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writes:Hey everyone, I'm extremely confused right now about where I stand! I joined Facebook two years ago, and I know almost 900 people; in other words I've seen them, talked to them or I'm their friend. But, this one girl recently joined. I know her from school; she made an account with fake pics from Google. Guys are going nuts asking her out and commenting on her photos like lunatics! I feel like I need to tell them that her pictures aren't real and stop everyone from believing her. Other girls in my school are doing the same thing just to get attention. Am i at liberty to tell? It really bothers me but I'm not sure if it's my place to point it out. Is there another way? Help is greatly appreciated!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): Yes. Tell everyone. I knew people who did this exact thing, and this was a huge lesson for them for the better when they were outted. Know this will be better for everyone in the long run- nobody falling for fake people, and people learning they shouldn't have to pretend to be some imaginary person for love.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (28 July 2010):
 If you are a close personal friend with a guy that's getting too close, then maybe tell him (privately, in person) but otherwise keep your head down and stay out of it before you get dragged into a whole mess that could end up making you look very bad if the girl strikes back.
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reader, StevenTasker +, writes (28 July 2010):
Stay out of it or your going to get yourself hated by a lot of people. If you REALLY wanted to get involved make a fake facebook with a fake e-mail and make sure there's NO WAY they can figure out who made it and then show real pics of them or post stuff telling everyone that they're fake. Just be careful.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (28 July 2010):
I think if someone needs to lie to make them selve's feel good! it's something that will catch up w/ them. and something they have to live with? we all know that they are wanna b's!!! i mean really what are you to do is telling the right thing? or is letting it go the right thing? you know them better then we do. do you think their lies will effect people? are they doing it for the hell of it? do you live by any of them? what do you think they will do to you if you did say something? becareful and take care of you because it can turn real ugly. and you may wish you have never said anything so out weigh everything and do what you think you need to do!!!
Good Luck!
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (28 July 2010):
 If any of the people you are really close to are infatuated with this girl then yes, you should tell them privately. It might be a good idea to discreetly tell the girl also that you're on to her and that, while you don't intend to reveal her secret to the world, that she will only end up hurting herself and others in the long run.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (28 July 2010):
 Nobody likes a tattle-tail... just have a chuckle at how pathetic they are and go about your life :)
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (28 July 2010):
 I wouldn't get involved with that because people will just turn on you in the end. You can take comfort in the fact that eventually these guys will go out with them and realize that they are totally fake and that will be the end of it. Then they will spread it around. Being a fake person only lasts so long and its never worth the risk.
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reader, romany  +, writes (28 July 2010):
 I can see your dilema, I dont like seeing people conned either. so I think I would write an inbox message to her, and tell her that you know she doesn't look like that, and that she is playing a dangerous game, and that its only a matter of time before she's found out, and that her deceit would no doubt anger people, and that she should cancel her account and set up a new honest one.
If she blocks you, then contact your close friends, who are all gushy over her pics and warn them.
If all else fails, you could always contact facebook, as she is publishing photo's that she has no right to, and as you know when uploading photo's, facebook gets you to tick a disclaimer that you have the right to publish them.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (28 July 2010):
 These girls clearly have low self esteems and low self body images. They have put up pics of other, more attractive girls because they feel inadiquate themselves. This is very sad. The comments from guys will boost their confidence in the short term, but at the end of the day this is just a complete fantasy. They're not helping themselves.
I can understand why you want to comment, as you know the truth and it is natural that you want other people to know. But it could be seen as bitchy if you 'burst their bubble' by commenting on their profile.
Have you thought about maybe messaging the girl privatly, and just let her know that you know her pictures arn't real. Ask her why she feels she has to do this. That way you're not embarracing her, and she might wake up and realise how other people perceive her when she posts fake pictures.
On the other hand, if you don't care for the girl and arn't bothered about being seen to be a bitch, post on each fake pic and her profile that her pics are fake, upload a real pic of her and watch the fallout :) could be interesting!
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reader, candygirl_iraq  +, writes (28 July 2010):
I would say confront her first if you feel its wrong. Send her a PM or talk to her school.No need to publically embarress her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): Why not? Haha post a link to a real pic of them. Haha but remember that by doing so they may get angry at you but if u can take it go for it.
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