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Will I get hurt having an affair with a married man?
Q. A few months ago I met a man online just chatting he told me right off that he was married and that he and his wife love each other yet they do allow each other to do whatever they wish . Anyway we clicked and we met up we just had our sceond ...
A. 22 July 2010: don't tear down someone elses marriage. nuff said... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to ask my fiance to get a paternity test of his son with his ex?
Q. Is it reasonable to ask my fiance to get a paternity test of his son with his ex? We are planning our future living arrangements and it all hinges on our children. We currently live a fairly large distance apart and in order to satisfy everyone ...
A. 22 July 2010: this seems like a guy that leaves pregnant women alone. seriously she "knew they were going to end it"? then why was he sleeping with her if he didnt love her? he is not trustworthy. a woman earns the right to being a mother with 9 months of ... (read in full...)
I fancy this married man and he fancies me too!
Q. ok, i'm in a really tricky situation. i fancy this man, and he fancies me too, but the problem is he is married, and he is also a close friend of my uncle and knows some of my other family members. He got upset and in a mood last week on the day i ...
A. 22 July 2010: why do women go after married men? i know why. you are attracted to the fact that this man can commit but you are blind to the fact that if he can cheat on his wife he is not someone to trust.... (read in full...)
Should I wait or save myself
Q. I am a 24 year old guy. I have never had a serious relationship in my life. I have a feeling 98 percent of guy my age have already had sex. I never have. I have tried to wait for something serious but I honestly have never been treated right by ...
A. 28 June 2010: i think you should wait for someone you at least really like and care for, maybe not love but atleast something special. nothing wrong being a virgin. you will enjoy sex when you have it :) good luck finding a girl worth your time... and dick :)... (read in full...)
She won't accept that her weight is the reason men are not interested in her.
Q. My girfriend and I have a very close friend. She is a wonderful girl. It's always the same scene with her. She meets a guy, they are really into each other for a few days / weeks, then the guy realizes how heavy she is and distances himself. (I'm ...
A. 28 June 2010: i think she should lose weight if shes too fat, for her health and to look better. she doesnt have to be anorexic, just healthy. best luck to her.... (read in full...)
She won't accept that her weight is the reason men are not interested in her.
Q. My girfriend and I have a very close friend. She is a wonderful girl. It's always the same scene with her. She meets a guy, they are really into each other for a few days / weeks, then the guy realizes how heavy she is and distances himself. (I'm ...
A. 27 June 2010: i dated an obese man, i loved him. she will find someone who loves her the way she is. losing weigjt benefits your health though...... (read in full...)
Am I gay or is this a fetish?
Q. i am a young lad an iv always believed i am straight ive slept with quite a few girls an never really questioned my sexuality until the last year or so. it started when i was told by a friend about his girlfriend slipping a finger up his bu...
A. 26 June 2010: you could talk to a girl about wanting stimulation there, get a kinky, open minded girl. i think its normal and if you want to try sex with guys, go ahead. ... (read in full...)
My partner has lost interest in physical contact
Q. i have been dating for six years and have two kids but since i fell pregnant with the second born my partner has lost interest in making love, kissing,hugging even just to hold my hand but he says he love me,but does this mean that may be i am ...
A. 26 June 2010: most likely he has a porn habit, porn does this to men... (read in full...)
Does masturbation affect virginity?
Q. when i do the secret happit, does that may affect my virginity cause iam getting maried after few months and i must be virgin ? and how can i knew or be sure...
A. 26 June 2010: wow.. really? how can that possibly affect your virginity? you stop being a virgin when you decide to have intercourse. everyone masturbates, no secret there... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men to think about sex with exes whilst masturbating?
Q. Is it normal for men to think about sex with ex girlfriends whilst wanking? I know this sounds like a silly question, and Godknows how we got into the conversation, but my boyfriend told me that when he wanks he thinks about ex girlfriends ...
A. 26 June 2010: its normal and women do this too, heck i will think of my exes, tom cruise, gael garcia bernal and even girls!! its just a fantasy.... (read in full...)
Why is he locking himself in the bathroom with his laptop?
Q. This guy and i have been together for over a year now. i thought everything was going fine. now he locks himself in the bathroom with his laptop. is he cheating or am i just paranoid?...
A. 26 June 2010: please, dont be naive. he is watching porn, thats what men do in the bathroom with their laptops. maybe you should talk about sex needs.... (read in full...)
If I'm pregnant do I have to tell my abusive ex boyfriend?
Q. Ok, so I had the issue of sleeping with my ex although I'd already broken up with him. Mainly I just wanted to see him but he wouldn't keep his hands too himself so I'd give into him. Well now, I've officially called it off. I'm done with him I do...
A. 26 June 2010: im 6 months pregnant by my emotionally abusive ex. he has used this to further torture me. you and your baby are better off without him and he will moslty deny its his baby anyways... ... (read in full...)
Knowing he got another girl pregnant is ruining my feelings for him!
Q. My boyfriend and I started dating about two years ago. Early on in our relationship, he casually mentioned that his ex-girlfriend of nearly 5 years had aborted his baby. He didn't say it like "My child...I was so devastated," but more like "it was ...
A. 26 June 2010: girl, my ex told me the exact same thing. he even acted a little bit sad. we dated for 2 years and when i got pregnant from him, he just left me, said he no longer loved me. babies are a BIG deal, if he isnt devastated about he has no heart... (read in full...)
Why does he ignore me for porn, when I'm perfectly willing?
Q. Hello, I seem to be having problems with my boyfriend and have no clue what to do. We have been dating for nearly a year now. Deep down, I know he's a good man, but for reasons I cannot understand, he prefers watching porn instead of doing anythin...
A. 26 June 2010: ahhh another damaged relationship due to porn. leave the man to his hand and his computer... he has no interest in a real life vagina... (read in full...)
What's the hang-up on swallowing?
Q. It probably has been answered already, but what is the real hang up on women not wanting to swallow a man's ejaculation. Taste? Contents? Etc. Also, if you are going to let them cum in your mouth, what's the difference? Men go down on women and ...
A. 26 June 2010: i have only ever swallowed for one guy in my life. i loved him to death. his cum didnt taste lovely but it was his so i would gladly swallow. he never even asked me to! all the other guys i gave bjs to, i asked them not to cum in my mouth... the ... (read in full...)
How do I stay in touch without getting between them?
Q. I have this guy in my one of my classes.I really like him.BUT He has a girlfriend of 4 years and he's graduating this year and moving to another city. I know, i can't date him, but i'd really like to stay in touch with him beyond high school. How do ...
A. 25 June 2010: be friendly but chill about it. just go up to him and tell him "hey watsup", talk a little and then tell him you would like his email so you can keep in touch when you go to college. no creepiness there :)... (read in full...)
Are they working together or working each other?
Q. I have been married for 5 years and we have a daughter that just turned 4. I recently found out about a relationship that he has been having with another woman. He reposesses cars for a living so he is often out all night and all day long. This ...
A. 25 June 2010: it seems to me like he may be cheating. he was too defensive when you called him at 11:30 and this women was obviously lying. ... (read in full...)
Could I have lost my virginity and gotten pregnant at the same time?
Q. okay so i am 17 and i lost my virginity thursday like 3 in the morning in the pool and it didnt hurt at all, but, it was only in me for like 3 minutes and when he pushed me away i looked down , and he had nutted. im sooo scared idk anything about ...
A. 25 June 2010: if he ejaculated inside you, there is a chance. if he didnt even go all the way in, dont worry... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to have intercourse
Q. I am 27 years old and married for year and half. i am scared to have intercourse with my husband. he is a wonderful man and very patient and totally understands and i love him. i know it is not right to keep him waiting. also i surely want to have ...
A. 25 June 2010: i feel a bit sorry for you. sex is wonderful, intimacy is lovely. feeling the man you love inside you is just... BLISS. and orgasms... ahh everything about sex. most of us lose our viginities around 15-20 i can't imagine being a virgin at 27! but ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of my girlfriend getting pregnant?
Q. Okay, so my girlfriend and I were messing around, and I ended up ejaculating. I wiped it off, but about 10 minutes later I stuck it in without a condom. I only stuck it in once the first time and took it out, but after i took it out there was precum ...
A. 25 June 2010: no, dont even worry about it.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so obsessed with porn, he ignores my crying!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and i cant seem to get past his porn viewing habit. i didn't know to what extent it was to until i found out he looks at it every single day!! he has lied to me about it several times saying that he ...
A. 25 June 2010: you deserve someone better. please don't let him brain wash into accepting his adiction, anyone who loves you will sacrifice some things for your well being. he has an addiction and he will only get out of it if he decides and wants to. i was in a ... (read in full...)
The married man I am having an affair with is cheating on me!
Q. im having an affair to a married man and we are now six years, the problem is he's having a fling relationship to another woman, how can i stop him on this kind of habit i feel so hurt and jealous..what will i do for him should i leave him but i ...
A. 16 June 2010: what did you really expect? if he disrespects his wife he will disrespect you as well. cheating men have no respect for women, to him you are just an extracurricular activity and it seems like he has a new toy. please love yourself woman, i bet you ... (read in full...)
Will I look back and regret sleeping with a 46 year old man?
Q. Hi, thanks for your time, I'm 17 and the guy I'm having casual sex with is man who is 46, with the benifit of hindsight will I look back and think what he is doing is wrong? It's just a pattern I've noticed throught life, as I get older I look bac...
A. 23 April 2010: dont regret it... it was just an experience... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't go down on me; he says it's "horrible"...
Q. Help! my boyfriend will not go down on me, he says the taste is too horrible, and that it's not just me but other past girlfriends, also. Any suggestions?...
A. 18 March 2010: maybe you have an infection. a normal, healthy vagina has its own odor but nothing "horrible" go to the dr. and be sure to keep clean with mild soap and water. if he thinks its "horrible" still... most likely he's gay or not that into you...... (read in full...)
What should I do? My husband never offers me oral.
Q. Hi, my husband and i have been together for 2 years. I give him oral sex every night sometimes even twice a night. He never gives me oral. He will tell me that he will do it one night and then finds an exscuse like i'm to tired, or he tried and i ...
A. 18 March 2010: please stop doing it for him... sounds like you have a selfish little ma right there, why the hell would you give him pleasure if he wont do it for you? he's your HUSBAND for god's sake. tell him no more licky till he goes down south. fair is fair... (read in full...)
How do I feel better about myself and stop thinking about my ex's new girlfriend?
Q. How do I feel better about myself? I get really depressed when I think of my ex's girlfriend. I feel I'm terrible, worthless. I am so depressed! Please tell me what to do?...
A. 11 March 2010: i know how that feels, but you really need to get him out of your head! exes are exes for a reason girl... (read in full...)
We go for meals but I want her for dessert!
Q. There is a woman that I have a good relationship with. We eat together at least once a week. We do other things too. We take turns cooking and the other brings the dessert. Sometimes we feed each other in a playful way. Sometime for dessert I would ...
A. 3 March 2009: it depends on your intentions with this woman. if it is sexual, just start with kisses, remeber to state your choice in not wanting a relationship. if it isnt just a fling, start showing how you feel... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a surgery to get my virginity back?
Q. I am not a virgin and for the past two years I have been sexually active. I would also like to know if it's possible to have a surgery to get my virginity back?...
A. 3 March 2009: there is... but really whats the point? virginity isnt something you "lose" or "give away", its your choice to start exploring sexually and its your personal choice... (read in full...)
Rough month with my boyfriend of 1 year. Is it too late to make up?
Q. My boyfriend left me because he needed "space", instead of respeting his decision i cryed and made a whole lot of drama for 2 weeks. he got very angry, later he got better and said we should start as friends, we had sex and he said he still loved ...
A. 3 March 2009: HEY everyone! thanks for the advice. i think he will most likely crawl back and understand he needs to appreciate me. BTW can anyone help me change my age? I'm 20 not 13-15. and he is 25... (read in full...)
He dumped me because I nagged too much. Is it too late?
Q. Hello everyone! Basically I'm writing because my love broke up with me. We had been dating for around 1 year. We had an intense relationship and it also got a bit serious because we would spend time with friends and his and my family. I used to...
A. 3 March 2009: thanks for the support everyone!... (read in full...)
He dumped me because I nagged too much. Is it too late?
Q. Hello everyone! Basically I'm writing because my love broke up with me. We had been dating for around 1 year. We had an intense relationship and it also got a bit serious because we would spend time with friends and his and my family. I used to...
A. 26 February 2009: i have spoken to him, i apologized for the drama, he said "i didnt break up with you beacuase i don't love you, it was just a comunication problem" i changed the subject. i think he may be opening up. i need some tips on how to approach him! without ... (read in full...)
He dumped me because I nagged too much. Is it too late?
Q. Hello everyone! Basically I'm writing because my love broke up with me. We had been dating for around 1 year. We had an intense relationship and it also got a bit serious because we would spend time with friends and his and my family. I used to...
A. 26 February 2009: OP here. i am taking it slow, talking on IM with him and letting him know how i am improving on myself. i try to talk minimally about our relationship for the time being, i am giving him time to reflect. to all men out there? would you give me a ... (read in full...)
My husband made me get implants, I got ill, had them taken out and now he doesn't treat me right
Q. What would you do or how would you feel if your husband told you that he was embarrassed to be seen with you in a bathing suit because you were small breasted and that he thought you looked like a man and wanted you to get implants? How would yo...
A. 11 February 2009: would you love your husband less if he had a small penis? would you love him less if he had any defect? i don't think so. Your husband is superficial and i bet he's been watching too much porn. Breasts come in all sizes and a real MAN likes boobs ... (read in full...)
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