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writes:I am 16 only just, and i have massive boobs (30G/H). All the girls in my year hate me for it and all the lads only want me for them. Im not very confident as im not a popular girl just normal, im not ugly either though. Im not getting to the stage where i just wana lash out, im sick of girls bin nasty t me the automatic assuption is look at her blonde hair (natural), big boobs (natural) bet she's right easy! Im not a slapper and i think its unfair that this is whats thought of me. I am also only a size 8/10 so they look even bigger on my tiny frame, making them even more noticed. How should i react when people say things?? Im sick of ignoring it i think its really derogatory to have things shouted at me!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Life isn't fair but try to keep things in perspective.
Have you tried being a different race or religion to everyone else in school?
Openly gay? Disabled?
Women can be very nasty to each other, just remember that they are doing it because they are insecure about themselves, lashing out at any who isn't exactly like them.
But try to keep things real, there are far worse things to be noticed for and sometimes we get so fixated on the ones who hurt us we don't notice the countless people who do not.
All guys only hit on you because of your breasts? It might be, I wouldn't know but I have my doubts since some men dislike big breasts in the first place. Is it really all guys or do you not notice the ones who don't hit on you.
And would you spot a guy who likes you for you and not just for your breasts.
Life is hard for those who are different, just remember that school doesn't last for always and eventually most people grow up.
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (27 June 2008):
I am just as big as you same size and I have natural blonde hair. Everyone thought I was a slut when I had never had sex and since I lost my virginity it was to my fiance who I am still with almost 4 years later. All you can say to the girls is, "Your just jealous because I dont have to open my legs to get attention" Not my fault your tits are so small". Comments like that but hold back your fists. If you want to go to college and you have fights on your record they wont accept you so dont mess up your future. As far as guys there will be a guy who likes you for more then you boobs. Just wait. I found one and even though he likes my boobs he like my brains more! Good luck!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 I'm sorry that people are mean to you, but at least you do know for a fact that girls are just being jealous and the guys who are attracted to you for this reason alone are being pigs. Count your blessings, though. EVERYONE is picked on in high school for some reason, and a least your reason isn't an infirmity of some kind. You are going to have to learn how to shrug off these comments and grow a thicker skin, because you're probably going to be bumping into this throughout your life. My sister is very petite, and she was asked if she was looking for a prom dress when she went shopping for her wedding gown. People are still trying to pick her up - in the air - because she's so little and cute. But, she knows that she will probably wind up being a cute little old lady, and at this point, she has developed a witty self confidence that diffuses any stupid comments (and she still getting them at 46...).
Think of a few different witty comebacks, and learn to laugh right out loud if the person is unbelievably rude. You can always throw a rude question back at a person by simply asking "What possible reason could you have for asking that question?" Keep a mental note of what works well for each situation. This will certainly improve your patience and social skills, to say the least. When push comes to shove, you really should try to change how you feel about this and the attention that it brings to you. I think that you have an extremely effective tool for sorting out true friends and nice guys from bitches and jerks. Sometimes, it helps a lot to view a "problem" as an opportunity in disguise. Keep your chin up and don't let the bastards get you down, Hunny. The more that you comport yourself with dignity when people around you act like morons, the better you will feel about yourself and the more respect you will garner from people around you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): I have the same problem, i'm not quite as busty as you, but i get far too much attention for them. However- if you've got them flaunt them is a saying i find fits well.
Well that's what my Nan always tells me.
If you're really unhappy though, why don't you consider breast reduction surgery. If you feel it's the right path for you here's a link to a page telling you all the details. http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/html/breast_reduction.html
Good Luck Chuck...
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