We are trying to give it another go but now I don't know if I feel the same anymore
Q. This is completely new to me so I really hope someone can help. I have been with my boyfriend for the last seven years. We got together very young and had only ever been intimate with each other. We moved in together over a year ago and I really ...
A. 26 August 2010: Your problem doesn't sound trivial at all. You are clearly a sensitive and kind person and don't want to hurt his feelings. As much as he had the right to break up with you some months ago, you have the same right to break up with him now, not ... (read in full...)
Shocked by threesome suggestion!
Q. My Fiancé and I have been together for 2 ½ years and have a very happy and loving relationship. We have talked about threesomes before and came to an agreement that if were to have a bloke then he would choose who and when, and if it was female then ...
A. 26 August 2010: Very few relationshps can withstand a threesome. If you are feeling gutted by him even suggesting another women (in this case one whom he may particularly fancy, and who was attracted to him) can you imagine how much worse you would feel if you had ... (read in full...)
Still love my ex but he seems to be with another girl. How do I know? What do I do?
Q. My ex and i were together for a few years; I was very young when i met him..learned from my mistakes and really think things can be different this time. We have been talking on and off for about a year. He told me this is hard for him and he buried ...
A. 26 August 2010: You say you have learned by your mistakes, but don't say what mistakes you made specifically. If you were too possessive, desperate and clingy during your past relationship with him, then your contacting him now will be interpreted as being clingy ... (read in full...)
Have you ever experience in your life that no matter what you do nothing goes right?
Q. Did you ever experience,in your life,that no matter,what you do,nothing goes right? I feel ,Im trying to make good choices everyday, but from the smallest things to the biggest, almost everything turns out wrong or a nightmare. Like in a bad movi...
A. 24 August 2010: I went through the same thing and it lasted two years. Got to the point where I thought it was a good sign if the traffic light turned green as I approached! It's only when you look back in a year or two's time that you'll recognise that the ... (read in full...)
How do I break it to my husband that I want to leave?
Q. I am moving towards leaving my husband of 23 years. Though he is a good guy, I don't want to hurt him. The dagger that he will feel will hurt more than the years of irritation I have felt, but at least it will be quick. My therapist explai...
A. 24 August 2010: Remember, your therapist isn't the one who has to pick up a new life on your own, probably be poorer financially, deal with upsetting your children and family and generally paddling your own canoe. As YouWish says - perhaps counselling is the way ... (read in full...)
16 and wanting to be pregnant need advice!
Q. alright, so im 16 years old, alot of people around me are all having babies or just getting pregnant,plus the fact i looooove babies,i also have a really horrible family life, and sometimes just need to know someone cares about me i know i have all ...
A. 24 August 2010: No, it is NOT worth it. You're 16 - you're not mature enough to bring up a baby. You may feel like playing doll's right now, but by this time next year (or even next month), you may well have different needs and wants. Think of the baby, which is ... (read in full...)
I don't feel anything for the man I used to love.
Q. Hey there, I've been dating a guy for about two years now, and we've been engaged for one year and a few months. We were very happy when we first met each other and continued to be happy for the first year; however, now that I'm in college for m...
A. 24 August 2010: That's the reason for dating and an engagement. To see whether our feelings for someone are lasting, @the real thing" and whether we can stay in a marriage for the long haul. Sometimes we find out that we don't love the person after all, and sad ... (read in full...)
Does my lesbian girlfriend like guys?
Q. [OP original title] My lesbian girlfriend cheated on me with a guy. She claims she doesn't like guys but in my heart I don't believe it. What should I do? We have been together almost 3years, this occured 2 years ago and I still feel the same way....
A. 24 August 2010: I think your question answers itself, don't you? She likes the attention of men, she has slept with them, she likes the attention they give her. Go figure.... (read in full...)
Older woman w/ a younger man
Q. is it wrong for me to have a relationship with a 17yr lad i am a 33yr woman with 2 children, i don't look 33 and he doesn't look 17, we both are very much in love so i wanted to know does age really matter if you're happy?...
A. 24 August 2010: He is certainly not old enough to take on a mature woman and children too. As long as you're not looking to trade on his inexperience and naivety to persuade him to marry you, and just take the relationship for what it is in the short term, it will ... (read in full...)
My married friend is having an affair!!
Q. Ive just found out that my friend is having a affair with a single guy. She says that they have no love in the marriage and he provides litle support when she needs it. She doesnt want to separate since this would be her second divorce. In addition, ...
A. 23 August 2010: You may be concerned about your friend, but quite honestly, although you can advise her, she will only hear (and do) what she wants. Useless to encourage her to give up the other guy - she's already hooked on the experience. I've noticed that both ... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex to stop contacting me?
Q. hi aunts and uncles. my ex boyfriend is sending me notes through mail all the time because he has no other way to contact me. we broke up 2 years and a half ago. obviously i am in a relationship now with a wonderful guy so there is so damn way i ...
A. 23 August 2010: The best revenge is being happy, which you are and which he clearly isn't. So he's the one who is suffering and you don't need to do anything more. He sounds like a real jerk and its good news that you've met someone decent. The ex is also ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is still part of the family, how do I deal with this?
Q. I am recently reunited with my high school sweetheart from 30 years ago and he says that things are headed toward marriage for us. He and I both say that we've never been happier. We have a long-distance relationship at this point. I am divorced ...
A. 23 August 2010: You're overreacting. He's right - you can't tell him who he can and can't be friends with and by insisting on trying to break up their friendship, you will only alienate him. Try and make her your friend too and stop with the jealousy. If he ... (read in full...)
13 and may have missed a period......I'm so scared of being pregnant!
Q. Ok so im 13 and me and my boyfriend had sex,we used the take out method and now theres only 1 week of august left and i still havent had my period.I dont want to tell my mom that me and my boyfriend did anything but i did tell her i think i missed a ...
A. 23 August 2010: I feel so sad and quite depressed when I read this. In the first place sweetheart, you are too young to be having sex at 13. Even if you do terminate the pregnancy, it is something that will live with you for the rest of your life. If you're ... (read in full...)
I wanna be happy
Q. oh my goodness i just want to scream i am so unhappy,cant stand my kids my husband bothers me to no end i have thought of everything from having an affair leaving and never looking back,then the guilt hits so i stay,i am 40 and husband is 55 he has ...
A. 23 August 2010: You have my sympathy - life is really getting you down and you're fed up. Good idea to vent. Feel free. That's what we're here for :) You're in a rut right now with sick sex-less hub and kids at a difficult stage. You need some fun! (And not the ... (read in full...)
Why am I jealous of my partner's son?
Q. Why am i jealous of my partners son I have been with my partner for 3 years now and previously he was in a relationship where they had a child together ..he hates his ex for the cheating that went on when they were together and the child is now...
A. 22 August 2010: It's obvious that you recognise that your jealousy is unfair and petty and indeed, you are making life miserable to both your partner and his son in this regard. Lots of women are jealous of step-children, but actually, the best thing to do is to ... (read in full...)
My sister is telling people I am a racist...help!
Q. so heres the thing, my older sis and i are 10 1/2 months apart. we used to b close when we were younger but for the past 3 yrs, we became so distant. its to the point where we cant even b n the same room for long periods of time. my sis likes to ...
A. 22 August 2010: She is being a bully and the only way to stop her is to ignore her completely. The more you react, the more she will try and wind you up. You are perfectly entitled to have preferences as to whom you date whether it is black men, blonde men or ... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me becuase he was stressed, do I wait?
Q. If a man seems really messed up and confused and dumps you cause he has had a lot of stress pile up on him at once is it best to give him his freedom and hope he still wants you when he gets his head together?...
A. 22 August 2010: You don't have a choice in this thing. He's dumped you, so let him go and with any luck, if he ever does want you back again, you'll be in the kind of place where you don't want him with all his problems and confusions. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Married and falling in love online
Q. Hi, I am a happily married 40+ man and few weeks ago i met a woman online also happily married. we are falling madly in love to each other both knowing this is a dead end story. my question is should we end this straight away or keep chatting and ...
A. 22 August 2010: To the previous auntie (anonymous): Yes, totally agree. This loser isn't going to take an ounce of well-meaning and intelligent advice. He's so sure that he can control things, and is totally unwilling to give up the false sense of being young and ... (read in full...)
Married and falling in love online
Q. Hi, I am a happily married 40+ man and few weeks ago i met a woman online also happily married. we are falling madly in love to each other both knowing this is a dead end story. my question is should we end this straight away or keep chatting and ...
A. 22 August 2010: When you say you've seen her, do you mean you two have met up? Or that you've seen pictures of her and you like what you see? You seem adamant that "this is love" although the sane part of your brain must surely recognise that it is all in your ... (read in full...)
Total Babe in One-sided Open Marriage
Q. I am an average looking/height guy, though I make a good salary. I have been married about ten years. My wife is a beauty -- very attractive/sexy. She gets a lot of attention almost everywhere we go, even if she's only wearing sweats and a ...
A. 21 August 2010: You sound like a nice guy - she sounds like a cheating tart. Also sounds like your self-esteems is in tatters, which is unsurprising since she seems to sleep around without giving you much back. So she doesn't feel that itch with you huh? Just with ... (read in full...)
Younger woman messing with my head!
Q. Ok here is the deal. I am older than this lady, yet I don't feel that way at all on the inside (and people tell me that I look younger than I am, and when I work out alot, I can easily pass for someone in their 20s). Ok, well, we have been friends, ...
A. 21 August 2010: Doesn't sound as if she's into you at all, even if you look younger than you are. At that age, women are more into their own age group, with the same tastes in music etc. Also, at that age, she hasn't yet learned to deal with someone who obviously ... (read in full...)
Married and falling in love online
Q. Hi, I am a happily married 40+ man and few weeks ago i met a woman online also happily married. we are falling madly in love to each other both knowing this is a dead end story. my question is should we end this straight away or keep chatting and ...
A. 21 August 2010: You say you're happily married, which is a rare and precious thing (just read some of the posts here to see what I mean). And yet here you are, "falling in love" online with a woman you've never even met. Why did you even start this thing in the ... (read in full...)
Update: "How can I truly rid myself of this married man?"
Q. Update: I am the one who asked "How can I truly rid myself of this married man?" Well, I haven't "shaken" dude away from me yet. I keep going back and forth. He came over to my house (no, we weren't intimate). I started to cry because I wanted to be ...
A. 20 August 2010: He doesn't love you. MM say the things they know you want to hear. He's hardly going to say straight-out that he doesn't give two hoots about you, or that he will never leave his wife, or that he loves his wife or that they have a good sex life. ... (read in full...)
My feelings for my on-line love are overtaking me, and I'm worried I won't feel the same about my husband!
Q. Hi,I am in a very tricky situation,recently i have been in contact with a turkish guy i met online,i wasnt looking for a new man but he added me on a social network site and i accepted,normally i ignore. I am married,to an english man but i have t...
A. 20 August 2010: For goodness sake girl - get real! This man could even be dangerous! You sound completely delusional, impulsive and (reading between the lines) it sounds as if most of your unhappiness has been brought on by your own bad choices! Please... think ... (read in full...)
He asked me to have sex, should I tell his girlfriend?
Q. A friend of mine has been flirting with me a lot lately, and i don't just mean casual flirting, i mean things like talking about what we used to do in bed etc... we used to have a casual thing going on last year. He has a girlfriend, and i feel bad ...
A. 20 August 2010: Yeah, stay out of it. He's a rat. Avoid.... (read in full...)
I'm not her verbal punching bag so should I confront her?
Q. Whenever I talk to my friend, she always has to make comments that belittle me or put me down a notch. Tonight we were talking on the phone and she was talking about a guy she met. She then said, "He was cute, but he was more around YOUR age." Now, ...
A. 19 August 2010: Next time she puts you down, confront her by asking why she means by her comment. If she tries to brush it off, insist that she elaborate as to what exactly she means and what she is implying. Then, if she gets nasty, tell her you don't need a ... (read in full...)
Is there phone hacking going on or does my husband have something to hide?
Q. Hi, this is going to sound really silly but I need some advice. I've been married to my husband for 7 years and we have a great relationship. We are happy, healthy, love our kids, love each other, sex is awesome and we just have a lot of fun. We've ...
A. 18 August 2010: The evidence is overwhelming that he did make the calls. There is no evidence that he actually followed it up though. Perhaps he was just curious and acted on impulse. Whatever... you'll never know. My advice is to put it behind you and ignore it. ... (read in full...)
Do you believe in "Divine Intervention?"
Q. Hi, Loads of crazy things have been happening to me recently taking me back to the time that I was with my 1st love many many years ago. I had a lot of problems back then, but all is well for me now. Then completely outta the blue she tr...
A. 18 August 2010: I agree with the previous comment: This has nothing to do with Divine Intervention. We all know the marriage vows: What God has joined together, let no man put asunder. If I had a dollar for every person who claimed that their lover was a "soul ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to stop bringing up her past?
Q. I've known my girlfriend for a little over four years and have been with her for a little over a month and a half. A year and a half ago, she got out of a terrible two-year relationship that's left her very emotionally fragile. I know I would never ...
A. 18 August 2010: I note that you're in the 18-21 year age range. Far too young to be talking about marriage, even if you and your gf do end up getting married one day. And although you've known her for 4 years, you've only been in a relationship for a very short ... (read in full...)
She thinks we're friends, but ...
Q. My "friend" is always lying to me and forces me to do things. If I don't she starts crying and says she will go home. She thinks we are best friends and I can't just tell her I don't want to be her friend anymore because we have known each other ...
A. 18 August 2010: Friendships are relationships and sometimes in a boy/girl relationship, one of you decides that, for whatever reason,you're just not into the other one. So you move on. There should be no difference and if you feel forced into being her friend ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this marriage? I'm sooooo bored now that the kids are up and away.
Q. i've been married for 28 years and now that the children are grown and gone i found myself to be living a sedentary and bored life with my wife. i'm tired of the monotony and routine and i want to get out of it because i no longer desire to continue ...
A. 17 August 2010: The title of your message says it all: You're bored. It has nothing to do with HER, it's YOU. She would probably love to bored after 28 years of marriage, but instead she's obviously living on her nerves, having endured 28 years with a cheating ... (read in full...)
My married man doesn't want to go on holiday together now!
Q. I have been together with a married man for over 4yrs.We have bad and good times.People have told his wife and always problems but then it sorts out.I love him very very very much.We were to go on holidays but people have again made problems for us ...
A. 16 August 2010: I suppose he's told you that he doesn't sleep with her, doesn't love her as much as he loves you, that he's never felt this way about anyone before, blah blah blah? And you believe it, fool that you are. You are the other woman honey, and will ... (read in full...)
Can this relationship with my married boss work?
Q. Right so apparently this is a "common" thing. Being in love with a married man. I %100 believe he loves me too. To further complicate the situation he is my boss. I've worked day and night with this man 6days a week for 4years. Also his wife. They ...
A. 16 August 2010: I agree with hpoco though my prediction is somewhat harsher. Once you have left the country, he won't call and you'll call him time and again until you finally get the hint that it is SO OVER from his point of view. He's just saying he'll sell the ... (read in full...)
Define "harmless flirting" from married mans point of view
Q. OK so there's a guy at work who is very friendly with me, I was instantly attracted to him and there was chemistry however as soon as I found out he's married I completely backed off, I didn't realise because he doesn't wear a ring. That hasn't ...
A. 16 August 2010: Sounds as if he's singled you out for attention and is "fishing" to see whether you're game for something more, or not. It's so easy to start something up, believing that you will remain in control simply out of curiosity; wanting to see where it ... (read in full...)
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