I've agreed to be friends, but he is pulling away from me.

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

So, there is this guy i used to deal with but now we are supposed to be friends. He has been begging me for friendship for the longest once we established that our relationship couldn't go any further due to our military rankings. Initially,, i was still in love with him so i i couldn't be his friend. He kept pursuing me which made it harder for me to separate until I was sent on a temporary assignment which gave me time away from him. During that time it gave me a new perspective. Now i feel as though i can be his friend because i am now dating again. Now when i try to be friends with him, i am met with some type of resistance where he has become more and more distant. He doesnt call as much and if i am talking to him, whenever I mention a mans name just casually, he snaps by telling me not to mention a man's name while i am on the phone with him. There was another instance where i called him to see how he was doing and he told me he would call me back but never did. I asked him why he didn't call back and his response was i saw your twitter post about you being up late on the phone with someone, why does it matter?" I could have been talking to anyone in regards to that twitter post and regardless, that had nothing to do with him or the current situation. in another regular cordial convo, it was along the same thing, he would respond with "aren't you dating someone? it just always seems to be thrown in my face. All of this is confusing because we are supposed to be friends and a friendship is what he wanted. i don't understand why its so hard to talk to him now and why he seems to be pulling away from me. I have talked to him about how i feel about him ignoring me and blowing me off but he insists that he is not. Please help, what is happening? this is what he wanted.

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