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writes:My ex was married about 14 years ago. Previously we were together about the same but never married. We talk on the phone and catch up on kids, events, etc. His wife has forbid him to talk to me. She checks his phone daily and has confronted him about it. He told her "you can't tell me who to talk to" My question is now she has started following me. I guess to see if we are meeting up. We are not! When should I confront her if at all? Or is it his place to tell her to stop!!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2021): I should clear up a few things. we were together 13 years, never married, no kids together. He married and his now wife if forbidding him to talk to me and jealous if he talks to anyone. She followed me in her car. I guess she though I was meeting him or something. I let him know. He was very angry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2021): I can only echo the others, and say block the woman! If she's stalking you online, just block her. If she's physically tailing you, but she hasn't approached you; I don't think any law has been broken. You pretty much have to change your travel route, or throw her off somehow. Please be careful, if you're being tailed by car...do not speed or attempt any stunts that could cause an accident.
You may need to clarify things, because the first paragraph of your post is confusing. The way you've described your past-relationship to him; and if he's now married or divorced, is unclear.
I'm not one for drama, or dealing with nut-cases. If I had to go through all this craziness to talk to somebody else's spouse; I'd just disassociate altogether, and go about my life.
How is an "ex" worth the trouble of straining my current relationship or marriage over? Unless you two have children together.
If my partner was as upset about me contacting an ex, I'd just stop. Not because they demanded me to; but because I've got a new life, and I've moved on. This is causing arguments and discord in their marriage. Why would you continue knowing that? If they're now divorced, she has no dog in this hunt!!! It's none of her business!
Personally, I prefer a drama-free life. If I knew I was upsetting someone by keeping in contact with somebody I had to break-up with, I'd be more focused on whom I'm with in the present. That's just me. Although, he is absolutely right, she doesn't tell him who he can and cannot speak to!!!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (28 July 2021):
 I am puzzled as I have understood from your post that the wife is current whereas the aunt and uncle who have responded have taken it that the wife is an ex.
Also, I assumed, when you say she is "following" you, that you mean physically, in the real world, whereas the aunt and uncle have taken that to mean on social media.
Are you able to clarify? Have I just managed to get completely the wrong end of the stick on both counts?
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reader, kenny +, writes (28 July 2021):
 I fail to see why he entertains this at all to be honest. He is a free person who can talk to whoever he likes.
Block her on all social media accounts and go private, then forget about her.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 July 2021):
 Just block her?
I presume when you say she is "following you" that you mean on social media? If so, block her. Make your profile private for people you aren't friends with.
Whatever she wants is nothing to you. I wouldn't waste a moment thinking about what SHE wants or whom she thinks HE can talk to. You can talk to whomever you want. So can HE if he isn't married to her anymore why does he even entertain her bullshit?
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