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23 July 2009: One of our agony aunts is going to have a baby soon, so I thought it might be nice to send her our best wishes and our tips, the practices on parenting that we have learned from our experiences! I'll start the ball rolling - - If you don't want a...
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Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 1 July 2008: Hey, I have that bottle of Raspberry Vodka sitting on the counter, waiting for that Barbeque, Irish!!! Tisha is bringing the watermelon...
Andrew!
Congrats on another Big Milestone!
Big Hugs to all the Aunties out there, and you know who you... (read in full...)
I felt like I was making love to a little doll.... I like him..but am I being shallow?
Q. Iv met this man, he's 35 yrs old and has a nice personality, and he's not bad looking BUT..last night we had sex for the 1st time and i found him to be very skinny, he's smaller then me in height, and i was ok with that but when i was in bed with ...
A. 1 July 2008: I have always liked shorter men, but I do like them to have big shoulders and muscles too. I still want to feel like I am the one being held, not the one doing the holding. The chemistry has to work between you, and if you aren't happy with how ... (read in full...)
Is it possible my girlfriend could know she is pregnant after only a week?
Q. me and my girlfriend had sex bout a week ago, and now she says she is pregnant already, is that possible to know that soon?...
A. 1 July 2008: Some women are very in touch with their bodies. She might be one of them! However, most of the women that do "know" immediately have been pregnant before and are well aware of how this feels, which probably isn't a description of your young ... (read in full...)
What sort of behavior is my boyfriend displaying?
Q. My B\F does the following * Criticizes the mess i make in bathroom before i have chance to clean up * Criticizes how I prepare food, wash up, dry etc * Gets irritated if i leave a cup on table without coaster * complains if i get crumbs on th...
A. 1 July 2008: Nice one Uncle Sneaker!
Yes, he's a total asshole, Darling. It's not you. Good Heavens, why are you putting up with this? I'd go on strike in the kitchen, laundry room and bedroom until he learns how to keep a civil tongue in his head. Don'... (read in full...)
He took a day off to spend with friends, but wouldn't do the same to celebrate my birthday - does he care?
Q. Please help me. I have this boyfriend and I love him very much but he doesn't seem to care that much about me. Its my birthday coming up and he said that I shouldn't be surprised if he forgets - which upset me because I made a real fuss over h...
A. 30 June 2008: Tell him that you have a show and dinner booked for the two of you for that evening and then call him EVERY SINGLE DAY. Remind him, it's MY BIRTHDAY in 8 days! It's my Birthday in one week! Next Friday is my birthday. Can't wait to see that show ... (read in full...)
Can I find a partner at this age or do all men prefer the company of young(er) ladies?
Q. I am aged 53 and would love to meet a nice man please tell me it isnt true that all men want young girls. I like to think I am attractive and hopefully nice company but it seems a shame if I have to resign myself to the fact no one is ever going to ...
A. 30 June 2008: Sure there are! But you could also become a cougar and hit on younger men now too! What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander! Men have been dating younger women for years! I think at 53 (same age as I am, BTW), if I were single now, I ... (read in full...)
I don't want my ex girlfriend to see my son. What can I do?
Q. please help with advice i have a 9 yr old son from a previous marriage of which i am divorced i ended a 5 yr relationship with ex girl friend 12 months ago of which we lived together for 4 and a half years also with my son he lived with us su...
A. 30 June 2008: You don't explain WHY you don't want your son to see your ex-girlfriend. If he is attached to her and they have a relationship, is there some reason that you want this relationship to end? Is she a danger to your child? Or do you just want her ... (read in full...)
If we are taking a break, can I date?
Q. My partner and I have been going through the mill for the past year as she had an emotional affair with an old friend of hers. We have been to counselling and talked alot and it appears she has quite a few personal problems and ghosts she wants to ...
A. 30 June 2008: I think that you should sit down and talk about what this separation will entail for both of you and set ground rules. If you don't think that she should sleep with her emotional affair during your separation, you had better say so beforehand ... (read in full...)
Anyone else turned off by the way some guys kiss?
Q. Is there a reason why some men when they kiss a woman every seems ok but when the lips touch there comes the hard tongue and they think is sexy and that makes them great kissers. I find it a turn off and is not seductive..I actually said to this ...
A. 29 June 2008: Okay, What is squiffy?
???
Yes, I am dense. Is it horny or tipsy? ... (read in full...)
Now 6 years later I'm paying the price.
Q. Hi everyone, this is gonna sound gross, but I have a lot of hair on my stomach and some in-grown hairs on my chest, I pluck them but its obvious that hair grows there, I also have hair that grows around my nipple and a few on my neck and chin. I ...
A. 28 June 2008: YOU ARE NORMAL!!!
Your hair isn't growing back at twice the rate simply because you have removed it, that's simply an old wives tale. We women are all led to believe, because of airbrushed models, that body hair is abnormal.
IT IS NOT.
AND it... (read in full...)
Can players ever be trusted?
Q. Can someone out there please tell me - what is a "Player"? I hear of this reference alot and just wondering what are the character traits of a player, how does he relate to women. What does he REALLY think of women? Can players ever be trusted?...
A. 28 June 2008: The definition of a "Player" is that he is at the top of his "Game", for the most part that means playing women (juggling and scoring with them). If someone treats a woman as a game, as something that they keep score of, do YOU think that that any ... (read in full...)
What should I do to spark up a conversation at the Prom tomorrow?
Q. My prom is tomorrow and I have no idea what to do?! I never really spoke to my class because I never got along with them, and I don't want to seem like an outcast. I do have friends, obviously, and I do chat to my class, just I run out of thing...
A. 27 June 2008: It isn't necessary to "entertain" everyone around you in order to have a conversation. It's normal that some people are comfortable talking, but it's probably MORE normal to be shy in a crowd. People being afraid to talk in front of a crowd is the ... (read in full...)
Anyone else turned off by the way some guys kiss?
Q. Is there a reason why some men when they kiss a woman every seems ok but when the lips touch there comes the hard tongue and they think is sexy and that makes them great kissers. I find it a turn off and is not seductive..I actually said to this ...
A. 27 June 2008: I did run into really, REALLY, bad kissers when I was dating, and some that REALLY knew how to kiss well and curl up your toes. BUT, there isn't any easy way to bring up the subject delicately, especially in a new relationship. Most men are ... (read in full...)
What should I do about having found naked pictures of her ex?
Q. What should I do about naked photos of her ex-boyfriend? Here is some background information: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years and are getting ready to move-in together. We "joke around" about getting married and it doesn't s...
A. 27 June 2008: Are we to be led to believe that YOU have naked pictures of yourself in your house, then?
;-D
You sound a lot better now that you have it all settled in you mind!
Cheers, Good Luck with your move, Hun!... (read in full...)
I made a joke and he has taken it seriously. Help!
Q. last night i was chatting with my boyfriend on msn and while we were talking about sex I was kidding when I said to him that I just act like I'm pleased after sex with him and I do it just not to make him feel bad. Surely I was just kiding and it ...
A. 27 June 2008: OOOoohhh! No!
Even after being in bed with the same guy for 35 years, I would even go there! Guys are so sensitive about anything to do with how they perform in bed. It's the one thing that they will be extremely sensitive about, and they will... (read in full...)
I'm sick of the attention I'm getting because of my boobs!
Q. I am 16 only just, and i have massive boobs (30G/H). All the girls in my year hate me for it and all the lads only want me for them. Im not very confident as im not a popular girl just normal, im not ugly either though. Im not getting to the stage ...
A. 27 June 2008: I'm sorry that people are mean to you, but at least you do know for a fact that girls are just being jealous and the guys who are attracted to you for this reason alone are being pigs. Count your blessings, though. EVERYONE is picked on in high ... (read in full...)
I''m in menopause and lost interest in sex but I'm upset my partner is resorting to porn!
Q. i am 50 years old going through menopause have gone completly off sex my partner for 2 years has informed me during a heated discussion that he is paying for porn channels of sky every month and is masturbating to it i feel sick and disgusted with ...
A. 26 June 2008: You should go and see you OB/GYN. You shouldn't accept that the loss of your sex drive is an inevitable conclusion for yourself simply because you have gone through menopause. There are plenty of treatments available that will bring back your ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend I caught her daughter having sex while I was walking the dog?
Q. Ok bit of a strange question for you. Well recently I was walking my dog when I came upon my best friends daughter and her boyfriend (well I presume) having sex. Dont get me wrong, it wasnt like an open field, in all fairness it seemed quite a ...
A. 26 June 2008: I had a friend like this who used to brag about her children being perfect, they weren't, of course. But she did take great delight in pointing out all of my children's flaws... I did not tell her why her son was ridiculed at school (face down ... (read in full...)
Is having cyber sex with a married man...make me the other woman?
Q. Does having cyber sex with a married man make me the "other woman"?...
A. 26 June 2008: If you know that this person is married or you are and you are having cyber-sex, then you are having an emotional affair. So, Yes, I guess you would be viewed by his spouse as the "Other Woman". ... (read in full...)
Should I congratulate him for his promotion or wait till he tells me about it?
Q. I've just found out from other source that the guy I like had just being promoted in his job. He's on a business trip right now, so I guess he's being told of his promotion. I really like but unfortunately I gotta admit he's not that into me , at ...
A. 26 June 2008: I'd wait until he tells you. It's always wiser to not assume things in advance. Ask anyone who has ever inquired about a spouse on meeting an old friend after a few years...
Chances are that everything has proceeded as you know it has, but if it h... (read in full...)
How am I going to get through the next few months working with this married man?
Q. Hi, I recently met a guy through work... He is actually working with me for the summer and we immediatly got on like a house on fire, which is great as he is from abroad and we will be basically with each other 24/7 until September... We have so ...
A. 26 June 2008: Well, good for you for recognizing that ill feeling and paying attention to it. It's your better judgement that is telling you that this goes against your belief-system. From time-to-time, you are going to be attracted to a man that isn't ... (read in full...)
Is sex in a commitment better than one night stands?
Q. hi i want to no if being in a committed relationship make sex more pleasurable to women than casual sex...
A. 26 June 2008: A woman has to really feel trust in her partner in order to "let herself go" - so Yes - it's definitely better in a committed relationship, especially a good marriage.... (read in full...)
What should I do? Is she a true friend?
Q. My friend only just meet this boy on Saturday who I've known for quite long because his in my and i told my friend i fancy him and she said ooh. then a day after she said she fancied him too. then tonight she asked him out for her self when she knew ...
A. 25 June 2008: No. A friend who knew that you liked a guy first should have backed off. She either didn't know this rule because you are both very young, or she just isn't a good friend at all. Either way, she isn't a friend that you can put your trust in. ... (read in full...)
I am moving and leaving a great girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. My girlfriend and I are having a good relationship, minimal fights, general fun, and happieness, I couldn't ask for more. The only problem is, I'm moving to Iowa at the end of august (we live in WI). Any advice? I'm at a loss....
A. 25 June 2008: Oh Hun,
That's hard at your young age. I know that you probably don't want things to change, but, you know that they will. If both of your parents allow, can you visit each other? You could agree that you will just take a wait and see atti... (read in full...)
What should I do about having found naked pictures of her ex?
Q. What should I do about naked photos of her ex-boyfriend? Here is some background information: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years and are getting ready to move-in together. We "joke around" about getting married and it doesn't s...
A. 25 June 2008: I'm with you on this, number 4, but only if you can wait until you move in.
It's fine to keep mementos and pictures of your ex, just not naked ones! She may or may not even know the contents of the CD when she was throwing stuff into a box, but ... (read in full...)
Porn or prostitution? Which is worse?
Q. Is porn more degrading than prostitution? Just wondering what peeps opinions are.do you think that been a porn star or working in a brothel is more degrading? serious answers please...
A. 25 June 2008: If you are selling your soul in order to do one or the other, what possible difference could that make? Honestly? To the woman involved, I doubt very much that this was a first option...
Sex is an act of love and reverence, when it is treated how ... (read in full...)
Did she lose her virginity or not?
Q. okay i have this best friend and she dosen't know if she really lost her virginity or not because she said they were in the bathroom she was sitting on the bathroom counter top and he asked her if she wan't to feel what it would be like when she ...
A. 25 June 2008: Why on earth is she letting someone do this if she is 10-12 years old?
SEX IS FOR MAKING BABIES! That is what it is for!
If you aren't old enough to know whether or not your hymen has broken or what a condom is, how not to spread disease or what ... (read in full...)
My only problem here is that I cannot orgasm during sex, and it's causing a lot of stress and guilt for both of us.
Q. I am a 28 year old woman and have been married for 4 years. My husband and I don't have any children. We are very happy together and don't really have any complaints about our relationship. My only problem is that I cannot orgasm during sex. My...
A. 23 June 2008: You could try sex on top, facing backwards, both sitting up. He can stimulate your breasts and you can have you hands free to stimulate yourself. But, if I were the two of you, I would try to get past the idea that "other" mutual forms of ... (read in full...)
I moved in with my lover and I think I should talk to his wife to tell her my side of the story... should I?
Q. i was having an affair with a married man for about 2 years. we were gonna move in together but then he said that he wanted to work on things with his wife and left me. not even a month later, he begged me to take him back, a few months after that i ...
A. 20 June 2008: I'd give her about five years to cool down first...
So, No, not a good idea. Put yourself in her shoes. She will eventually be civil with you for the sake of their son, but this relationship isn't based on friendship and I think that this woul... (read in full...)
Should I wait untill after his birthday to break up with him?
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend. We have been together over a year. His birthday is in 5 days. Should i wait until after? What is the best thing to say? I would really like to stay friends....
A. 20 June 2008: Ouch! It's nice of you to consider this, you are a very kind and considerate soul. It's not the greatest timing. Anyone who has been dumped at Christmas or right before their final exams knows the bewilderment and excruciating pain that takes ... (read in full...)
Any woman had a hysterectomy due to cervical cancer? Any advice?
Q. Any woman diagnosed with HPV and had a hysterectomy due to Cervical Cancer as a result of HPV ??? I need some answers or advice? Thanx a billion....
A. 19 June 2008: I know that my Mother also had a hysterectomy which removed her cervix and womb back in the '70's. Even though they left her ovaries, she started menopause early, at 40, and needed HRT. She never complained about her sex life, and I know that my ... (read in full...)
What's the main reason men cheat?
Q. Y do MOST men CHEAT? What gives them a reason to have more than 1 women? I no theres alot of reason but whats the MAIN reason? Does SEX plays a BIG role in a relationship?...
A. 19 June 2008: Of Course, that doesn't explain why 10% of all children ARE NOT biologically the husbands...
*men running out to get DNA testing of their dependents*
Which explains why women are drawn to two different types of men, the good man, and the bad boy.... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my potential life time partner because of the baby issue...
Q. Hi. Im in an eleven months relationship with a guy who truly loves me and the marriage issue has always popped up. He recently got a job away from home. Im at university, just completed my diploma and willing to start with my degree. He has met ...
A. 19 June 2008: Don't put your love for him before you love for YOURSELF. You know what your plans have always been! Don't put his plans before your own, especially considering that you aren't even married. He isn't even your legal partner yet!
Your first resp... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is loose and that he does not feel a thing... what can I do? How do I fix it?
Q. I have not cheated why does my vagina feel loose... my boyfriend thinks that I've cheated... before he even mentioned it, I have been noticing a diffrence with our sex life... when we have sex my vagina has no tightness to it.. I try and ...
A. 19 June 2008: Vaginas are naturally elastic. If the vagina can accommodate a baby's head, and then shrink back down to hold a tampon, then it can certainly accommodate your boyfriends penis. I tend to agree with Collaroy, pyan and PeterPan. The one complaining ... (read in full...)
Don't men enjoy going down on their ladies?
Q. I need a little advice about oral sex. I always thought that men loved to give oral sex to their ladies, but recently discovered that my husband of 8 years may not like to give it. We are both 28 years old. I make sure I always shower first and ...
A. 18 June 2008: If it's merely a question of selfishness, then you stick to your guns, hunny. Give him the reciprocal amount of oral that he gives you, no more. You wouldn't be doing any favors to yourself if you let him get his own way, it would be like faking ... (read in full...)
Don't men enjoy going down on their ladies?
Q. I need a little advice about oral sex. I always thought that men loved to give oral sex to their ladies, but recently discovered that my husband of 8 years may not like to give it. We are both 28 years old. I make sure I always shower first and ...
A. 18 June 2008: I only have the manual that came with me, but too be quite frank, I have only had two yeast infections in my entire life, and they smell quite different from a pussy that has had semen in it. The vaginal muscles become a bit slack after childbirth, ... (read in full...)
When trust is breached how do you get that back or should you?
Q. I am in a relationship with a wonderful man but lately we have hit a bump and I can't seem to rebound from it and furthermore, I'm not sure if I should. We were at the stage where we were getting engaged, moving in together, etc... It should...
A. 18 June 2008: You are right to be unsettled by all of this. He was hiding his involvement because he knew that he had breached your trust.
The difficult thing is that because he was the dumpee, his position is a bit more precarious. His heart was invo... (read in full...)
He asked me to offer him oral after anal sex, what do you think?
Q. I let my sexpartner do anything he wants when it comes to SEX. I enjoy anal sex with him and he is my only sex partner out of 5 years. One day he wanted to pull out after anal and put it in my mouth. I told him NO WAY thats nasty. Really which one ...
A. 18 June 2008: Urine IS sterile, fecal matter is NOT. ... (read in full...)
Don't men enjoy going down on their ladies?
Q. I need a little advice about oral sex. I always thought that men loved to give oral sex to their ladies, but recently discovered that my husband of 8 years may not like to give it. We are both 28 years old. I make sure I always shower first and ...
A. 17 June 2008: troubledtoomuch, Your wife was probably reading about using solutions as douches, which is an extremely old-fashioned idea. I wouldn't douche with anything but water which is naturally ph perfect, No old fashioned vinegar or man-made solutions, ... (read in full...)
Don't men enjoy going down on their ladies?
Q. I need a little advice about oral sex. I always thought that men loved to give oral sex to their ladies, but recently discovered that my husband of 8 years may not like to give it. We are both 28 years old. I make sure I always shower first and ...
A. 17 June 2008: Well, showering and douching are a great help, but honestly, he should be doing this to please YOU and it shouldn't be all about HIM. When YOU give him oral sex, you probably don't spend all your time complaining about it. Don't feel guilty for ... (read in full...)
My friend is too much, but she needs me. I don't know what to do.
Q. I have a friend and I find her to be rather stressful. I am a very positive person but she is a very negative person and I find she is draining on me, my energies and my positive vibes. She calls me every day and every time she whines and moans ...
A. 17 June 2008: Women don't like conflict. Most women will dump a friend an never see them again, simply to avoid having a negative, difficult conversation with them. You didn't say what exactly YOU get out of this friendship, other than listening and supporting ... (read in full...)
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