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writes:Iv met this man, he's 35 yrs old and has a nice personality, and he's not bad looking BUT..last night we had sex for the 1st time and i found him to be very skinny, he's smaller then me in height, and i was ok with that but when i was in bed with him it felt like i was making love to a little doll.........am i being too shallow? I like him but not sure if the attraction is strong enough.....any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, it felt like i was with a boy and not a man....i felt too big for him even though im a slim woman, but he was too thin for a man.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 I have always liked shorter men, but I do like them to have big shoulders and muscles too. I still want to feel like I am the one being held, not the one doing the holding. The chemistry has to work between you, and if you aren't happy with how you feel in bed together, I don't think that you are being shallow or insensitive, it just doesn't work for you. It's important to pay attention to your own feelings and not ignore them either. If this isn't going to work out for you, just give him an excuse and break it off. I wouldn't tell him the reason, it would definitely hurt his feelings. Only you can know how strongly you feel about this and whether or not you can get past this, or if the chemistry will ever work at all for you, but if it isn't there at the beginning, it doesn't look good...
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