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writes:I really need male point of views in thisWhat would a guy think if a girl he used to like just stopped talking to him. No reason, whatsoever and kept ignoring him. Well how would that guy feel if that girl decided to talk to him after 6months?Im really confused, this guy in the year above me is in his last year of school. We have a history but I stopped talking to him because I had personal problems of my own.Now I wanna be friends before he leaves , if I dont- the thought of him leaving without us being friends is gonna haunt me forever( because I still kinda like him, actually I always had)But friendship is all im after, honestly.Iv been resenting him all this time and now I want to talk to him. Shall I do it and get it off my mind?Im scared he might just reject me.He probably thinks I hate him. Recently, iv caught him staring at me. We keep giving each other eye contact. its strange and awkward. But I really want to say "hi" but i find it really hard to approach him.Shall I do it and how? please help, i havent got a long time. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, CandyCurves +, writes (21 March 2010):
CandyCurves is verified as being by the original poster of the question I've decided I'm definitely going to do it, thanks to your advice.
If I'm honest Im REALLY SCARED! I know the best thing to do is to be sincere but I really don't know what to say to him apart from "hi". And thats not the only thing I want from our friendship- Hellos and goodbyes. I'd like something more meaingful.But One step at a time.
If he asks me why I stopped talking, what can I say apart from "Sorry I stopped talking to you because I've been suffering from depression"?!
He's going to think Im crazy. I cant lie either.
Im praying hes going to understand and not ask me anything yet.Once again ,thank you very much for your words. I found them very hepful!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 March 2010):
You need to keep it simple with him. He's probably hurt and confused by it all. So he may resent you or turn you away. But you need to do this, because if you don't, you'll regret it. So just speak to him and see what he says.
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reader, Marmite +, writes (20 March 2010):
 Go for it, its better to regret something youve tried and know it wasnt going to happen than live with the thought of what if forever. I can say most if not all guys wont mind talking to a girl at all whatever the circumstances. Just try to be honest and be yourself :)
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reader, Bakad  +, writes (20 March 2010):
Do it! Keep in mind it may go bad. No matter what it would have been really nice to tell a guy why you have stopped talking to him instead of letting him think of his own reasons. Just be sincere and don't make excuses or anything. Go up to him and just say that you like him and miss the old friendship you had.
Never let a moment slip to say something. Trust me.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 Go for it. Some times people need to take time to work through their own issues before they start a friendship again. I've had that happen before and its amazing how fast things can pick back up. If he does reject you then just let him go and be happy that you put the effort in. If you don't talk to him you will always wonder what could have happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): I would probably not consider that girl much of a friend actually and her ignoring me would put me off because overall guys are simple and don't have room for head games. I guess I would be friendly but not want to get involved in any drama so if she just apologized and then acted normal it would be okay.
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