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writes:Hey, I really want my boyfriend to have relaxed sex but hes always too serious! He goes for about 2 minutes and then says stop being childish, I have to get rest. I'm thinking of breaking up with him because hes been not wanting to have sex, "working" late, not been as romantic as he was a few months ago. Could he be cheating on me? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 "Is he cheating because he doesn't want sex?" No. I went through this and was accused of cheating and that just made things worse.
As dirtball said "If you're unhappy, then you need to talk to him about it. How he responds should determine what you do going forward."
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reader, The Girl with the Diver's Hair  +, writes (22 February 2011):
Personally I dont think he is cheating. It may be that your boyfriend is very self concious and needs some more time to sort of come to terms of the idea and get some confidence. Ask him about it again and mention whether he is confident?
Perhaps also he is worried that he may not be able to please you and is worried that if he cant that you will break up with him. There are a number of reasons so just talk to him about it. Bring it up that you could do it in th day at lunch?
Goood Luck. E x
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Hmm, I'm going to assume that your boyfriend is the same age as you? Does he go to high school? Does he have a job after high school? I know I did in high school, and I worked until 11pm often in order to pay gas and insurance on my first car.
It could be possible that he may be cheating, but it sounds more likely that he's starting to take you for granted, putting making you happy at a much lower priority in his life. He is being childish and selfish in bed, treating you like a paid prostitute that he can do his business with to meet his own needs.
Whether he's cheating or not, he no longer cares for you like you do for him. That much is obvious. I would break up with him and find a guy who does not take you for granted, because life is too short to settle for anyone who makes you feel less than special and loved.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 February 2011):
 I'm wondering what's up with the childish comment. Nothing childish about wanting good sex.
He could be cheating, or he could just be unhappy or tired. Impossible to say. If you're unhappy, then you need to talk to him about it. How he responds should determine what you do going forward.
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reader, katiebudge +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Hi there
There could be a number of reasons as to why your boyfriend is acting the way he is. he could be self consious, he could be stressed, he may feel pressured that he has to impress you, like you say he may working late and very tired, and unfortunatly he may be cheating on you. but you will never know the answers unless you talk to him. make him explain to you what is bothering him, explain to him what is bothering you and try to resolve it. if you truely feel that he is cheating on you ask him. it may upset or insult him but just make sure you explain to him why your thinking like that. explain that its hurting your feelings that your being pushed aside. there is another reason, he may not like sex. i know it sounds strange but there are many people in the world who just dont like sex. it doesnt interest them, it does nothing for them and they would rather be doing other things then having sex. make sure that when you are going to do it. make it exciting and fresh and romantic. wear lingerie to look sexy for him, music helps the mood, candles help the mood do anything you can. if this doesnt work and he still doesnt change then you need to talk to him about it, then at least you can say you tried. i hope this helps :)
KatieBudget :D
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