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*dub13
writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 4 months now. There was this one point in our relationship a while back when I started to get bored of him (because of his clingyness and almost routine visits,) and I thought of just breaking it off with him then because I knew it wasn't fair to him. I talked to him about what I felt and how I needed my space, and he talked me into giving him another shot. He changed, of course. He didn't come to my house every day and expect to cuddle like he did before, and I was happy with that. The other day, however, he tried to kiss me for the first time, and I flat out told him "no." Ever since I got bored of him, I have lost any sexual attraction to him. I know this is definitely not fair to him, because I always nag him about making the first move (because, of course, I've always had to make the move.) I've kissed guys before, and I thought those experiences were just wonderful. My friend told me I should try to kiss him back anyway, because "he deserves it," but I just don't have that urge. So what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (15 March 2010):
 You should just end it. Don't give him anything before you go it will only confuse him and slow his healing process. If its only been four months and the desire is gone then it is best to just move on or next thing you know you two have been unhappy with each other for year. Its difficult now but it only gets harder as time goes on. I'm all about working through problems but no one should be with someone and then learn to love later.
Just tell him that the feelings just aren't there and it would be unfair to him to let this continue.
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