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writes:I really like this guy I met through social media. we chat now and again, and then he goes quiet then suddenly he'll message me again. We talk mainly about music and I've tried to make new conversation but he goes quiet, then replies. Every new song/album I recommend he says he loves though. I've seen him on Grindr but don't want to talk to him through that, everything I know about him (some detective work done) he is a great guy and I see a future with him. Plus he don't reply to everyone I created fake accounts to see. I need advise on getting his attention getting more info from him, like does he like me? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 October 2016):
 My guess is that he has the same interest in music as you, when you try to talk about something else he does not respond. If he is on grinder then he is looking for a hook up. I think he passes the time talking to you about interests in music but I don't see any more than that. Ask him out and then that way it will put you out off your misery. You say you see yourself with him, but have you actually met him? Making up fake profiles and doing a background check is not healthy.
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reader, N91 +, writes (20 October 2016):
 Not a single person on this website could tell if he likes you. If you want to know that then you'll have to ask him yourself.
Suggest going out for a drink or some hung to eat, if he agrees, great he sound's interested. If it's a no, then he's not interested but either way you have your answer. T
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (20 October 2016):
 Wow! He is someone you have only casually chatted with on line about music, never actually met, but you can "see a future with him"?
Steady, tiger!
You share a taste in music. That is all you can be fairly sure about. (Even then you can't be certain because he could be telling you he loves the music you recommend just so he doesn't upset you.)
You need to get out and meet people face to face instead of doing "detective work" - stalking - people you have chatted to on line. This is not healthy behaviour.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 October 2016):
 If you just talk now and then, there is no way of knowing if he LIKES you, LIKES you... or just likes the attention from you.
Have you ever met up? Gone out together for a meal/drinks?
If not, is he single? And would you ask him out?
If you have met up already, why not keep doing so?
People talk to people online, over text etc. but that really isn't a good indication for whether they are REALLY interested or not.
My guess is... if NEITHER of you have shown direct interest by asking the other out... maybe the interest is kind of superficial?
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