Should I try for the job and forget about college, or the other way around? Please advise.
Q. I am 20 years old, at a serious cross roads in my life. I have been working in a department store (that pays well enough)for three years. I was in college last year studying something that I decided wouldn't in any way help me get a good job, so ...
A. 7 May 2011: This is a tough decision with the information you've provided. this college class you have to pay 400 for is it something that will help you get promoted faster? or maybe make you eligible for a better job in the future? if so you should really ... (read in full...)
In my 20's and new to dating - looking for people who have had similar situations
Q. so im 21 and new to dating ... im not entirely sure if i want a relationship right now, or whether im just craving meeting new people/ making new friends... basically, my question is for those who have been in my situation, and have started ...
A. 17 January 2011: i know what you mean im 23 and started dating about 2 yrs ago. as far as knowing right of the bat if i wanted someone to be my gf has only happened once. i felt a really strong connection with a girl and persued her...sadly things didnt work out. in ... (read in full...)
How can I build up my self-esteem?
Q. How can I build up my self-esteem? I don't normally hear black men - or men in general for that matter - talking about this, but I've never had much confidence in my looks or my personality. I've always felt inadequate for relationships with women: ...
A. 25 May 2010: i know how you feel i had the same problem when i was 20. i didn't like my physical appearance, and i felt that no girl would bother to spend time with me because of my lack of personality. What you have to do is ID the things in your life that are ... (read in full...)
Are there any ways to get rid of excess skin after losing weight?
Q. I'm 5' feet tall, I recently lost weight ( and continue to do so in a healthy way) I went from 170 to 150 in four months, eating healthy food and going to gym, since January of this year. I am wondering if I will need surgery to remove any fat ...
A. 14 May 2010: First of all congratulations on losing all that weight the healthy way (exercise + diet). As the others have said you shouldn't have to worry about excess skin, your dropping 5lbs per month which is a very healthy rate. If you are still concerned i ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to back off?
Q. i need some help on how to deal with a very annoying problem. i work at a restaurant and there's a girl who comes in very often and hits on me like there's no tomorrow. the problem is she is only 16 turning 17 (she is extremely attractive for her ...
A. 7 May 2010: thank you all for the advice and comments im going to have to use a little bit of everyone's suggestions to properly handle this situation. ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if I'm too timid!
Q. I've been questioning my actions and reactions to females, and I'm wondering if I'm a bit too timid. I am a quiet and reserved guy, but I'm more open and comfortable to those I get to know well. It's tough to explain, but I'm usually timid in...
A. 5 May 2010: Yeah i know what you mean in high school i was the same way i was very reserved. even the girls who were my friends i was hesitant to have physical contact with. it bothered me for a long time that i had this apprehension towards physical contact ... (read in full...)
Looking for no strings attached sex with a friend.
Q. I have a question for everyone out there. i have a friend who i have known for about 5yrs she is quite attractive but i've never seen her as more than just a friend, until recently. the thing is i have never had sex or fooled around with a girl ...
A. 30 April 2010: Thank you all for your advice i really do need to look at this situation from all angles before i decide what path to go down and your comments have certainly helped me do that. Thank you all again. ... (read in full...)
What are some signs to look for to see if she is interested in being more then just friends? And how do I keep the conversation going?
Q. So i had a class with this really cute girl at university last fall 2009, i tried to get her to hang out with me on a couple occasions but nothing ever came of it. i had no contact at all with her since January 2010 until she contacted me on ...
A. 27 April 2010: Thanks for the advice 'quickhelper' we did end up having lunch together and it went really well. i followed your advice by talking about her mostly, and tried to make her laugh i was able to keep the awkward silences to a bare minimum, thank god. ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to show off my new body?
Q. I am a girl that was 25 pounds overweight. I have been working out and have lost the weight and am in the best shape of my life. Summer is coming and I have purchased some skimpy clothes, such as short shorts, micro miniskirts, tubetops, and some ...
A. 22 April 2010: There is absolutely nothing wrong with showing off your new body as long as you feel comfortable. After all you put in all that time to exercise and eat right, think of all the attention as one of the many rewards for your hard work plus its a ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so shy when I'm around guys?
Q. I've always been a shy person but lately it's getting ridiculous. Like I'm not shy towards girls, it's just guys, it doesn't matter who it is, I can't talk to any fella coz as soon as we start talking I freeze. I don't know what to say and it's ...
A. 1 April 2010: I have a similar problem except I'm shy around girls. I have been trying to get over it and I have found a few things that help. First you have build confidence in yourself and your image by making sure you look your best whenever you go out. Wear ... (read in full...)
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