She showed me her nude pictures. Does this mean she likes me?
Q. A little about us, we are both 21, study at the same university and are very close to each other. We study together, eat together, hang out it the same group most of the time. Last week we were doing an assignment at her place. Actually there w...
A. 5 October 2016: I think you will be okay and it won't effect your friendship. At the moment you are feeling awkward because you have saw her naked and your mind is going in to over drive. Just be polite to her, try each day to make conversation with her, and before ... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? Once the pastor was friendly to me. Now he does not respond.
Q. Ok this is a strange one so please bare with me. I have started going to a new Church and it has been great. I got on with the pastor from day one and he came out to visit me a few times. Chatted over FB ect. Then I went on a date last night and p...
A. 3 October 2016: Just saw your update, glad it got sorted.... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? Once the pastor was friendly to me. Now he does not respond.
Q. Ok this is a strange one so please bare with me. I have started going to a new Church and it has been great. I got on with the pastor from day one and he came out to visit me a few times. Chatted over FB ect. Then I went on a date last night and p...
A. 3 October 2016: He may have been busy and that is why he did not reply? I think you are worrying over nothing, just give it some time. ... (read in full...)
How long does it take somebody to get over nonstop lying, cheating & betrayal??
Q. Hi All!! Im praying that somebody out there will have some answers to my massive confusion in my relationship. 4 months after starting a relationship with the guy im still with currently. He proposed to me. I accepted due to being massively head ...
A. 3 October 2016: Glad you say sense. Yes you do deserve better and so does your children. He hit on your underage daughter and you stayed with him? That is the worst betrayal, she is to young to go deal with this stuff, this is where you should be protecting her. ... (read in full...)
I scared him off but I want him back...but how??
Q. There was this guy. I knew him from high school and we were always friends with a very strong connection. He liked me but I always had a boyfriend and frankly I thought he was weird. We talked briefly in December and stopped because I was going ...
A. 3 October 2016: Sweetie you don't want to be friends, you want more than that and he is not prepared to give you that. My guess is that you got quite clingy and this has scared him off. So maybe you can use this and learn that being clingy will only scare a guy ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with him moving to the other side of the world?
Q. the love of my life is moving back home to the other side of the world to me and I don't know how to cope with this change and the build up to him leaving. Our relationship has a terminating date. What should I do to cope with this situation? ...
A. 3 October 2016: It will be hard, you will be sad and lonely and possibly angry and annoyed at him for leaving, but it will get easier in time. You just need to accept that you both cannot be together for whatever the reasons are and focus on your future. ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to develop feelings for me?
Q. I proposed a boy... at first he accepted, but then he wanted time from me... He told that he hasn't that kind of feelings for me, even he said, from the beginning he thought me as as a sister... so he needed time to grow his feelings... but...
A. 30 September 2016: I hope you are strong enough now to stay away from him. If anytime you are in doubt come here and look at the answers hopefully that will keep you on track. ... (read in full...)
How can we slow things down? And why does he keep slipping out?
Q. Ok, so, After messaging and chatting to my guy, we both agreed to meet . I really like him, he likes me too. We get on so well, laughing, relaxing and enjoying each other's company. We arranged a few more dates, there is definately a spa...
A. 30 September 2016: Sweetie I don't think it is because you are a little on the big side down below, as you said yourself he is not fully erect. It might be a mix of the both, it could be slippy because you are very excited, but that is nothing to be ashamed off. It ... (read in full...)
Do you think I my married lover is tiring of me? In the beginning we talked. Now he only sends a text
Q. I've been friends with this married man for 8 months now, who doesn't have sex with his wife I guess. He is 38 and I am 22. He was my first lover. He took me to his house 3 times and we never had actual sex because I said I want to remain a virgin. ...
A. 30 September 2016: Well am glad you did not allow him to take your virginity. That was one smart move. Although you still got intimate with a married man, do you not feel any guilt at all? Do you want to be that woman that messes with a marriage? A family?
My gues... (read in full...)
Do I have to worry that I'm always the first to message "I love you"? He says it first in person!
Q. My boyfriend and I are very close, and we may be in love. We've shared a few new experiences together, and he spoils me in every way possible and for that I'm so lucky to have him. Over messaging eachother, most of the time I have been the one to ...
A. 30 September 2016: A love's young dream! It is nice that you are happy and you are sharing experiences. He may not be able to express himself to well over messages, and it is only words, if he treats you well that is the main thing. Anybody can say words, but it is ... (read in full...)
My dad seems suspicious of me and I'm afraid he'll have my aunt restrict me!
Q. Hi everyone I really need some advise.. I recently moved to a different country to study and even though I'm living my aunt, my dad keeps on calling me everyday and honestly, it's a very intensive course and sometimes I don't pick due to the fact ...
A. 30 September 2016: Your dad calls you because you are his little girl, you have moved to a different country and you are not even yet a legal adult off course he is going to worry and care. It is great you are being independent but you need to show maturity as well, ... (read in full...)
He caught me in a small white lie about my smoking cannabis!
Q. Ok so I told a small white lie to my boyfriend that I hadn't smoked cannabis in a while but he found out I had infact the day before but it was only a tiny bit and I didn't enjoy it anyway. When he got with me he knew I smoked and had given up...
A. 30 September 2016: I don't think it is about the fact that you smoked, it was the fact that you lied. At the end of the day you should have just told him you smoked! He would have been annoyed but would be over it by now. I was in the same situation as you. The thing ... (read in full...)
How do I help my partner become a better parent to his 8-year-old? Right now he spoils her and shares too much information about our relationship
Q. How do I help my really good man become an amazing man and father? We've been together 4 years and couldn't be closer.( or could we?) We do everything together and plan on getting married soon. There's a small nuisance and it has to do with hi...
A. 30 September 2016: I guess because he feels guilty about leaving her he is over compensating now, totally normal. It is good that he is showing her a good time, having fun activities planned. It is also important not to spoil her and discipline her as well when needs ... (read in full...)
Had a bad last day at work and my boyfriend just made jokes about it instead of listening. Would a good partner react this way?
Q. Hi members. I think my boyfriend is selfish and not understanding in this situation I will write about. What do you guys think? Would a good boyfriend react this way?? It was the last day of my job today and after telling him I had a bad day at...
A. 30 September 2016: Getting mad at him just makes the situation worse. Instead next time say please can you just listen as I really need to get this off my chest. He was just trying to cheer you up the best that he could, I think it is harsh calling him selfish. ... (read in full...)
How can we slow things down? And why does he keep slipping out?
Q. Ok, so, After messaging and chatting to my guy, we both agreed to meet . I really like him, he likes me too. We get on so well, laughing, relaxing and enjoying each other's company. We arranged a few more dates, there is definately a spa...
A. 30 September 2016: It is a tough topic between you both when it is all so new, he probably feels he cannot perform which will only result in more anxiety. It is great you are willing to slow things down, but you both need to talk about it as aswell, reassure him that ... (read in full...)
Was this barman interested in me?
Q. I went to an afternoon bar to catch up with a friend. I helped myself to some water as the queues were too long at the bar. Then this waiter came over quickly and filled a bottle of water and came over to my table and said "I have got you some water ...
A. 30 September 2016: It really is impossible to tell. As a waiter he needs to be friendly, so that is what he could have been doing, it is his job. ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for allowing my husband to sleep with other men and women?
Q. My husband and I have been together off and on for 25 years and been married 13. He has cheated on me a lot in the past and I've forgiven him, he promised it would never happen again unless he talked to me about it. He works in another state, h...
A. 29 September 2016: I am not judging you or calling you a unfit mother, I am simply saying that he can use you drinking and smoking daily in court to gain access to your children. Maybe you could use some help getting off the booze? Why not join a support group it can ... (read in full...)
I feel bad for my pregnant sister as her mother in law is so mean to her. Sometimes I wish she would get divorced. What can I do to support my sister?
Q. Hello everyone.. I have a problem that is about my sister.. It really affects me and i feel so bad for her ! My sister has a mother in law or should i say a devil in law... She has done nothing but try to ruin my sisters marriage.. Cause...
A. 29 September 2016: It is up to your sister how she handles her mother in law. I totally understand why you are worried, but your sister probably loves her husband therefore she probably does not want to get divorced. She is pregnant so be a good sister, listen to her ... (read in full...)
Do I back off and hope he'll approach me? Or do I make a move and tell him how I feel? Eight year age difference.
Q. I have posted about this before so some of you may be familiar with my story. Just need a bit more advice. I met a guy, he is a PT at my gym. Cutting a long story short. There seems to be an attraction due to the way he looked at me. I did not li...
A. 29 September 2016: I have read your other posts, and I hate to say this but I think this guy is just being friendly with you. Off course I could be wrong, but he should have jumped at the chance to go for coffee and set a time and date, but he seems very reserved. You ... (read in full...)
10 years later my ex writes me to say she's sorry. Do I ignore?
Q. A random question here .. about 10 years ago with my first gf ,, we was going out for a couple of months and then she ended it and spread loads of bad things about me .. which tbf didn't help me and probably hasn't helped me to this day .One thing ...
A. 29 September 2016: It seems you where both very young when you where in a relationship. At that age people make mistakes all the time. It hurt you a lot more than she probably ever imagined. I think she finally sees how horrible she was. Nobody can tell you what to do ... (read in full...)
Am I right in that my friend has picked yet another controlling unpleasant boyfriend?
Q. Try and keep this brief. Best friend has form for allowing guys to treat her like a doormat. She's been single ten years and approaching 40 and she's suddenly thrown away all her previous dealbreakers - must have plenty of time for her, not hav...
A. 29 September 2016: Eight weeks is not a long time in the dating world. But yes it does sound that he is becoming less interested in your friend. Classically blaming her. I think your friend should stop trying to contact him and then she will see just how interested he ... (read in full...)
Why he'd come back after 3 years after things ended so horribly?
Q. Long story short, I was briefly acquainted with a man 3 years ago and it went downhill very fast. We were supposed to be strictly friends and things started getting weird and complicated with attraction and feelings and miscommunication. We were ...
A. 29 September 2016: This is dangerous territory. As Honeypie says he could want anything, but your feelings are more important here. Can you handle dragging the past up again? Sometimes it is better left untouched so you don't experience that pain and hurt again. ... (read in full...)
I think I broke my hymen. Am I still a virgin?
Q. so this is pretty embarrassing??? but i was masturbating with a hairbrush handle and it was rather large and i like popped my cherry??? i didn't bleed or anything but i felt the pinch-y stretching feeling and now i'm like looser??? like is this ...
A. 29 September 2016: You are a virgin until you actually have sex with someone. Plenty of people break there hymen, through horse riding, sports ect. But they are still a virgin.
Please don't use a hair brush any more. You could end up with an infection. It is very... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but am concerned that love isn't enough
Q. I have been in a relationship for just over a year with my boyfriend - I'm 25 and he is 23. He is an amazing boyfriend, he is my rock and my best friend. He got me through a tough time and is totally supportive of me, we rarely ever argue. My family ...
A. 29 September 2016: Sweetie he may tell you that he wants to do these things with you, but that is just words, he is not doing anything about it, he is not making long term plans to be with you. It sounds like he is still being mothered at home, he needs to experience ... (read in full...)
I have a great relationship and love him but want to be single
Q. Hey! First of all thanks in advance for any questions! I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and 7 months. No breaks or anything in between. We generally have the most amazing relationship. We have everything in common, I find him...
A. 29 September 2016: I think you have made the right choice, let us know how you get on.... (read in full...)
She showed me her nude pictures. Does this mean she likes me?
Q. A little about us, we are both 21, study at the same university and are very close to each other. We study together, eat together, hang out it the same group most of the time. Last week we were doing an assignment at her place. Actually there w...
A. 28 September 2016: Am sorry but I don't think she is interested in you. Her and her friend where having a giggle over her photos, she showed you probably for an ego boost but nothing more. ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my anxiety around women?
Q. I suffer from anxiety near women. I try to avoid women as best I can in social settings. Not in a malicious way but nervously. I had some bad experiences growing up and it's made me wary around women. Growing up girls were particularly mea...
A. 28 September 2016: I honestly recommend that you go to CBT. It will help you with your behavior. This is quite extreme so I really do think a professional will help more than we can. It is a lot more than confidence issues here, you have extreme anxiety that needs to ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to develop feelings for me?
Q. I proposed a boy... at first he accepted, but then he wanted time from me... He told that he hasn't that kind of feelings for me, even he said, from the beginning he thought me as as a sister... so he needed time to grow his feelings... but...
A. 28 September 2016: Sweetie this guy is using you, he does not see you as potential wife material, but he does not mind having some no strings fun with you, and maybe hooking up. Please stop with the adult talk and pictures. Those pictures could end up on the internet ... (read in full...)
Is this legitimate suspicion or paranoia?
Q. As I venture more and more into the gay world (possibly the same in the straight world), I recognise that I have this unique skill in winning over guys and making friends easily. This gives me a great power, in that im not afraid to put myself out ...
A. 28 September 2016: Really I think maybe they just want to be friends with you, does every male you see have to be a potential boyfriend or can you not just see them as a platonic friend? Does every male you meet have to be out to rob your friends or maybe they are ... (read in full...)
My FWB has friend zoned me and its devastating!
Q. Hi, so of a few months ago I wrote this post but I would now like to get some more feedback as this situation is really driving me insane. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/mixed-signals-from-my-crush.html Basically, him and I continue ...
A. 28 September 2016: Sweetie I am sorry that you have been hurt, but this guy has messed with your head from day one, he is not your ex because he was never your boyfriend. I think to him he flirted he had sex with you but he never offered a relationship, as much as ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has always been rather shady. Is this a red flag?
Q. I would like some advice on whether the following scenario would raise a red flag: Today I was driving home from work, on the phone with my boyfriend. Suddenly he said he had to take a call, so I was like OK, call me back. When I got home 40mins l...
A. 28 September 2016: Sounds a bit suspicious to me am afraid. ... (read in full...)
Should I act now? I don't want things to go too far, but I like my tutor and I think he likes me. What should I do...?
Q. I'm a 24 year old girl who just started college 6 months ago. For the last 3 months I've been getting help from a tutor in a class that I had trouble keeping up in. The tutors at my college are students that have shown excellence in their past mon...
A. 28 September 2016: Don't act on it, he is getting paid by the college to tutor you, therefore he should be respectful and not try and date students he is helping, more than likely if the college found out they would probably stop getting him to tutor. It is a crush ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend touching my breast didn't do anything for me
Q. Hello, I'm 15, and I'm still a virgin. My boyfriend of about 4 months and I have shared quite a few new experiences with eachother, and as of yesterday he had touched my breasts. My bra was on, and I have to say I didn't really feel the sensation. ...
A. 28 September 2016: When I was with my first boyfriend I felt every touch, that was because I waited until I was older and ready. At 15 I would not have felt anything because I simply was not ready to be sexual. So the question is do you feel you are ready? If you are ... (read in full...)
Its been 18 months since my husband passed away, is it too soon to start dating?
Q. I started dating my husband when I was 16, we dated for 8 years and were married for 10 and had three children together. In April 2015 he was killed in a car accident then he hit a moose. It turned my life upside down. He was the only guy I ever ...
A. 28 September 2016: You are doing right by your children and that is the main thing. I understand why you would worry about what others think, but sweetie you need to live your life, and you are right your husband would want you to be happy. Do what you feel is right. ... (read in full...)
Was she hinting that she wants me?
Q. My female friend sugguested that I masturbated then openly admitted she does it. Was she hinting that she wants me or am I misreading the situation? Basically I was saying I was having trouble sleeping and she was like why don't you go masturbat...
A. 28 September 2016: I doubt that is what she was hinting at, my guess is it helps her sleep so she was open enough to say to you to try it. ... (read in full...)
Its hard since a co-worker every day when I still have feelings for him
Q. I have liked someone at work for quite a while, and have always had a good relationship, quite flirty and friendly, but i never really knew if they liked me back. They've recently admitted their feelings (while drunk) and then changed their mind, ...
A. 28 September 2016: Be honest with him, tell him that he hurt you and that you would like some distance from him. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just broke up with me and I am devastated
Q. My boyfriend of less than a year just broke up with me. I am 31. I feel so alone and devastated. He was everything you could want in a guy except he suffered from depression. He couldn't seem to get himself in the mainframe to love someone else. He ...
A. 28 September 2016: He is unable to have a relationship for more than a year because he has a mental block not to allow himself to get to attached, depression really is a horrible thing.
It has only been a week, nobody should expect you to be over a relationship, if t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is moving into a house with a guy she once cheated with. I'm not happy about this!
Q. Hi, My girlfriend recently moved out into a student house. I've been with her for a few months but shes moving into a house with the boy who she cheated on her boyfriend with previously. He has no respect for boyfriends and always tries to hit on ...
A. 28 September 2016: Ask yourself do you trust her? It does not matter that you don't trust him, what matters is do you trust her living with him knowing she was involved with him before. If the answer is no then you tell her, if she still wants to live with him you say ... (read in full...)
A text from another woman has made me wonder if I can trust my boyfriend
Q. I've been with my b/f for 3 years and just found a text from a woman saying she misses him too. I questioned him and he said its nothing just someone he's helping find a job. He says she's nothing and not to worry about it.I said why would you tell ...
A. 28 September 2016: He is playing you, he said it wasn't going anywhere with her, so are you okay with the fact that your boyfriend leads other women on? She is probably not the first either. I would rather be single than be with someone I know is capable of doing ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a new guy but emotionally still tied to my ex
Q. I was dating a guy off and on for about 2 years. I know a part of me will love him forever, or at least I think so. Our relationship was not the most healthy. Lots of fighting,drama, and he had some narcissistic tendencies.It was like a roller ...
A. 28 September 2016: Three months is not a long time, you need time to get over someone and you are not allowing yourself that time. You are still in contact with him and dating someone else to try and get over him, but all that is going to do is hurt this guy that you ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend keep making jokes about kids?
Q. So been dating my boyfriend for 5 1/2 months and lately he been making jokes about me having his kids or when we do it he ain't pull out! What does he mean by this? Why he keep making jokes about babies? Do he wnt kids secretly? Where is this coming ...
A. 28 September 2016: Do you want to have a child? Please use condoms and go on birth control, you barely even know this guy, if you end up falling pregnant now he can walk away but you will be left a single mother. Please be responsible, the pull out method does not ... (read in full...)
My bullying ex has made me feel so worthless. How do I cope as a single mum?
Q. Ive never felt so low in my life. At the weekend, after another row, I finally decided to end things for good with my ex. We have a 6 month old baby together and I also have a 6 year old son from a previous relationship. Our rows have escalated s...
A. 28 September 2016: Would you want this man to have access to your child? I mean he was abusive to your other child so who knows what he is capable.
Look this man is abusive, he has tore you down, you have done the right thing ending things, now go to court and get ... (read in full...)
I can't stop wondering about her
Q. Everything my logical brain thinks of says DO NOT CONTACT HER, yet I still want to know how she's doing. I want to know if she is doing well. Obviously this is about my ex'. Im curious and hoping she's doing well. I can list a number a of reas...
A. 28 September 2016: Okay lets talk about your ex, why did the relationship end? What do you hope off getting out of contacting her? A sorry? A reunion? Think about it, what do you need from her?
Also think about your current relationship, is it worth putting it at risk... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for allowing my husband to sleep with other men and women?
Q. My husband and I have been together off and on for 25 years and been married 13. He has cheated on me a lot in the past and I've forgiven him, he promised it would never happen again unless he talked to me about it. He works in another state, h...
A. 27 September 2016: Drinking and smoking every night really is not fair on your children, one off you need to put them first. You have agreed to this but it is not what you want. If you are lonely get help. First you need to give up smoking and drinking. Do it for your ... (read in full...)
I have a great relationship and love him but want to be single
Q. Hey! First of all thanks in advance for any questions! I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and 7 months. No breaks or anything in between. We generally have the most amazing relationship. We have everything in common, I find him...
A. 26 September 2016: It sounds like you are ready to let go. Ending a relationship is never easy, but if you are already thinking about you and him getting with other people then you are already at a stage where you want out. I know it is hard because you love him, but ... (read in full...)
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