Do I need to cut my hair to increase my luck meeting girls?
Q. Hi, I've been single for nearly a year now and I want to get out there again but I don't want anything too serious as I have a very bad track record of relationships, therefore I am severely put off for the time being. I have told my friend that...
A. 6 April 2011: It depends on the type of woman you are looking for. Of course you'll not have luck if you're seeking women who are into more of the shorter neater look. However, there are women out there who like rugged and long hair.
I would make a suggesti... (read in full...)
Husband cant satisfy me because of premature ejaculation.... perhaps I need to have my physical needs met elsewhere?
Q. I love my husband very much. We did not have a lot of sex before we married, so it wasn't until after our wedding that I confirmed that he has premature ejaculation. This has effected every single time we have had sex for the past two years, without ...
A. 5 April 2011: Who says that the penis is the only tool for sex? That's like saying that you should build a house with only a hammer, because the hammer is the only tool that matters.
Person has the right idea...use other tools. His tongue, his hands and fing... (read in full...)
How do you treat Thrush???
Q. I have all the symptoms for thrush, but I don't know how to treat it? Do I have to tell someone? Or can I sort it myself with nobody else knowing? I'm really rather embarrassed by it and don't want to tell me mom or go to the doctors.. Is there ...
A. 3 April 2011: Thrush in the mouth? Easy! Have the doctor give you a prescription for mycelex trouche, if he or she feels that's what you need. You chew a pill that tastes like sweet chalk 4x per day, and voila!... (read in full...)
Fat girl seeking a man that love fat women
Q. i am a 19 year old female. i am a heavy girl and i have never had a boyfriend or even my first kiss. I am horrible on the computer. I have been searching the web for men seeking very fat woman but can not find any chat rooms for men seeking the fat ...
A. 3 April 2011: Actually, there are a lot of men who get really turned on by BBW women. They're pejoratively called "chubby chasers"...or more extreme, Feeders. Look up Feedies, or Foodies, online.
But as people have mentioned before, be really really careful ... (read in full...)
Ex-flame. Sparks evident. But I have a loving girlfriend. Is the next field always greener?
Q. Hi everyone, I am a 21 year old guy who has been in a relationship with a gorgeous woman for a year and a half. As far as I am aware, I am in love. Tonight, I bumped into a girl who I spent the night with (no sex) four years ago, and we disc...
A. 3 April 2011: You might be able to answer that question for yourself actually in regards to reconnecting with former exes and admitting that your feelings still exist for them.
How would you feel if your current girlfriend was the one to write this question... (read in full...)
My boyfriend who was arrested for domestic violence against me says he is changing. Can I believe him?
Q. I had my boyfriend arrested for domestic violence after he pushed me while he was drunk. We have a no contact order until his court date at the end of April. We also have a 2 year old son. Although he is not supposed to contact me or our son, he p...
A. 1 April 2011: Oh geeze. NO! Don't take him back! He's already tried to go sober and relapsed back into it. Three weeks is no kind of change. I'm talking at least a year, two years, three years, not three very short weeks.
Listen to me very carefull... (read in full...)
I get the feeling once in a while he is not being faithful to me and I am finding myself hating him and not trusting him...
Q. Might sound that I am overreacting but am in desparate need of opinions. The other day my boyfriend ordered himself a drink, I then asked him what it was, ans he said it was it cointreau and lemonade and it was one of his favourite drinks...
A. 1 April 2011: A feeling is never to be dismissed. So let's think about this. His drink might be a new favorite. He very well could have been suggested it by a bartender, or he could have seen someone else drink something really neat looking and asked what i... (read in full...)
Husband isn't in love with me, should I stay?
Q. My husband came home from being gone over seas for 7 months..The first wk things were ok and then it just got worse. He told me he wasn't in love with me and that there is just no spark there no more. I felt like dying right there. Well I thought ...
A. 31 March 2011: Have you asked the question "Is there someone else"?
He's reminding me of a man who is hedging his bets. He's left you for seven months and then comes back distant and being a yo yo about whether or not he loves you. I wonder if he met someone ... (read in full...)
The thought of having sex scares me. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I am 19 years old and I am pretty sure I could live without sex. I am a bit concerned as to whether it is normal that I don't want to have sex, or do anything sexual pretty much. I've had a very good upbringing, liberal parents and I'm studying well ...
A. 29 March 2011: I think you're okay! You may be focusing on the wrong things regarding sex, and when you speak it out clinically, of course it doesn't sound pleasant to think of some guy pushing his penis inside you with bodily fluids and grunting and shoving. ... (read in full...)
What should I say to my parents so they will let me be more independent?
Q. My parents are very strict . They don't allow me to have a job. I'm 16 years old and they still think that I'm a 5 year old girl. I want to work and raise money, I want to be independent, but they refuse. What shall I do? Help me to convince them ...
A. 29 March 2011: First of all, I absolutely understand your desire to be independent. When I was your age, I also had ultra-strict parents who didn't want me to work and whose attitudes were so restrictive on my life, and I didn't even want to engage in destructive ... (read in full...)
How do I get a woman in the mood for sex?
Q. I want to have sex with a girl how should I get her in the mood? ...
A. 29 March 2011: I don't think there's a good answer for that unless you tell us more about the girl you're interested in. There's not enough info. Every woman is infinitely different in what turns her on.
All I can tell you is...when you kiss her or touch he... (read in full...)
My ex moved on, now having a baby, I'm not over him, heard he still cares, what to do??
Q. I recently wrote in and asked 'how do you mend a broken heart?' My ex of 2 years and i split up 10months ago. We were in a LDR between Uk and USA. He tried to get me back for ages, saying how much he had messed up and missed me and i generally ...
A. 28 March 2011: I think you need to try and look at this guy objectively. You said he "messed up" when you two split up, right? Did he cheat on you? Was that his "messing up" part? Either way, if he and his child live in the UK, won't his coming to the US... (read in full...)
I'm six months pregnant and he does not want to have sex, how do I get him interested??
Q. I am 6 months pregnant and my fiance turned me down when I wanted to have sex a few weeks ago. I was really hurt because I felt rejected and like I'm not attractive enough right now for him. I'm now scared to try and initiate anything in the ...
A. 28 March 2011: It's quite possible that he thought he might hurt the baby, or that he might hurt you if he got intimate. Also, sometimes, some guys make the mistake of thinking that because you're carrying his child, that he's not looking at you in a sexual way ... (read in full...)
Resentment--how do I deal with it?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and we had a rough start. I admit we both didn't know about getting into a serious relationship at the beginning since we both came out of one pior. When we started dating he was still communicat...
A. 28 March 2011: He broke your trust, plain and simple. How can you believe what he says if he goes off talking sexy to someone else, then lying to you and about you to her?
Don't call it your paranoia. I would consider his ease with lying a serious red flag. W... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend was so large I'm afraid its ruined me for anyone else!
Q. Hello, agony aunts. Thanks in advance for reading my question, and for any thoughtful advice or answers. I have recently come out of a two year long relationship and I am now fresh on the single scene. My ex and I got together when we were bot...
A. 28 March 2011: First, Chigirl is right. No matter how large your ex was, he wasn't as large as a 6, 7, 8, or 9 pound baby is, and billions of women around the world have smashing good sex after birth with no ill-effects.
You aren't loosened for life because ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for keeping the pic of a guy who means nothing to be but is associated with my holiday memories?
Q. Do you think i'm in the wrong? i have a photo of this boy i met on holiday when i went away for a week when i was younger. My bf of 4 years is telling me i should get rid of it and asked me why i kept it in the 1st place. The reason i kept it...
A. 26 March 2011: It depends on what you're doing with the picture. If it's tucked into a photo album of your memories, I think it's okay. However, if it's framed and sitting on your dresser, that's a big no-no.
When in doubt, think about what you'd feel com... (read in full...)
Would you be friends with an ex who cheated emotionally?
Q. I really need your help. We broke up about 4 months ago because she was cheating emotionally. After breakup she started dating the same guy. Now they have broken up and she contacted me by email and wants to be friends with me and see me for ...
A. 26 March 2011: That's up to you. Personally, I would move on since the trust has been broken. That's key in a relationship - trust, and she broke yours.
So it's up to you whether or not to forgive her or to move on and look elsewhere. Don't be just friends ... (read in full...)
Is this behaviour between my fiance and his 20 year old daughter normal??
Q. This is kind long lol. Me and my fiance have been together for 2 years, he has a 20 year old daughter. When I met her the first time we got along then me and my fiance had some issues which he ran to her about no she seems a little cold to me. ...
A. 26 March 2011: There's no incest. However, when he turned to her when the two of you were having problems, they created a bit of a bond. I'm also not sure of the nature of these "problems", but if they involved cheating on your part, he may trust her more than ... (read in full...)
Older partner who's going to be a grandpa soon; I love him but I'm not "in love"...should I stay or leave?
Q. Hello,I have a couple of issues here. 1: my fiance is 9 years older than me. I'm 29 he is 38. He has 2 grown kids 18 year old boy and 20 year old girl who is married and 9 months pregnant. I have never been married(neither has he) and I have no ...
A. 26 March 2011: Nine years is nothing! I've seen happy couples on here who have 15-17-20 year age differences. However, if you're not in love, you should set him free. From what you've described, he sounds like an absolute keeper, which I don't hear a lot... (read in full...)
I've been sexting with a friend and he wants to stop now. Can we still be friends?
Q. I am married and had been chatting with a married friend via text, chat, phone sometimes- mostly sexual talk. We are both very attracted to each other, have a lot in common and definitely have chemistry. He would tell me how much he thinks abou...
A. 24 March 2011: You say that you're happily married? How would you feel about your husband sexting another woman and saying things to her that you and this guy friend have been doing? Would you want your husband having feeling for this other girl and wanting to ... (read in full...)
He's too busy for a relationship but wants to have sex with me
Q. I have this friend at uni and we have kniow each other for a while 2 years. We like each other and there is a lot of sexaul tension between us. I want to be with him and be his girlfiend but his actions confuse me. He says he is too busy for a re...
A. 24 March 2011: He's playing you. Never ever give up sex in hopes that it will spark feelings in him. Some people get physical hoping that it will lead to a relationship. You sound like you're too smart to fall into that trap.
What he want is a no strings ... (read in full...)
I dumped my girlfriend...Do you think she'll come back to me?
Q. Ladies, i broke-up with my GF, yesterday, i feel soooo guilty, but it weas her repetitive mistakes, that i used to warn her about, she repeated these mistakes more then 20 time, "mistakes such as not telling me what problems she is facing, keepi...
A. 24 March 2011: Oh boy. You fell into a big trap, my friend. Using a breakup (or a divorce/separation for that matter) is never ever a good tool for trying to get someone back. Think of it as a nuclear bomb to a relationship. You can't hope to restore or better ... (read in full...)
Can someone love and yet lie to the person that they love?
Q. He cheated while we were dating, and I only found out about it after we got married. Thus, I didn't know he had been unfaithful when he proposed, during the engagment, or during the wedding. He cheated once, and was in touch with the person he ...
A. 24 March 2011: If he regretted cheating on you as deeply as he said he did, he would have revealed it to you and let you make a decision on whether you wanted to remain with him. He lied to you because he was afraid that you would leave him for cheating. It wa... (read in full...)
Maybe you are the right one and his wife is the wrong one?
Q. Hi everyone. This is my question. Is it possible a married man could be falling for you instead of wanting an affair? Or are all these guys the same, wanting their cake and eating it, too? How do you know he is not truly happy in his marriage ...
A. 24 March 2011: I echo everyone else. If he (and you, actually) are in unhappy relationships, then end them before pursuing a relationship of your own. If he's truly falling for you and has all of these wonderful attributes, then his actions, not his words, are ... (read in full...)
Is protected sex before marriage alright?
Q. Is protected sex before marriage alright? Or sex after marriage will be better?...
A. 23 March 2011: BRING BACK THE CHASTITY BELTS!!!!
Just kidding. :)
Realist is right. That is a decision for only you to make. Views on sexuality have changed so much and even now are so different in different countries and cultures.
Your choice is what f... (read in full...)
Husband of 3 years has started looking at gay porn?
Q. I have been married for 3 years. Recently I have been noticing gay porn popping up on our computer. I confronted my husband about and we talked about it. He said he doesnt jerk off to it or anything and its just kind of a kinky curiousity thing, but ...
A. 23 March 2011: Gay porn may not mean anything except that he's exploring images that arouse him. There are porn images of guys having sex with their lawn tables, but that doesn't mean that they're about to switch sexual orientations any time soon.
I wouldn't... (read in full...)
Would this be called cheating the new Gf? If I just asked my ex to strip while we were on webcam.
Q. Is it cheating if? Let's say you have a girlfriend. And you know your ex still loves you and you still have feelings for her, but you don't want to be in a relationship with her, but you drunk call her telling her you love her, and miss her, et...
A. 22 March 2011: There was cheating even before the whole strip show. The drunk call saying you love/miss/etc. alone would get you broken up with by your current girlfriend if she knew.
The whole webcm strip show is just trashy, as SS has pointed out. If you a... (read in full...)
Virgin at 20, should I hire an escort to lose my virginity?
Q. Hi i am a 20 yr old male and still a virgin. this fact depresses the hell out of me. everywhere i go theres people all having so much fun and i feel that im missing the best parts of my life and falling behind on much needed experience. most people ...
A. 22 March 2011: All prostitutes are "hand me the money". There is no emotion involved in it. They aren't sex teachers unless you've got $1,000+ to spend, and even then, it's by the hour and no matter what you do, they'll moan like you're the king of the world. ... (read in full...)
During a break from my boyfriend, he got another girl pregnant!
Q. iv been in a relationship for around 8 months and i love the guy im with to pieces. during the 8 months we've been on and off and during a period while we were off, my bf had a one night stand with some girl and he did make me aware of this. we are...
A. 22 March 2011: EWWW! Get away from him! Get away, get away, get away! How do you think she got pregnant? He just had risky, meaningless, unprotected sex. He should be focusing on his new son or daughter, how he's going to support them, yet he's wanting to ... (read in full...)
Virgin at 20, should I hire an escort to lose my virginity?
Q. Hi i am a 20 yr old male and still a virgin. this fact depresses the hell out of me. everywhere i go theres people all having so much fun and i feel that im missing the best parts of my life and falling behind on much needed experience. most people ...
A. 22 March 2011: There was another thread similar to this one with over 100 responses on it. One of the most interesting reads I've ever had on here in terms of the variation in replies.
Here's my thought on it. 20 years old is still young, and you're not abno... (read in full...)
Should I cut my losses? He's always oggling skinny young girls.
Q. I have been with my man for over a year now and we live together. He says I am beautiful but is always commenting how beautiful other women on TV are. He has even commented how beautiful his ex is. He knows this all hurts me because I have low self ...
A. 22 March 2011: Forgive me...the guy sounds like a moron. He is with a beautiful woman now, yet he is so ate up with porn that he doesn't appreciate you.
If you've talked to him about this and he still continues to show you extreme disrespect by ogling g... (read in full...)
I feel like he's had an emotional affair
Q. Hi guys, 2 weeks ago I discovered my bf had a rather intimate relationship with a female friend/work colleague. They did not have sex, but he asked her to send him provocative messages, which is how I found out - through an accidental email...
A. 22 March 2011: I read this whole thing through, and before I get into it, I'll say that you're right. You can't trust him now. Your trust is in pieces, and that is exactly what your response should be.
I want to focus on a few other things you said. You said... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't give me blow jobs anymore!
Q. so I have a question for you guys on here, I'm sure there are other posts on here about the same subject on here. I have been happily married for 6 years now and wouldn't change a single thing except for one. my wife does not give me blow jobs any ...
A. 22 March 2011: Hmm...when a sex act has been a regular part of your repertoire and then she stops doing it, there is a reason why. The stopping of the blowjobs is a symptom of what's going on.
Was there a blowjob that went awry? Does she not swallow and you ... (read in full...)
Should I accept his invite to visit his home? he's 23 years older than me. I'm a virgin.
Q. What do you think about this ?. I recently started meeting up with a much older man ( he's 23 years older than me ) . I cant exactly say that we are dating yet, as we have only met up a few times for a drink. Recently, some of his friends, who are ...
A. 22 March 2011: You're of age, and he is of age. Don't let the age difference be a factor in what you would do. It sounds like you're feeling like it's a bit too early in the relationship to go back to his place, right?
I kind of agree. There are plenty o... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend spreading sexual rumers about me.
Q. I've recently dumped my Ex boyfriend. I was with him for 3 months and come to relise he's a bit of a bully and that something I don't want. He's been spreading rumers that he's fin*gered me. Everyone is pretty shocked and a lot of people have lost ...
A. 22 March 2011: Well, one thing you can be relieved about is that this guy just totally affirmed and validated why you left him. You'll never have that whole "should I have left him" pining for him. He's burned the bridges. There's not any going back, and you're ... (read in full...)
What does "not serious" mean to you? No sex?
Q. When you women are dating, and you say you "aren't serious", but the relationship has potential, what does this typically mean? That you haven't had sex yet? To me, "not serious" means sex and/or serious feelings aren't involved yet. Yes?...
A. 21 March 2011: I'm guessing that there will be many answers to this one. I don't have sex unless I'm serious with someone. If I was "not serious", then there's no sex yet. I have to have serious feelings with someone and I want to have gotten to know s... (read in full...)
I just want to be friends
Q. There is this girl who likes me and she keeps texting me. I want to stay kind of mutual friends and no more as I like someone else what should I tell her?...
A. 21 March 2011: You know she likes you? Has she told you, or are you guessing, or have friends told you she likes you?
Either way, start chatting with her about this someone else you're interested in, and it should splash a bit of cold water on her fire. D... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that I am head over heels for him?
Q. i really like my guy friend who i had met about 8 months ago. hes everything i want in a guy, even though hes naturally a flirt. i always catch him staring at me and he always punches me and doesnt stupid little things. he trusts me enough to tell ...
A. 21 March 2011: Yeah, better to tell him now and not when it's too late, meaning if he or you find someone else.
It is a risk. However, if he likes you back, it's a risk well worth it! If he doesn't, there will be a bit of awkwardness, but it should pass if ... (read in full...)
Can't get what he did with her out of my head
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year now. Were in love and hope to spend our lives together, but there's just one thing standing in my way! Before we were an official couple, he was with another girl just on two occasions, they didn't sleep ...
A. 21 March 2011: "Before you were an official couple"? Does this mean he say another girl while you two were dating, but not exclusive? You say that he hasn't spoken to her since you got together?
Whenever those thoughts start driving you insane, here's another ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is completely passionless
Q. I am 24 years old, and have been with my 27 year-old boyfriend now for 2 years. On paper, everything is perfect - we get on great, he makes me laugh, we have a flat together and both have great jobs in the city. The only problem is, he's complet...
A. 20 March 2011: It's interesting how in a relationship that is lacking, someone from the outside comes along and both enhances our current boyfriend's shortcomings and brings temptation to a weakened resolve to faithfulness.
One thing you're right about - such r... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went out without me again and there is more...disrespectful!?!
Q. I have been dating a guy for about a year now. We spend about a 1/2 a day together each week due to his career. I try to be understanding but admit I often feel lonely and there is a lot of tension. The relationship feels one sided. We typically ...
A. 19 March 2011: You see him a half an evening each week. You've been dating for a year and you've never met his friends, family, nor has he said "I love you". He says his schedule is tight, yet he goes out without you. He refuses and hates public affection, and ... (read in full...)
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