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writes:Hey, im 19 and turning 20 late this year. I'm a christian i love God so so so much, i have a bf and i love so as well the thing is every time im with him i feel gulty like im commiting a sin. I realy dont know what to do, we've know each other for 3 years but only started dating a month ago. Should i dump him cause i sometimes feel i love him more than God and that's a sin right?
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reader, Khenygal +, writes (19 April 2010):
Khenygal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow thanx 2eveyone who took time 2answer my question. May the good Lord bless you. I broke up with my bf not because of my love 4God but because of other reasons. I got al the answers and i know they will help me in future so thanx a million...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): Ok, think fir a minute, if u and yu BF werebgonna live with eachother later in life, could it happen? It could but it wouldn't be right. If u have accepted Jesus Christ into your heart and he hasn't ..then it wouldn't be right living with him. Light can't live with dark. They can't dwell in the same place. Try to get him to go to church with you. I am having the same problem and I am 14 years old. U have to think about it for awhile. Good luck! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): Setting aside your religious believes to look at this from your boyfriend's perspective can be quite eye opening...Suppose for a minute that you found out that your boyfriend was considering leaving you because you did not share his athiest views... even if he eventually decided against it on grounds of careful moral reasoning- would you still want to stay with someone that you knew was prepared to leave you solely on the grounds of your beliefs?If he knew you were considering leaving him for this, I suspect he would be very hurt. Perhaps you should leave him to find someone that loves him for who he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): The love you feel for your bf is different than the love you feel for God. It's human love that you experience with your bf, which includes sexual feelings, making you feel guilty because it's an imperfect form of love. The love God gives you and expects in return from you is perfect love, which is how he also expects you to treat people in general. He wants you to strive everyday to be as perfect as you can, knowing that you will never display complete perfection in your human life on Earth, since you are human and therefore imperfect. Just remember that you're showing your perfect love to God and others, and that the imperfect love you feel for your bf is entirely different, and is in fact a blessing from God, so enjoy your time with your bf. The fact that he's not a practising Christian shouldn't change your love for him.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
-2 Corinthians 6:14 - NIV
You are committing no sin as you are not 'yoked ' together with your b/f yet. You are only dating him. You are not married to him.
The Christian people would tell you not to date with non Christians but we don't know God's plan . God could be using you as a conduit to win him over to Him.
It is not wrong or a sin to date a non Christian and even if you marry a non Christian.
The Bible encourages and exhort you to date a fellow Christian and that statement is not a cannon law.(This is my interpretation ).
But if you love a non Christian and marry him, he is sanctified through you .
Some day when he sees you are different in outlook to others, he may come to accept Christ.
If you love him ,more than God ,that is a sin. Remember, you are only human , so don't judge yourself too harshly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): ummmm not a sin. you can love anyone. God is supposed to be love right? I'm an athiest, but I used to be a Christian and I know the bible, and if you believe what the bible says,then accept love. love is good thing. it breaks my heart that your belief in a god is making you think that loving someone else is wrong, afterall, according to the bible, jesus loved all.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 I would think, God would want you to love someone so much that you thank God for them. Then, God would be happy that two of his/her creations are so nicely suited for each other and in love.
If you and he have a happy, respectful, loving relationship and you're just worried that you're too happy, please don't let the guilt of loving someone too much get in the way of a great relationship. But, if you feel that he is asking you to give up something you believe in or if he treats you poorly in anyway, leave him. Not for God, but because you deserve so much better. Your God will love you no matter what, your God only wants you to be happy and find a comforting love that brings out the best in you and your significant other.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 I don't think God means for you to be alone. Of course your supposed to fall in love, otherwise how are people supposed to get married and have children. Did you expect to marry a man you hate. The only people who are expected to love God and not others are called nun's, and they hide themselves away from the world.
Is your God so mean that he wishes you to be alone. Then why did he make man and woman, why did he create love?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 Its no sin to love another human being on this earth no matter what their religion, if any. This needs to be a personal choice that you make and if you can't be fully there for him then yeah it is best to wait for someone who shares your belief system. This is fine since I doubt he would ever ask you to change for him so you should never expect him to change either.
In the end it sounds like you two are not right for each other. Your love for God needs to find its right place because in the end the bible states that you should love your husband till death.
You should focus on what makes you happy in life and search your soul for that. If you do end up breaking up with your bf I do not recommend bringing up God, just leave it at personal reasons. If he is already not religious hearing these kind of things can really bring out the worst in people.
Best of luck to you.
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