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writes:My girlfriend's mum told me... a woman sleeps with a man, has an orgasm and thinks shes in love. The man just thinks he had a wonderful night.Is that true??
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reader, jamielea kellow +, writes (16 March 2010):
 hi, no it is not true it takes time to love someone even for us girls. an orgasm doesn't mean love. thats all i can really say i haven't been in that situation before i hope this helps you. jamie-lea
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reader, dorothy2342  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 I think in general women are in love with love and if you can through a great orgasm into the mix you've got a good little cocktail. When it comes to sex and men, they a complete alcoholics and the addition of love is secondary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): There are biochemical differences in the brain the genders. Durimg & after sex the female's hormones usually start trying to form emotional bonds with the other person.
The male brain just doesn't work the same way. Sex may be a bonding experience to us depending on the situation, but it is by no means as natural & automatically prone to happening as it is with women.
Not everyone fits the mold the same way. There are pleny of exceptions and it varies from case to case. But the generalizations about the different reactions of men & women are rooted in truth.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 In the traditional role, a woman needs to feel loved before she can have sex with her man. If she had sex with the man , it means she was in love with him. If she can't feel his love,she would be unable to have sex with him.
While the man may not actually love the woman .Love and sex are two different things to a man and they are not the same.
Today with the sexual revolution, women don't have to feel loved to have sex. They are liberated and they enjoy sex with no strings attached like the man
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (16 March 2010):
Women's bodies release certain hormones during sex that give a sense of attachment. This hormone is oxytocin, the same hormone involved in bonding a mother to her child during childbirth and nursing.
Men's bodies do not have a parallel hormone to oxytocin in this regard, and they bond visually. This is why that first time they see their baby they are different about the child.
Sex, therefore, gives women a chemical sense of attachment, and much less, if anything, for men.
I know my facts, but I'm just a 16-year-old virgin girl that listened in Sex Ed. I hope this helped.
Best of luck,
Feel free to message me with questions,
--GG
PS. I agree with realitycheck, too. It's a more intimate thing for women.
Plus, women's brains are just wired differently than those of men.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 It can be true but like what was stated you can't judge all based on one person. I have heard stories where its the womans first orgasm or the mens first time and they do think they are in love even though the other person may not share any of those feelings.
It can happen to anyone no matter the gender but it does not happen all the time. So it is and isn't the truth.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (16 March 2010):
 This is a little bit generalising here. It sounds like you are talking about one night stands, and not actual, serious relationships. Of course, female brains and male brains are wired differently. What she said was true, mostly for inexperienced women. Her mom's intention is to warn you about bad guys out there, but it's wrong to assume that guys can't emotionally connect through sex. Guys are on a different timeline when it comes to relationships. It takes them longer to commit. Girls learn to become players too, less likely though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): i dont think you can lump every woman and every man in that general statement. I would say as a rule women tend to become emotionally involved more quickly. Not sure that helps. :) mal
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reader, Realitycheck +, writes (16 March 2010):
 Somewhat true. Women tend to sleep with men after they have feelings for them whereas men can sleep with someone he just met and then never think of her again. Consider it like this; In order for a woman to have sex, she must take a man inside of her. All of her sexual organs are deep inside of her body which is probably why she wants to form an intimate bond with a man before she allows him to enter her core. A man's sexual anatomy is on the outside of his body. Therefore he can have sex and not really connect with a woman or feel any remorse when he doesn't even remember her name.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (16 March 2010):
 Never heard that but not saying it's false. I guess if a woman achieves orgasm, then she thinks the man cared about her enough to have her orgasm, rather than just in two minutes, he cums and it's all over?
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