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writes:Dear Cupid,I slept over at my boyfriend’s house last night and decided to spend the day with him but he had business call and had to leave for an hour. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years and lately there have been some problems with me trusting him.Anyway when he is about to leave and he tells me that he is going to lock his bedroom door because he does not want me snooping. At first I thought it was a joke but he physically threw me out of his room. That made me angry and in my mind confirmed he is cheating. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (17 March 2007):
 Nah he has something to hide and he doesn't want YOU to find it! I went with a guy a long time ago and stayed the weekend with him when he had to go into work for a few hours. I had an idea he might be seeing someone else too so I DID snoop in his bedroom and found a framed picture of a woman in the sheet drawers below his bed. After some more detective work I found women's clothes at the back of his wardrobe which didn't belong to me and poems to a woman with her description. To top it all off beside her picture was a whip, a pair of black leather gloves and other toys... none of which I'd ever seen before. Needless to say I ended the relationship!
Go with your gut feeling as 9 times out of 10 it will be right. The fact he wants to lock his bedroom door would only make that feeling stronger!
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Well first off that doesn't seem like he's worried about you finding evidence of cheating. However it does sound like he may have a stash of porn or something of the sort he doesn't want you to find. If his computer is in his room he may want to keep you from stumbling into something he's downloaded, or maybe some magazines he has idden away somewhere. I would worry less about cheating and more about pronography in this situation. I don't know what your thought of porn is but it is my belief that because it is only his room he's excluding you from that's what it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Hmmmn that sounds strange. Has he caught you snooping about before? I cant imagine what he has, if anything, to hide in his room. It could be, a diary, pornography, a dead body or more innocently a surprise gift for you!
Without knowing a bit more about it, I cant really understand what the situation is.
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