His ex knows things about me only my boyfriend knows, is he still seeing her?
Q. Hi. Recently I've been gone through a lot of dumb stuff with my boyfriend.. we broke up 3 times already but next day we just get together 'cause there is something in the relationship that just keeps us together.. But recently his ex(they was t...
A. 21 April 2011: You two broke up three times and he's been discussing you with his ex and going into personal detail about your life? Understand that your name, age, and location is something that can easily be pulled from the internet. If she has access to hi... (read in full...)
Need help trusting my girlfriend....
Q. Ok me and my girlfriend that i have been dating for about 7 months are having trust problems. It all started about 3 months into our relationship everything was great up till then we had never had a fight or argument in the world. she is the very ...
A. 21 April 2011: I read this twice through and hope I'm getting the story right. First of all, I can tell you with certainty that you *can* trust her. She's not a party girl, and she's kept her virginity. Hardly seems like the behavior pattern of someone who's... (read in full...)
When it comes to intimacy, I'm turned off by my BF who weighs over 300 pounds!!
Q. My boyfriend is over 300 pounds. I don't love him any less because of his weight (I am also 130 pounds), but when it comes to intimacy I am turned off. I feel terrible to think this way but I can't help it. He is trying to lose weight but I am ...
A. 21 April 2011: What was he when you started dating him? It usually takes years and years to get to 300 pounds unless you're really trying to pack on pounds fast.
If he was thin or athletic when you met him and he ballooned fast, it could be a medical conditio... (read in full...)
Marry former porn actress?
Q. There is an organisation for former porn actresses called Pink Cross. These women now won´t have sex any more before married. The question is: Would you have married a former porn actress if you knew she had quit porn and now take distance from this ...
A. 21 April 2011: In a way, I'd think that an ex-porn star would be more loyal to you because she's developed a serious aversion to sleeping around. Given that she really doesn't want to feel "used", she would stay with the man who loves her.
Also keep in mind, sh... (read in full...)
His penis hurts after we have sex and he pulls out. Is this normal?
Q. Hello all. :) Me and my boyfriend have recently started having sex. I was a virgin before him,and am a little bit clueless still to things. He's had other partners before me. The sex is great,but I'm wondering about something. After sex, wh...
A. 20 April 2011: That's normal! A lot of women's clitorises are also painful to the touch right after orgasm, and some can't handle direct stimulation even before it!
Dirtball's right. He probably has really intense orgasms, and anything that rubs on it after... (read in full...)
Ever since she lost her virginity, she has become less interested in sexual activity!
Q. my girlfriend and i have dated for over 2 years now, and in the begginning it was awesome we couldn't keep our hands off each other. the problem is she was "virgin". i enjoyed the stuff we did instead , anal is awesome. but ever since she lost her ...
A. 20 April 2011: Ahh, I had a feeling that that was the case.
There are a few things you can do to overcome her fesr snd anxiety (and YOURS too, it sounds like!)
First, go back to what you were doing before the intercourse. Re-establish the fun parts about ... (read in full...)
Ever since she lost her virginity, she has become less interested in sexual activity!
Q. my girlfriend and i have dated for over 2 years now, and in the begginning it was awesome we couldn't keep our hands off each other. the problem is she was "virgin". i enjoyed the stuff we did instead , anal is awesome. but ever since she lost her ...
A. 20 April 2011: Hold on there.
It could be one of three things. First, many times, intercourse hurts like bloody hell for a woman's first time. She could be in shock over what that entailed. Trust me - if sex hurt you men like crazy the first time, it would... (read in full...)
My sister just walked in on me wanking & I think I'm going to die of embarrassment!!!
Q. Well no easy way to ask this so i'm just gonna blurt it out. My sister just walked in on me wanking and i think i'm going to die from embrassment. This is so much worse than i could imagine. What do i do? Do i say anything to her? Or do i treat it ...
A. 16 April 2011: Eh. You weren't doing something wrong. You were in private, hopefully in your room, It's awkward and embarrassing, but so is passing gas in public. Don't bring it up unless you want to. If she went into your room without knocking, tell h... (read in full...)
I'm in love with this man who I met online, as I've fallen for his personality, but I'm completely repulsed by him physically!!
Q. okay so this is a bit of a weird one. i met this guy on the internet and we quickly became close. for almost 2 years we chatted online every night until the early hours of the morning, and on the phone, texting ect. We've met up a couple of times...
A. 15 April 2011: Yeah, that's a tough one.
Hygiene is such an easy fix, too. Showering, using anti-perspirant, brushing, flossing and not smoking for your breath! Bringing sugar free mints is also a big thing too.
But even so, all of these things do portra... (read in full...)
He hooks up and then just wants to be friends?
Q. So I met this guy at a small gathering just last week and we hung out both friday night and saturday. He was coming onto me a little on friday, but in more of a flirty-friendly way than any other (he didn't come on strong at all), and on saturday we ...
A. 15 April 2011: Well, a good sign is that he hasn't been avoiding you if the two of you are still talking since the hookup.
I guess the only thing to do is ask! Or better yet, ask him out on a date. A proper one, not just hanging out at someone's house. ... (read in full...)
After 2 failed attempts at sex, he doesn't want to try again
Q. My boyfriend and I tried to have sex together for the first time over two months ago. Everything was going good until his roommate came home then he started acting nervous, but we continued to try. When he put the condom on he went limp. I gave ...
A. 15 April 2011: He's having a massive anxiety attack. Men are very performance oriented, and episodes where his equipment "failed" are close to being traumatic.
Give him some patience and love, and his sexual desire will eventually overcome his anxiety. When th... (read in full...)
Help!! My boyfriend thinks I cheated and I haven't.
Q. Please help. I've been with my boyfriend for about five years now and we got into an argument a few nights ago because he thinks I've cheated on him. About four years ago I hung out with one of my boyfriends friends. I had a few drinks with this ...
A. 15 April 2011: First, collect your breath. If you come across as frantic, freaked out, or you're throwing yourself at your boyfriend in an attempt to get him to believe you, stop right now.
Your boyfriend has a problem. If he's not trusting of you, then wha... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but she's too fat. How do I break up?
Q. me and my gf got together about 3 years ago. we both weighed 17 stone. we had a good relationship but in the last 12 months we said we would go on a diet. Now i weight 13 stone. she however weighs 18 and 1/2 stone. i am attracting the attention of ...
A. 15 April 2011: Huh. I won't call you shallow or unkind for this. However, I will call you shortsighted for two reasons.
First, I will state the obvious:
The National Institute of Health, which is backed up by many other similar studies, shows that 98% o... (read in full...)
Husband's emotional affair may turn physical. What do I do?
Q. My husband of 15 years has been masturbating to a picture of someone he met out of state. I found the text message of her in a bikini and discovered that he has been writing to her for over a year. He told her that he imagines that it is her he has ...
A. 13 April 2011: I wouldn't even call this emotional. He's cheating on you. He's telling her that he'll never leave you, but he's imagining it's her while he's having sex with you and telling her he loves her? YUCK.
He doesn't love her more than you. He doesn... (read in full...)
What guy wants a girl with no personality?
Q. i was in a long term relationship for 7 months until it got too much and we split, we split as i had enough of him making me do things like not letting me go out or sometimes even speak to boys, he also stopped me going out with my friends as much, ...
A. 13 April 2011: Your guy is jealous and extremely immature, and you're not strong enough yet to stand up for yourself. If you ever ever allow a guy to have power over you so that you subject yourself to his *letting* you do things or not, then he's not right for ... (read in full...)
I cannot continue to lead a double life with boyfriend
Q. Help... I am in despair. I have been seeing a married man for a year who has been going through emotional abuse due to his wife having affairs and her having control of his life. He just cannot seem to walk away. We have chatted for 3 years before ...
A. 13 April 2011: I'm not a man, but as an objective observer who isn't too close to the action to see the big picture, I will say that you're not getting the whole story about this thing.
First, you're seeing a married man who says that his wife is "emotion... (read in full...)
I asked him if he were 100% sure. He won't answer. What does this mean?
Q. I have recently broke up with my boyfriend - he says he gets to a certain stage in a relationship and cant carry on cos the love is not strong enough. He would like us to be friends cos I have "been a diamond" to him, but wants me to heal. I want...
A. 13 April 2011: It could mean two things. The first is that he's afraid to commit. He doesn't get to that "love is there" stage because he doesn't want to let himself get there, as it means a loss of his sense of control, and it means that he would have to commit ... (read in full...)
A bj with a hooker while on a break and dirty talk with a girl while we were broken up. Why is she mad at me when we weren't even together when this was happening??
Q. hey all. Im in a LDr relationship with my gf. and we both love each other. theres no doubt about that. weve been going for a year and a bit, and weve had a couple of rocky patches. lately ive been thinking about these rocky patches and I wonder if ...
A. 13 April 2011: Well, legally speaking, you're right. If the two of you had broken up, then it wasn't cheating. You were free from the obligation of being faithful to her.
However, I can understand why she got upset with you. Women like to know whether ... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 13 April 2011: Anon...yes, I know the Eve story was complete crap. :)
But you can see where these things become canon and start permeating through people's viewpoints. Religious viewpoints regarding women are a tough thing to crack, especially in nations ... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 12 April 2011: To the anonymous poster who said that women were their own greatest enemy: YES! You are really right! We tear each other apart in a way that no man does with our picking apart looks, sexual and romantic habits, etc.
I've read on numerous... (read in full...)
Don't want to turn him off by bringing drama into our affair
Q. So I met a guy at work who is married and I am married as well and we had a discussion one day about hooking up. I am away for 8 weeks on business and don't have to worry about my man catching me as much as his wife would catch him. We hooked up and ...
A. 12 April 2011: You don't want to mess up what, exactly? The affair? Your thoughts are on how to not cling to him?
Seriously, why aren't any of your thoughts on your husband right now, other than not wanting him to catch you? You just cheated on him! What if ... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 12 April 2011: Heh...I didn't mean wrong. I meant "long". It's late here. :P... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 12 April 2011: My apologies for the OP and everyone who reads this. I have the feeling that this will probably be wrong.
First, I totally understand how you feel, especially in terms of why it feels like society insinuates that it's the goal for a woman to... (read in full...)
I feel as though I've been cheated on and just don't know what to do
Q. My husband and I have been married for a year and our relationship, sex life was great or so I thought. I recently went out of town with some girlfriends and left a book of sexy pictures of myself out for him to enjoy while I was gone. When I came ...
A. 11 April 2011: Interesting one here. You left a sexy picture of yourself when you left for vacation, and then somehow knew he found a friend's picture and masturbated to it??
Was your giving him the picture because you know he has a porn addiction? Is that how... (read in full...)
I threw myself at him, Did he lose respect for me? Is there a chance of turning this around?
Q. dated this guy I work w/ for a while, it was steady, intense and consistent. Then I pulled away bc he wasn't spending enough time w/ me. I had hoped he would try to work it out w/ me, but he didn't..he just let me go. I mean, canceled our weekend ...
A. 11 April 2011: If you love him and want to work on a relationship, you're going about it very wrong. You say that you don't hook up, yet your communication is nothing but sexual, and we're not talking innuendo. You're giving him mixed messages big time.
You'r... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forgot my birthday. How should I handle it?
Q. Yesterday was my birthday and the guy I've been dating for over ten months forgot it was my birthday OR didn't even know. We are more than "friends with benefits" and less than totally serious. He has told me he loves me. He went away with friends ...
A. 11 April 2011: Truthfully? Leave the birthday completely out of this. The real issue isn't even your birthday. The real issue is that you've fallen for this guy and aren't satisfied that your relationship with him is as it is. You want more, and you're hoping ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forgot my birthday. How should I handle it?
Q. Yesterday was my birthday and the guy I've been dating for over ten months forgot it was my birthday OR didn't even know. We are more than "friends with benefits" and less than totally serious. He has told me he loves me. He went away with friends ...
A. 11 April 2011: Sorry, accidently hit post.
This is about how you feel about him. Maybe you should have a straight talk about your relationship with him instead of setting yourself up to be hurt like this.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forgot my birthday. How should I handle it?
Q. Yesterday was my birthday and the guy I've been dating for over ten months forgot it was my birthday OR didn't even know. We are more than "friends with benefits" and less than totally serious. He has told me he loves me. He went away with friends ...
A. 11 April 2011: Did you outright tell him when your birthday is? Guys don't think the same way girls do about special days. They think in terms of moments. He can remember the place you met, or your first date, or the first time you made love, or something else ... (read in full...)
After 5 years husband confesses addiction to Pornography?
Q. I have been married for 5 yrs. All this time I thoguht my husband was addicted to my body. But,Now my husband tells me that he loves big boobs and that all this time he has been entertained himself with porn videos on Youtube, watching women with ...
A. 10 April 2011: Oh my.
Did your husband either say outright or infer that because your boobs aren't enough for him that he's become addicted to porn?? I'm sure he wouldn't word it like this, but you feel like he meant this, and I don't think it was by accident... (read in full...)
Unhappily married, and emotional affair partner wants to take it to the next level. What should I do?
Q. Help! I am afraid I will cave under pressure. I have been in an emotional affair with a married man for many months. I am also married. Neither of us are happy in our marriages but we both have children and stay because of them. I have not felt att...
A. 9 April 2011: Why are you still with your husband? It's not for the kids, because you could easily live on your own with them and after the initial shake-up, you would all be comfortable in your new lives.
So why are you with him if he's this horrible man? Ar... (read in full...)
BF is uncomfortable about physical scenes in the play. Should I not do them?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over a year and we really trust each other. I do drama and as part of a role I have some pretty intimate scenes with another guy. My bf is really happy for me that I got the role but says he is really ...
A. 9 April 2011: This is a big choice for you. You are now facing a moment of truth. Where do you see your future? Do you see your career in acting? Is this where your dreams lie? Then you have to act. You have to do the intimate scenes sometime.
I understa... (read in full...)
My husband lost his job but never told me! He let me believe he was working when he was home sleeping!
Q. hey all, Ive been married for 4 yrs but been with him for 10 yrs. I have a 2yr old baby! My husband lost his job 2 months after we purchase a house but never told me. I used to go to work and so did he and so i thought! He used to drop my son at h...
A. 9 April 2011: Wait a second. He *quit*?!??! He didn't get laid off or fired? That means that he didn't lose his job. He walked away from it and didn't tell you.
He also took out a $30k loan under your name?? That's bullshit that he didn't know how the bank... (read in full...)
Am I the only person who believes you should give advice if you have experienced a situation?
Q. I have been a member of this site for a long time and have been reading a lot of the advice that is given. A lot of it varies and not everyone has them same answer which is to be expected. A few aunts or uncles I have been following give q...
A. 9 April 2011: I don't think that those who give advice should be dismissed because they haven't gone through the same thing themselves. And truly, 16 year olds are qualified to give advice, some of it very unique in fact. Many of these young people had their ... (read in full...)
We fought over housecleaning and he walked out. How do I make him understand?
Q. Ok, living with my boyfriend is killing me! Lately we have been arguing because he doesn't clean up after himself. I do all the cleaning and I don't mind seen as I don't work as much as him but the guy does nothing and when he eventually does ...
A. 9 April 2011: I agree with strontiumdog to a point. People who are clean or messy are on a continuum. There are people who prefer and actually derive pleasure from being clean. There are those who even take it a step further, barring eating or drinking in the ... (read in full...)
Should we stop having sex or still have it occasionally? Need advice on this relationship.
Q. I need some advice about sex. Sorry for the long story. I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 months (only known him about 5). We met online on a dating website and he's one of those really sweet guys that are hard to find. When we were ini...
A. 8 April 2011: Actually, this guy is really smooth. He freely has sex with you while acting like he regrets it. That's the perfect way to keep you giving him sex, yet his tugging at your empathy keeps him shielded from true intimacy. You say that he's out of... (read in full...)
We fought over housecleaning and he walked out. How do I make him understand?
Q. Ok, living with my boyfriend is killing me! Lately we have been arguing because he doesn't clean up after himself. I do all the cleaning and I don't mind seen as I don't work as much as him but the guy does nothing and when he eventually does ...
A. 8 April 2011: I would take right and wrong completely out of the equation. The solution is much more simple than that.
This guy will never change. He is untidy. He won't do the dishes or clean up after himself, and you will never ever change that fact abo... (read in full...)
After I had sex with him he told me he was involved with another girl!
Q. Hello, So I've always liked this guy. Ever since middle school I've had the biggest crush on him. I'm in college now, and we've just started corresponding last summer. We used text each other about once a week or so. I could tell he was generall...
A. 8 April 2011: Yeah, he's an asshat. He's in love with only himself is why he took advantage of him.
The lesson learned is never to put the cart before the horse. Meaning, never ever have sex in order to establish or to hope that it will cause him to want to ... (read in full...)
He seen me in my bikini, got a boner and now he's angry at me!
Q. Ok so the other week I went on holiday to the seaside and another family who are really close. So on the last day I wanted to go swimming but the only other person who wanted to was a boy my age from the other family. So after I got changed into my ...
A. 8 April 2011: I doubt that he's angry at you...he's most likely super embarrassed that you noticed his "tent". Imagine how you would feel around him if your bikini top had come open revealing your breasts to him. You'd feel embarrassed, awkward, and probably ... (read in full...)
My husband lost his job but never told me! He let me believe he was working when he was home sleeping!
Q. hey all, Ive been married for 4 yrs but been with him for 10 yrs. I have a 2yr old baby! My husband lost his job 2 months after we purchase a house but never told me. I used to go to work and so did he and so i thought! He used to drop my son at h...
A. 8 April 2011: You said it's been a year since he did that? Wow. What has happened since then? Did he actually get a job? Is he still not working?
That is a major thing, lying about losing a job, and not only that, but four months?? How did he hide it for f... (read in full...)
He slept with his ex after he'd been out with me. Does that mean he liked her or made a mistake?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for nearly 16 months now. i recently found out he had slept with his ex a day before wed first slept together last year jan 2010 around the time we started meeting up. we had only met up 3 or 4 times at this poi...
A. 7 April 2011: It sounds like you two weren't exclusive, and for whatever reason, he wasn't over his ex at that time. I personally think it's a bit cheap to sleep with an ex and then the new love within the span of 24 hours, but then again, I've always thought ... (read in full...)
Do I need to cut my hair to increase my luck meeting girls?
Q. Hi, I've been single for nearly a year now and I want to get out there again but I don't want anything too serious as I have a very bad track record of relationships, therefore I am severely put off for the time being. I have told my friend that...
A. 6 April 2011: It depends on the type of woman you are looking for. Of course you'll not have luck if you're seeking women who are into more of the shorter neater look. However, there are women out there who like rugged and long hair.
I would make a suggesti... (read in full...)
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