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writes:Hi, has anyone had this happen to them. I’ve being dating a man for about 6 weeks. I’ve only ever slept with him once and that night, after we slept together he just turned over and went to sleep. I’ve never experienced this before, I like a cuddle and a little bit of pillow talk. I’m now worried he will do it again. Do I say something to him about it or just wait and see if it happens again.? I felt like it was uncaring. Reply to this Question
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reader, Wearinganappy  +, writes (11 August 2021):
Im guilty of this as well however I have found out that Im hypoglycemic which is low sugar. So when ive spent my load i crash out this is where foreplay is so important for a lady and very important that i learnt this as we've had some beautiful sex as long as i remember not to ride straight away
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reader, Alwin  +, writes (9 August 2021):
 Tell him, he's not a mind reader, besides he barelly knows you, cuddling is more about affection, and in 6 weeks he's (maybe) attracted to you but doesnt have strong feelings for you yet... I've never cuddled with f-ck buddies and hook ups, I tried to avoid it so I wouldn't "develop" feelings/ too much attachment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2021): He is a lousy lover plane and simple. Tell him you like to cuddle and talk after it. If he doesn't then you have no choice but dump him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2021): Next time go 'WOW, you're so much bigger and better than my quarterback ex.' Pillow talk starter. Get ready for round two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2021): You have only known him for six weeks so why do you assume he should be caring? For all you know he is just wanting sex, he got it and then went to sleep. There is nothing that says he has to like you a lot, fall in love with you or care about you before the sex happens. Nor that he has to be honest - plenty of men will lie and pretend they care just to get sex. You should not have to ask for a cuddle, it counts for nothing if he does not care enough to want to cuddle you himself. If he is only doing it because you say about it to please you then he is just going through the motions and pretending, a pointless exercise. You should get to know someone a lot better before you have sex with them. Not have sex and then get annoyed they are not as nice as you want them to be.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (8 August 2021):
 I think that the best course of action is to let him know how you feel. Explain that you like to cuddle afterwards. As the other aunts/uncles have stated, he can't read your mind, he doesn't know what you want or need. Your relationship is very new so you are both learning about one another. Please remember too OP that men and women are different, most men from my experience and knowledge are exhausted after sex, apparently it takes up quite abit of their energy and they truly are tired and just want/need sleep. TALK TO HIM. Then see what happens.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (8 August 2021):
 I think wait to what happens the next time, and if he rolls over and goes to sleep again then broach the subject with him and tell him how your feeling.
It does seem rather uncaring and cold, but give him the benefit of the doubt and see what happens on the next occasion.
Communication is key here, if you don't talk how is he ever going to know.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 August 2021):
 Just tell him that you like to cuddle after sex. If he likes that too he will know and probably cuddle with you.
HE CAN NOT read your mind, OP
And if it's hot where you are at, he might not be a big fan of a hot sticky cuddle.
Not everyone is tactile after sex, it has LITTLE to do with how you feel about your partner. I for one CAN NOT stand to cuddle for a longer time, a couple of minutes and I need my space.
But.. again, he CAN NOT read your mind SO you need to use your words.
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reader, Tinacandida +, writes (7 August 2021):
 Hi, dont worry too much at this stage in your relationship. There could be many factors as to why he rolled over. He may not be very experienced with what women want. You just need to talk about this and tell him what you like. If after youve mentioned it to him he hasnt taken it on board then its obvious he is putting his own needs first. As you get to know someone you go through many hurdles and it does take time. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2021): i had a boyfriend like this in the early days some men are a bit selfish and just have sex with no love. when a stronger love and relationship bonds deeper over time he will just naturally want to cuddle after sex.
but yes tell him i want a cuddle after sex nothing wrong with that request as it will really bother you as it did me years ago so speak up for what you want its important!
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