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writes:Dear Cupid..is it possible to like your gf and this other girl a lot at the same time ?? I know a guy who is in that situation and he thinks it is possible to like his gf and this other girl at the same time but i want to prove to him that it's not possible..so is it ?? thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (1 August 2010):
 We have the ability to care for many people at once. That also means we can fall for multiple people at once. This has to happen throughout a relationship so that the person can see if the relationship is worth having over the unknown one with the new person. The ones who survive are meant to be together. The world needs friendly compition to allow us to see what we have and compare it to what else it out there. With no comparison we could never be truly happy with what we have.
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (1 August 2010):
Just because you are in a relationship doesnt make everyone else around you unattractive. Im certain it is possible to like two people at once but if you really love the person you are with you wont take it furthur with anyone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): Sure, it's possible to like two girls at once, or at least be interested in both of them. That's how married/committed men and women begin affairs - by being attracted to someone other than their partner. That doesn't mean, however, that it's an OK thing.
Attraction is one thing: I can think a man is attractive without having lustful thoughts about him or pursuing him while I'm in a relationship. Acting on that attraction, is entirely another thing, and it's not a very nice thing to do. It hurts your partner, the one you supposedly care about, and it's deceptive.
So, your friend can like two girls at once, but it's not fair to his official girlfriend, nor is it very honest.
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