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writes:Guys, Do you do it too?You have a crush on someone but he/she keep ignoring you.Then you maintain a romantic relationship with someone.After publishing your relationship, you avoid your crush. You can't do eye contact one day, but you still want her/his attention the other day.What do you think about this kind of behavior?? Does it mean you still like your crush anyway? Does it mean you're not serious with your present partner??
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reader, bittersweetchicka  +, writes (22 March 2010):
You know I'm not the best with these sort of things.
However, I am there.. Right Now... So maybe I can help, or confuse you.. who knows 1 persons thought to the next!
I have a coworker (frm time we 1st met, there was a connection) I can feel them when ver they are near, we just connect somehow. Well they are married, and I am scared, to make a move.. (co worker) I think they like me to but what tops the cheescake it there the same sex. - Like I said, they act like they like me in more attraction level, but they set it up for me to be the one that will have to say I want more.. ( With this person its one thing this day and then they hate me then try to get me in trouble then back to liking me its a cycle) -
So when I did not know where I stood,a fellow at the same job asked me out - we clicked - we been going out since - I am happy but I miss her -they both have made feel i had to choose 1 or the other... She stopped talking to me, that was horrible... But it was easier b/c when I do see her shes in my mind I want more...And she knows that.. Now walks around my area at work when by bf is not there then wont speak to me unless its about work, and comes around and has that connection... So where I stand in the middle I love both.. BUt go with the big picture- the one I will have a future
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reader, The Realist +, writes (19 March 2010):
 I'm pretty sure most people would do this. I know that is how I work. If you have mutiple crushes you can't just forget about them the second you get into a relationship. If that were the case then they must not have meant anything at all in the first place. Its normal and alright as long as you don't lose focus on your new partner because of a crush. Even if your in a long term relationship it is healthy to notice others to see what is out there in the world. It will either help you apprieciate the relationship you are in or you will realize that the grass may be greener on the other side.
People generally love attention and would like it to be from more than one person, its just how we are.
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