How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?
Q. I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...
A. 25 January 2011: Oh yeah. "Felt like peeing". She had an orgasm. :)
Way to go!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to take a break and its making me feel rejected and horrible...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a month now. We moved in together very early and are currently living together. We've had some big fights but everything has been calm for a couple months. Then yesterday he started acting ...
A. 25 January 2011: It's very clear what you need to do now. Focus on getting onto your feet financially. This is now your primary goal. Work on getting that job and being able to be self-sufficient so that you can get away from the guy.
Here's the problem.... (read in full...)
My husband seems to be cheating on me...
Q. i think my husband is cheating on me. he rarely makes love to me and is behaving in a suspicious way. he used to let me check his phone but refuses to let me near it lately. most of the time hes at home he will carry it around in his pocket which...
A. 25 January 2011: Yeah, unfortunately, it sure does sound like he is cheating. You can either do more research into his exact actions, and there are a lot of ways you can surveil him and many places that sell equipment that helps to track your husband's ... (read in full...)
She says sex is all I care about!
Q. I'm an 18 year old male and I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years. The first time we had sex was on our one year anniversary and after that we did it about once a week. But we haven't had any sexual contact with each other for the last 5 ...
A. 25 January 2011: Yikes. I would be concerned too. You both established and maintained a sexual relationship, yet she cut it off 7 months ago and deflecting conversation regarding her loss of interest in having sex with you.
There could be a great number of reaso... (read in full...)
How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?
Q. I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...
A. 24 January 2011: Birdman, I didn't say it was a "favorable" timeline, as any timeline before you have to break up in the end is bittersweet. However, 8 months ia a good chunk of time, and as they say, the bitterness of the impending breakup makes the time you have ... (read in full...)
He's cheating on me. Should I tell the others?
Q. I'm sure this question has been asked and answered a hundred times, but I have to ask. I've been dating a man for three years. I thought our relationship was exclusive. We had the talk. We agreed. Time and time again I had suspicions but e...
A. 24 January 2011: GROSS! First of all, I'm sorry you got mixed up in this filthy guy. I hope you got yourself tested for STD's.
Normally, I wouldn't advise talking to his other girlfriend, but if you worry about her safety, then you should. However, and this is ... (read in full...)
How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?
Q. I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...
A. 24 January 2011: Illithid brought up the "feeling" of a clit having an orgasm. The clit itself does not spasm like a penis does. It's the muscles in the vagina and anus that pulses when it happens. What happens to the clit under your tongue is that it will ... (read in full...)
My wife has webcam sex chats with men, and hides things from me. Should I be worried?
Q. My wife does webcam sex chats and hides a lot of stuff from me. Should I be worried? ...
A. 24 January 2011: What do you do for a living full time that isn't paying the bills in the US? Do you have debts? If so, you need to reduce your expenses big time. Maybe the house is too much for you right now.
She doesn't want to put her kids into day care? I... (read in full...)
How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?
Q. I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...
A. 24 January 2011: Hmm...you are (or were...I wasn't clear) both virgins. That makes much more sense now.
Then it's very possible that she's either faking it, or more likely, she's enjoying what you're doing to her and doesn't realize that it could get much bet... (read in full...)
How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?
Q. I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...
A. 24 January 2011: Flushing is a good sign of orgasm. Breathing and oversensitivity is another good sign. Not many women squirt when they orgasm, so I wouldn't rely on that as the definitive sign.
How do you have a hard time finding and handling her clit? Do you ... (read in full...)
I'm a closet gay. I'd like to come out but I'm afraid to
Q. Hey, I'm 15 and am a closet gay. Lately I've been having this urge to tell someone about it. I live in a country where there are not all that many gay guys. In fact even my brother is not really okay with gay people. I cant tell anyone in my school, ...
A. 24 January 2011: You're 15 years old. Right now, you are dependent on others to be supported. If your family are against gay people, I would advise waiting until you are an adult and starting your life. Then you can come out and they will have to deal with it. ... (read in full...)
Why was his reply "good" when I said I was falling for him?
Q. During the heat of the moment with a guy I have been seeing for almost 4 months I told him I am falling for him and he said "good" I think I should of kept my mouth shut. He tells me he is crazy about me and i had been away for 3 weeks and he told ...
A. 24 January 2011: "Good"...heh. This one's an easy one. I'm guessing that he would consider it weakness to reveal too much of how he really feels toward you. He told you he was crazy about you and that he couldn't believe he missed you so much. That's the kicker ... (read in full...)
Concerned about my boyfriend watching one particular porn star daily!
Q. Hello all, please let me know if I should be concecrned here. I recently found out that my boyfriend looks at porn daily. I also found out that he subscribes to one girl's porn/webcam site so all the porn he has is just of her. I have been feelin...
A. 24 January 2011: Yikes! Forget about comparing yourself with her. Forget about not feeling good enough. Don't even allow yourself to BEGIN to feel badly because of his little online shrine to this porn star.
I would be more concerned about the pure creepy s... (read in full...)
He said""he was too scared to commit because he loved me.." so he dumped me for another girl...and now wants to get back!!
Q. Last year I started talking to this guy who lived down the street from me, and eventually he asked me to the upcoming semi-formal dance. However, 5 days later he decided to get a girlfriend from a different school. After that day, I had a hatred for ...
A. 24 January 2011: What a moron. He dumped you when he had you, yet he wants you back when someone else has you.
He has the maturity of a dust mite, and he had his shot with you. Unless you are a masochist, tell him to shove it where the sun doesn't shine, b... (read in full...)
Would this gesture of mine seem romantic or creepy?
Q. Hello, I would like to know if this would be cute or creepy. I this girl and I have been talking and we are really into each other I mean really. Anyways I am seeing her this Saturday and I am going to ask her to be my girlfriend. I want to make ...
A. 24 January 2011: How sweet! You're on the right track, because we love jewelry! However, I would suggest it not being a ring. Rings are like "promise" rings, "purity rings" (I'm sure you're not sending the message to her that you want zero sex with her ;)) or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to take a break and its making me feel rejected and horrible...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a month now. We moved in together very early and are currently living together. We've had some big fights but everything has been calm for a couple months. Then yesterday he started acting ...
A. 24 January 2011: Ahh geeze. I'm sorry you feel that way. Listen, I know it's easier said than done, but your boyfriend telling you he wants "a break" isn't about you not being good enough. It could boil down to not being compatible personality-wise. It could ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend so distant when it comes to sex?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and we are no longer intimate. When we first got together, we had sex at least twice a day, but we haven't had sex in about 6 weeks. I have even tried lingerie and 'dressing up' for him, but ...
A. 24 January 2011: Guys that young who used to do it twice a day don't usually just stop unless there is a reason.
Given his age and his past huge sexual need, it looks like one of four things to me:
1. He's bored with you and sex isn't as stimulating with... (read in full...)
I was a sneak and called her nasty names because I thought I was being played by her....do you think she would ever want to get in touch with me again?
Q. I was friends with a girl and her husband for over three years. Seven months after they broke up we started fooling around but she had a boyfriend. She said she loved me but had to be with the other guy for now. I felt like i was getting played ...
A. 24 January 2011: If she's smart, she'll get as far away from you as she possibly can. Do you honestly think that by burning your bridge with this woman and trying to hurt her in this way is going to endear her to you?? What would you do if she wasn't married? ... (read in full...)
My wife contributes very little to our relationship
Q. My wife and I have been married for two years and I'm worried about our future because she contributes very little to our relationship. I bring in 100% of the money (I'm putting her through college), but in return she doesn't clean, cook, take ...
A. 23 January 2011: What was she like before you were married? Do you have children? When you were dating, how did she live? If she was on her own, was her house done, her own laundry/dishes done, and I assume she took care of her dog prior to meeting you?
There... (read in full...)
I think my in laws are stalking me online
Q. I think my inlaws are stalking me online. A few years ago I posted a story about how awful a certain in-law had behaved towards me and how upset I was and asked what I could do about it got a few replies but the in-law it was regarding found out and ...
A. 23 January 2011: Yeah..this is definitely a lesson on never bashing family on the internet. How much more damage can you do to yours and your wife's relationship to her parents?
The damage done is probably close to irreversible, and of course they're going to... (read in full...)
My wife has webcam sex chats with men, and hides things from me. Should I be worried?
Q. My wife does webcam sex chats and hides a lot of stuff from me. Should I be worried? ...
A. 22 January 2011: Absolutely you should be worried.
It is a betrayal of you and I'm sure that's how you feel when you think about her exposing herself to other men to get off on.
There is no excuse or verbal acrobatics she can use to justify her behavior. You n... (read in full...)
Should I reconcile with my ex now, or wait until she and my best friend break up. I am somewhat turned on knowing he is with her.
Q. My girlfriend and I had a heated argument a few days ago. Yesterday, I was having a drink with my best friend, we have been friends since high school. He asked me how Linda was and I told him we had split and that she was fair game. I knew that he ...
A. 22 January 2011: You told your best friend that your ex was "fair game" meaning he had the green light to date her. If you sneak back in and take her from him secretly or otherwise, you will definitely lose your best friend.
You made an emotional and impulsiv... (read in full...)
I don't feel his erection through his pants, does this mean he is really small?
Q. I have recently met this guy online whom I like quite a lot. I wouldn't say I am in love with him since we have only been on four dates but we have reasonable chemistry and get along otherwise. We have made out twice already, pants on but I don't ...
A. 21 January 2011: Hmm...it's sorta possible that he could be small, but you can feel an erection through cloth pants of a really small penis'ed person too.
It's more likely that he doesn't have an erection at the time you're feeling for one. You say you're m... (read in full...)
How do I bring this idea of separation to my husband when we don't even talk anymore?
Q. Im in serious need of help. I have been married for 13 years. We have two kids-12 and 5 years. I am emtionally drained in this marriage. It has come to a point whereby I have long and seriously thought about leaving just to clear my head and think ...
A. 21 January 2011: Okay, first of all, I would advise against the "trial" part of the separation. This marriage sounds like it's already in the coffin. You've tried to talk to him, you say you fear him because he doesn't want to talk about it and blames you for ... (read in full...)
I want to stop being the" Nice guy"!
Q. i feel that I am a nice, friendly, and approachable person. People have told me that on a number of occasions (both guys and girls). Yet, I feel like I am a fairly confident person stuck in a shy persons body. I fit in with a lot of people, b...
A. 20 January 2011: You know, I think society clings to labels like a 3 year old clings to a security blanket or a favorite stuffed animal. Same is true for a guy who is looking for girls. There's the myth that "nice guys finish last" and that girls are only looking ... (read in full...)
Since my wife's breast implants she has changed
Q. I have been married for 4 years, she is 25 and i'm 29. My wife had always wanted to have breast implants, even though she was a nice B cup and had a great body which was toned and firm from going the gym. Anyway, she went ahead with the op in F...
A. 13 January 2011: Sounds like she got married too early in life (21) and is now wanting to sow her wild oats. A married woman shouldn't be acting like this...a night out with the girls is one thing, but constantly every weekend??
I fear you are getting left beh... (read in full...)
What does adventurous really mean? Having sex in weird places?
Q. i had been dating this lad for the past 6 months we split up in march 2010. we havent spoke since but we have recontly just got talking and we both had change, we alwasy used to argue abouot stupid things. in the time we never spoke he starting ...
A. 13 January 2011: Sounds like he's thinking with his penis. "Adventerous" does men having more exotic kinds of sex or much more frequently or yeah, possibly in different areas.
This is not a guy ready to settle down. This is a guy who's got raging hormones... (read in full...)
I want him to know that I know he was lying!
Q. So I am talking to this guy whom I occasionally work with and I hang out with, we have slept together a few times, we hang out more than anything. So he works alot and the other day it was my birthday and we were suspossed to hang out for my ...
A. 10 January 2011: Well, absolutely you should call him on his lie. But before you do, consider what outcome you want the conversation to achieve. To do that, you must decide what you want the relationship to be.
Because I'll tell you now, getting tangled ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to lose weight!
Q. Help! My boyfriend has a problem with my weight. I think I'm pretty hot though, and not overweight at all. I am 5'6 and weigh 132 lbs. His problem is, I've gained weight since we've been together. When we first met, I was a professional dancer and ...
A. 7 January 2011: Like any sport, there are times when you train, and times when you don't. Athletes have periods when they really push the training and then there are times when they don't.
It is unreasonable for him to assume that you would stay at performa... (read in full...)
Girls, why do you get back with cheating exes?
Q. I have developed a crush on a coworker. She is 22 and I'm 27. She has worked there for around 3 years, myself for 5. We hardly ever spoke because our paths at work hardly ever crossed and because she seemed to look away or not appear interest...
A. 6 January 2011: Well, have you ever told her how you feel about her??
There are a lot of things at play when a girl goes back to a guy who treats her badly. There isn't simply one reason, but I'll try to list some.
1. She can't bear the rejection, so sh... (read in full...)
What motivates a man to say "I love you"?
Q. Hey, sorry if this question sounds stupid. I'd like your advice on guy's motives for saying I love you. I've been with my bf 5 months, he's great-caring, kind, funny, sexy, intelligent, thoughtful. He told me last week that he loves me, and said ...
A. 6 January 2011: Awww. You've been with him for five months. He didn't say it too soon so as to suspect his motives, and obviously, he didn't say it in a fight or out of guilt.
When a guy says "I love you", he's making himself vulnerable to you. Those wo... (read in full...)
Do you think a man who gets defensive is guilty?
Q. Do you think a man who gets defensive is guilty? I have been seeing this guy for 8 weeks at first we saw one another 3 -4 times a week suddenly after xmas we slowed down. He seems to be busy or had a quiet weekend. I am not buying it. Something ...
A. 4 January 2011: I'd skip the whole "where were you" thing and focus on the age. That's a pretty big lie to tell someone - an 8 year age difference. You should drop him on no other basis but that. That's not a small issue.
The fact that he's being cagey an... (read in full...)
My boyfriend punched my friend and said I can't see him any more
Q. Today I was hanging out with my best friend(a guy) at a park and we were just talking and having a great time just hanging out. Well then my boyfriend came and got really mad that I was hanging out with my friend. My boyfriend was super mad and he p...
A. 4 January 2011: What are you in love with, exactly? Is it the fact that he has a horrible temper? Is it the fact that he destroys your property (which I'm guessing he isn't paying for)? Is it the fact that he put his hands on you, shoved you, and is now telling ... (read in full...)
How do people have one-night stands or loveless sex?
Q. Hi, OK, this is gonna sound naive, but it is sincere. I am a heterosexual male in my late 30s and I do not understand one-night stands, or having sex with a stranger (like a prostitute) or someone you don't love. I mean, I understand the sex...
A. 3 January 2011: Why would you want to take the emotion out of sex?? You're a keeper if you can'r do that, because the women you fall in love with will be secure that you're not just using them to get off.
Some guys just want to get off. The one night stand wo... (read in full...)
'Taken' guy wants me to be 'open with him', then acts cold..
Q. Hello, I have recently made friends with a guy who is in a long term relationship. Whilst at a friends wedding I become upset and he comforted me and held me really close when I said I was sorry he said he wanted me to be open with him ( we we...
A. 3 January 2011: He felt tempted to cheat with you and chose the honorable thing - to be faithful to his girlfriend/wife/fiance. He realized that he was flirting with danger by holding you close and wanting you to be open, so he backed away.
In my opinion,... (read in full...)
I want our first time to be without a condom!
Q. My girlfriend and I of a year have made a decision to have sex. We plan on doing it really soon as in a few days, and I want to make it the best experience for her. I've heard that she could get pregnant from my precum which is a problem that I ...
A. 2 January 2011: First of all, the Plan B pill isn't a 100% protection. Second of all, is SHE on the pill itself? Maybe you should have her on it before even thinking about this, and third of all, do you love her? If so, why do you want to risk her like this?
... (read in full...)
I am horrible to my girlfriend when drunk
Q. I want to know peoples views on what I should do, and how I can ensure this never happens again. This new years myself and my girlfriend went to a party. I got extremely drunk. I hurt my girfriend's wrists by holding them extremely hard (...
A. 2 January 2011: How can you ensure that this never happens again? That's easy! Give up the alcohol and discover why you have such ugliness inside you. The alcohol is like an amplifier to what is already inside you. Give up the drink, and you keep your ... (read in full...)
He's angry because he found my diary from BEFORE we were together that has pictures of an ex!
Q. soo my bf was looking for something in the spare bedroom and came across my diary. Which of course had pics of my ex and the last time i wrote or even looked in the diary was before my new bf and i were even together! He said he didnt read it...just ...
A. 2 January 2011: "Accidentally" opened your diary? Oh come on! What a complete asshat. A diary is the chronicle of your life. You had an ex boyfriend in your life's history, just as you had friends you don't know anymore and eventa that you don't partake in ... (read in full...)
He's angry because he found my diary from BEFORE we were together that has pictures of an ex!
Q. soo my bf was looking for something in the spare bedroom and came across my diary. Which of course had pics of my ex and the last time i wrote or even looked in the diary was before my new bf and i were even together! He said he didnt read it...just ...
A. 1 January 2011: How would he know there were pictures of an ex in there if he hadn't opened it? I guarantee that he read the whole thing, especially if it made him angry. He violated your privacy by rifling through your private diary.
Do not rip out the page... (read in full...)
Husband is great but he looks at teen porn
Q. So i am 40 weeks pregnant and just got married 2 months ago. My husband is great to me and we planned on having this baby. Problem is, he looks at teen porn. I caught him on the computer before so now he looks at it on his phone..The girls look ...
A. 1 January 2011: Do you know for a fact that these are underaged girls? There are a lot of "barely legal" porn sites out there, so it's important to know whether or not they're actual underaged teens. If they are, then he's in possession of child pornography which ... (read in full...)
Married man or emotionaly unavailable?
Q. I had been seeing a man for over a year, then he broke it off stating he was not ready for a long-term commitment. After 8 months with no contact, we recently reconciled. I suspect he may be married and have tried to ask questions to determine his ...
A. 31 December 2010: Nowadays, it's very simple to tell if someone is married with the internet and public records.
There are background checks (just google those words) that can pull up all public information like marital status, employment, all of his relative... (read in full...)
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