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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I want to keep the relationship but she won't reply to texts or take my calls. literally begged to her to talk, but she didn't respond. should I call this an end to this relationship? it's two days since we last talked. we recently fought over my laid back attitude in life. 1.5 yr year old LDR we live 300 miles apart. she recently left her husband's home with her baby. lives by her mom now. I am single as of now. we meet only once in two months.recently I noted she won't talk to me at all and write only when she was missing me. I think I have low self esteem issues pls help.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 October 2016):
 She is married so your not really in a relationship with her, because she is already taken. You have met once in two months. She may be ignoring you now because she is trying to get her life back together. Allow her to do that.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 October 2016):
 It's been 2 days of silence. Not a huge amount of time. She can have lost her phone, been away from the phone etc. I'd say no need to overreact.
However, the woman is married. She CAN NOT commit to you. Not till after the divorce is final.
So maybe YOU should give her some time to figure out if divorce is what she wants and let her find her OWN two feet.
My guess is that your "laid back" attitude is something she doesn't want in a partner, maybe she sees it more as being lazy? And thus NOT a potential provider for her and her child?
As of right now, I'd give her some space and not hound her.
And while you DO that, maybe you also need to consider that she is in NOT place to be "dating" you or anyone else.
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (19 October 2016):
Interesting situation. Sorry you feel bad about it.
OK, if I read this clearly, you were in an LDR with her while she was still married. No probs. No judgements here.
But that might be why she cut you off. It would make sense that she needs a new start now that she left her husband, and you remind her of her old life. She also might have told people about you, and they advised her it's time for a new beginning.
At the same time we really don't know. Honestly, considering what's happened to her, I would leave her alone fully. Let her contact you, as she would be under a lot of pressure right now.
But I think it's also time to move on. I think it would be best to find a single girl, for the next one. Make sure you ask that question up front.
As far as self esteem issues, that's very very normal for a guy your age. You simply have to do and find things that make you feel confident. Become good at a hobby, read a lot or take a course and become smarter, take up an activity and become good at it. Once you have confidence, it's much much easier to find women. Again, now is a great age for you to do things to help you find confidence. Also, just by getting older you will become more confident, and more women will look at you as mate potential. Many men have been through the same thing you have, so no problems.
Hope this helps
Good luck
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