me and a girl. We both work remotely from the office and see each other on the odd occasion but live near each other. Anyway we ended up have a couple...
A. 16 December 2014: Firstly, DO NOT pursue this woman. She has made it perfectly clear that she does not want an affair with you, and if you push things it is only going to make things worse--especially in regards to work. Sexual harassment lawsuits start that way. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be sexually attracted to your cousin?
Q. I've been attracted to my cousin for as long as I can remember. She is the only female cousin I know of, and on my mother's side of the family, she is the only girl. At least in my generation. I didn't think nothing of it when I was younger because ...
A. 4 December 2014: I do not consider this normal at all. It's one thing to say how pretty she is, and love her as family...but you used the word "lust." that is not normal for a blood relative.
I'm going to give you the same advice I'd given to someone in a sim... (read in full...)
I have a secret crush on my cousin
Q. Hi I'm here because well to ask a question about this person but not just any person he's my cousin and I really like him but I don't know if he will feel the same what should I do im 13 and he's 13 also ...
A. 3 December 2014: You're really young, and have your whole life ahead of you. And, there is an entire world full of eligible young men out there--ones who aren't related to you. ;)
Crushes come and go in your life...I wouldn't put too much stock in this cousin o... (read in full...)
Why do women cheat?
Q. I don't mean to sound sexist or come off as judgemental I'm just really curious as to why married women cheat? I mean I can understand why men cheat, they produce sperm like every freakin day of their life so of course they're gonna wanna let ...
A. 21 November 2014: I think the reasons men and women cheat are way more than just biological. I think you can break cheaters into 3 categories: 1) some people are just compulsive cheaters by nature, 2) some are opportunists who think they will do "just once, but ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my married lover
Q. I've been in a relationship with an older married man for a year. In the last year, my feelings have grown for him, and I am in love. I know it's selfish, but I want more of his time to be spent with me. He insists that it will get better, but I'm ...
A. 10 November 2014: I agree with Honeypie...you are FAR too young to tie yourself down to someone who just gives you bits and pieces of his time.
He's using you! That's all it is! You need to be strong, to realize what's going on, and to end this "affair.... (read in full...)
I lied about a past relationship and he'll end it if he finds out
Q. So.. My boyfriend and I are great together. We get along, and are very much attached. One problem.. He asked me if I've ever been intimate with a black man. I lied and said no. (we are both white). I ask him what's the difference even if I had? He ...
A. 9 November 2014: Sounds like there is some racism on his part. If there is, it's not going to involve this one issue...
It'll affect your life if you have friends that are black (or any other race for that matter), family members that are biracial, even neighbor... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was holding ex and kissing her on the face. Did he cheat?
Q. I have been with my bf for about a month. He is my coworker and he left his live in gf of over a year to be with me. I found out that he talks with her either by text or call everyday still. And he still see's her once or twice a week. Works on her ...
A. 9 November 2014: It's hard to say if he's cheating on you...or still in some way "with" her and cheating on her with you.
Regardless, dump this loser!
You deserve someone who loves YOU and ONLY YOU! ... (read in full...)
Am I paranoid or is this a good gut feeling that he's cheating?
Q. I've been with my bf over a month now met over the internet. i'm 24 , hes 25. Everything is going, treats me like a queen. We've been on two weekends away (already i know) and met up in between. Thing is he normally msgs me every morning, ...
A. 9 November 2014: I don't necessarily thing it means cheating, but it could mean there is an altogether different issue.
It could be a simple communication issue between the two of you. He wants you to initiate communication...that's why he's pulling back. T... (read in full...)
My gut is telling me he's not faithful!
Q. Lately, I've been rather doubtful of my fiancé's loyalty. I caught him liking other girls photo on facebook. And suddenly I get all jealous. He wasn't normally like this. For weeks My gut has been telling me that he's not faithful. He gets all ...
A. 8 November 2014: Always trust your gut...
Being that you've been through this before (with the other 3 guys) your awareness is probably heightened. You're probably in tune to the behavior and "tell tale signs."
His projecting his anger onto you for questioning ... (read in full...)
I want to get married at Disney World but he doesn't
Q. I got engaged a few month ago and need some help. Since I was 10 I said I was going to get married at Disneyworld and I've never changed my mind. My fiance wants a big wedding here. I don't!! All we do I argue over it because I want to go to ...
A. 3 November 2014: In light of this new information, I think maybe you should question whether this man is the right guy for you.
It seems like he is being a control freak, especially if he will not even opt to go to Disney World with you for your honeymoo... (read in full...)
I want to get married at Disney World but he doesn't
Q. I got engaged a few month ago and need some help. Since I was 10 I said I was going to get married at Disneyworld and I've never changed my mind. My fiance wants a big wedding here. I don't!! All we do I argue over it because I want to go to ...
A. 2 November 2014: Have you considered a Mock Wedding? You could have your dream wedding at Disney World, and then come home and have another wedding, reciting your vows again in front of your family and friends.
I agree with jls022 that it's all about compromi... (read in full...)
I cheated my girlfriend and she found out?
Q. Ok so I've been dating my girlfriend Karen for two years, I'm 24 and she is 23. But about a month ago, I did the worst possible thing I could've done, I cheated on her with her best-friend Eva (not they real names). I knew that Eva had a thing for ...
A. 2 November 2014: Personally, I don't think you're mature enough to handle a real commitment at this point. I don't mean it in a harsh way--I mean that you are really young and may be more into the idea of dating different girls than having a serious relationship. ... (read in full...)
I have trouble with eye contact with people and I look down or I stare. What to do? I Need help.
Q. Omg, i am terrible when it comes to eye contact! I am 15 now but ever since i started secondary school (11yo) i've had trouble keeping eye contact, especially with teachers. I used to NEVER make eye contact, look down etc. except when i spoke to ...
A. 27 October 2014: I can totally understand, and relate. I am a shy person too, and have trouble making eye contact due to a medical condition. An old theater professor once told me to look at a person's forehead if it's too hard to make eye contact. And, I... (read in full...)
I snooped ... and I think he's cheated on me!
Q. I know what I did is bad, but I think what I found is worse... I snooped on my boyfriend's facebook account and found him talking to an ex flame which he told me they're just friends now... I would like a stranger's opinion on whether these...
A. 6 October 2014: I'm sorry, but it does look like he's not only cheating but making serious attempts to get back with his ex behind your back.
I would either confront him, and let him know that you know what's going on and let him explain things. Have a seriou... (read in full...)
Sex with Guy at work. Do I try to dodge her questions or tell her the truth, and lose her as a friend?
Q. So a few weeks ago I had sex with a guy that I work with, it was just a one time thing as we are just friends and I was leaving the job and we both wanted to have sex with each other. However now I feel really guilty as one of my close friends real...
A. 29 September 2014: I hate to be blunt, but it is just my nature. It is also my nature to be brutally honest with you.
You're going to hurt her feelings anyway, and you are probably going to lose her as a friend as a result.
That being said, just be honest w... (read in full...)
Ever since boyfriend showed me naked photos of him and his ex girlfriends things have changed
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months now and things started out beautiful but that something beautiful is dying now. We met through an social network dating site and when we first decided to meet up, I was reluctant and scared, but I went ...
A. 24 September 2014: Sorry, honey he is playing you. Your jealousy and insecurity is NOT the problem, HE is. I recommend you just end it with him permanently. You really need to end it and rule him out as a "bad seed". You love who you thought he was--now you ... (read in full...)
She has caused trouble for us and my friend and I cannot stand her. How can we drop her from our lives?
Q. My friends and I have this issue that we really can't talk to an adult in our lives about without getting into trouble and we don't know how to solve the problem either. There's this girl who hangs around us who we really just don't like and w...
A. 20 September 2014: Did you ever think that YOU are part of the problem?
Look, playing the "Mean Girlz" routine is NEVER the answer.
I understand your concern about her lying...and being a pest...And, getting you all into trouble...
BUT, did you ever think of te... (read in full...)
What does it mean if she never initiates contact?
Q. Hey everyone I need some advice as to what's going on. I've recently started hanging out with an old friend about 2 months ago and I recently asked her out on a date about 2 weeks ago. I let her know I was interested . She said yes and I belive the ...
A. 20 September 2014: Some girls are "taught" (for lack of a better word) that the guy should initiate contact. That we'd be seen as "chasing" a guy if we text or call first...
That could be what she's thinking.
So I wouldn't feel too bad that you're the one init... (read in full...)
16 years of marriage and I've lost the spark for my wife. How can I get it back?
Q. We have been married for 16 years, four kids, financially stable...I have never cheated. I don't think she has ever cheated. This has been building for some time now: when I look at her, there is just no sexual spark. It's gotten to the point where ...
A. 19 September 2014: That spark can return, but it may take time. I recommend doing things which help you focus on each other--IE, focusing on each other in a romantic sense rather than a routine hubby/wife sense. Try to go on dates once a week--REAL dates, l... (read in full...)
Why are they rubbing their relationship in my face?
Q. I have been divorced for 3 yrs. I didn't have a great marriage as my ex husband had an affair with his older child's mother. I took him back knowing what was going on and stayed in that crap for 8 yrs. One day I filed for divorced and never ...
A. 19 September 2014: I think your ex is insecure and trying to engage in one-upmanship against you because of your newfound happiness.
I think it's best to just ignore him as best that you can, and tell his mistress (or whatever) to cease and desist from contacti... (read in full...)
Which internet guy do I pick? If any?
Q. Which guy do i choose? Both are from the internet. Guy 1) Met twice, one occasion being going to a restaurant. He paid fully for the bill, i did offer and he joked saying i could pay for desert in this other restaurant. He opens doors for me, (r...
A. 19 September 2014: I would definitely nix the first guy, as he's already showing signs of dishonesty by saying that he hates texting...then texts away while you are not looking. NOT a good sign.
The second guy I would take it slow with...and get to know him bett... (read in full...)
I hope nothing is wrong but am worried he is playing games!
Q. Hello im a 36 year old woman in a long distance relationship with a 48 year old man. He's in NY and im in GA but, he is planning on relocating to Ga to be with me. But sometimes things dont go so well between us, he accused me on two different ...
A. 9 January 2014: Sorry you are going through this. I am going to start by telling you what I tell a lot of other people (including myself). If you're being accused of cheating, and you are not...then it's a good sign that he is the one doing the cheating. Maybe th... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair but the woman would not leave him alone.
Q. Please help. My hubby had an affair with this girl about 2 years ago and we resolved the issue. But now th ex refuses to let go. She calls my husband's phn daily, sometimes with different numbers, even up to more than 10 times each day and says sh ...
A. 28 December 2013: This person has become a stalker, and if she's making threats you should definitely contact the police. "no means no" applies to women, as well as men. If he really doesn't want to talk to her, keeps blocking her, etc. And, she still keeps tryi... (read in full...)
My husband never seems to notice hot women.....EVER!
Q. Hello, I am in my 20s and my husband is great, perfect even. He takes me out, listens to be me, we have a great sex life, we hardly fight. It's wonderful. However.... I recently began to notice that he never seems to notice young attractive...
A. 28 December 2013: And, this is a problem because...? Honey, there is nothing WRONG with your husband not looking at other women. In fact, it's a show of love and respect toward you that he DOESN'T; so just appreciate that fact and relax.;) I personally wouldn'... (read in full...)
His ex wife wants him back!
Q. Well hello I really need some help... I been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he has two kids with his ex wife... Things have been great with us and he has been there for me through everything... I love his children too... The day w...
A. 23 December 2013: Sorry, honey. It sounds like you were his rebound, and you have been his second choice since the beginning.
Kick him to the curb NOW, don't let him be the one to dictate when he leaves. Don't feel bad, and let yourself miss him because it's obv... (read in full...)
He keeps telling me he is going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend kissed me when he was trying to break up with me yesterday. I found that to be confusing in itself. Then 15 minutes later he changed his mind and was all over me and said he wants to be with me and wants me to be his girlfriend!!! ...
A. 23 December 2013: I empathize with your situation. I have been in a very similar situation with my ex-boyfriend for the past three years. Maybe not to the same extent, but very similar. We broke up three times during the course of our relationship because of his ... (read in full...)
I feel my husband is much too close to another woman. He says I'm making it up. Who's right?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I have a question about my husband´s choice. He has many female friends since I met him, and ex girl friends, and ex ``love of his life `` in high school time. So,I knew that he kinda have contact always with them. But since a ...
A. 10 December 2013: I agree with what the others have said. If he's not cheating on you already, then he's planning on it...with her.
He's being untrustworthy, and disrespectful.
It's really ignorant of him to block YOU, his wife, ON FB! If anything, he sho... (read in full...)
How do Atheist men date when most women are Christians or believers?
Q. Many women are believers or Christians etc. I'm not saying you can't date at all, that's absurd, all I'm trying to convey is that your dating pool is rather limited. Like at my college, most women seem to be believers. I know this because in ...
A. 1 December 2013: Ooh, I meant keeping your mind open to the possibility of meeting a religious girl who is also open-minded, that you can get along well with. ;) ... (read in full...)
How do Atheist men date when most women are Christians or believers?
Q. Many women are believers or Christians etc. I'm not saying you can't date at all, that's absurd, all I'm trying to convey is that your dating pool is rather limited. Like at my college, most women seem to be believers. I know this because in ...
A. 1 December 2013: I think it's quite possible for you to have a normal, healthy relationship with a person of any faith--as long as you have respect for each other. I am a christian, and my boyfriend is not religious at all. We have a very healthy relationshi... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him? Can we work through this or do I write off the last five years?
Q. Hey guys I really need some advice. So here goes ... I have been together with my boyfriend *dave ( not his real name) for about 5 and years and a half. We live together, we have a dog we have joint bank account I mean everything we are basically ...
A. 30 November 2013: You made one mistake, and that was while you were APART, according to what you said. IF you really were broken up at that time, then you were NOT necessarily in the wrong,( and he is just using your guilt to validate his own actions.)
He, h... (read in full...)
Is this man attracted to his daughter and possibly her friends?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for two years, we got engaged but his daughter had become jealous and wanted me out of there, so we are no longer engaged. He engages in alot of pornography, and while snooping I came across lots of fantasies about ...
A. 30 November 2013: There are too many red flags here. You need to think of yourself, and your daughter and get out of this situation.
1. End the relationship ASAP (if you haven't already) and cease all contact with him, especially to protect your daughter... (read in full...)
He believes what people told him about me and wants a divorce
Q. So my husband was in Afghanistan for 9 months. He just recently got back. Some ppl I know told him I had been cheating on him, which I didn't. He is so cold now, and just wants a divorce. We don't talk, he has changed so much. Should I just get a ...
A. 30 November 2013: One of my good friends went through something similar with her ex-fiance who was a Marine. Some so-called friends put a bug in his ear that she was cheating on him while he was in basic training (or something like that) and he believed them over ... (read in full...)
A guy told me he's been having sex with my girlfriend and while I know it's a lie, it's still bothering me!
Q. A bloke came up to me in my local the other night and told me he's been having sex with my girlfriend for the past 4 months. He explained that she was waiting for the right time to tell me it's over.I just burst out laughing at the thought of my ...
A. 29 November 2013: I agree with YouWish 100% on this. It seems to me like he's stalking and harassing both of you. It seems that he wants you to think that she was cheating, etc so that you'd break up with her and he could go after her. That's the behavior... (read in full...)
Trying to end the affair but he won't take no for an answer
Q. It's been 4 yrs since I have been friends with a married man. We are not sexually active but we like each other a lot. What keeps me from having sex is the fact he is married and 36 yrs older than me. It bothers me that I care about him. It even ...
A. 28 November 2013: Yes, you need to end this. And, you can do so if you want to. It begins with you taking control. Guys like him like controlling you, pulling you back in, and having the upper hand.
If you take that away from them, you have already taken th... (read in full...)
Should I stop flirting and let my friend have him since she's been dying for her first bf for ages? Should I tell my friend I like him too?
Q. I'm 17 and I have a crush on a boy 3 months my younger (I don't usually opt for youngers I think its weird). He's in the RAF and he's a very funny, mature and caring guy who makes me smile. The only problem is that one of my friends likes him too. ...
A. 27 November 2013: You're young and do not yet accept the psychology behind this. That is that it's POSSIBLY a competitive thing with you.
That can kill friendships. It all depends on how much your friendship with this girl means to you. Is it worth risking ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells his best female friend that she is pretty and they talk about graphic sex
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for around six months now and we are very happy. He has a female best friend that he is very close to and says how much he loves her. He openly admits they talk about sex quite grafically and tell eachother when they ...
A. 25 November 2013: Yes you should be worried. You need to get OUT of this relationship ASAP. The female he should be closest to--of ANYBODY with the exception of his mama and sisters--and the ONLY person he should be talking about these things to is YOU!
I hat... (read in full...)
My ex and I are back together but he was dating another girl during our break and I wonder things like if he "loved" her and how serious they were
Q. so my ex and i have started to rekindle things a bit. we have been broken up for about 4 months and i know through friends that he had a brief girlfriend sometime during the time we were broken up. i cant help but think about that other relationship ...
A. 21 November 2013: Just focus on "NOW" and the fact that he is with you now, and loves you.
It's unhealthy to dwell on the past, and who he was with during your break. I'm with everyone else that says that girl was just a rebound.
Obviously, he's with you no... (read in full...)
If he's happy then why is he still on dating sites?
Q. Hi everyone, I am hoping someone (preferably with experience of this) could shed some light on my problem. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a bit more than three years. He says he is happy. If he is happy, then why does he keep going to dating ...
A. 21 November 2013: Miss Led, Just as he was turning things around on you by accusing you of cheating, he's turning things around on you by accusing you of "game playing" when he's the one playing a game on you. Don't buy for one minute that "nobody else wou... (read in full...)
If he's happy then why is he still on dating sites?
Q. Hi everyone, I am hoping someone (preferably with experience of this) could shed some light on my problem. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a bit more than three years. He says he is happy. If he is happy, then why does he keep going to dating ...
A. 21 November 2013: I don't think happiness has anything to do with why he's on those sites--I think he's just a typical cheater. He would cheat on anyone he's with.
The fact that he gets mad at you for "prying" and accuses you of being a cheater are the signs th... (read in full...)
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