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*ichard-uche
writes:Dear reader, please I urgently need your help.There is this girl I've been dating for 18 months , but recently she told me q dirty secret of her to me.(she said she slept with a male politician in close to our college). I didn'r react violently, but asked her to tell me why she did so. she gave several reasons for it. Am confused she said she loves me, but my love for her has reduced to 30%. please should I forgive? I need your advice. richard
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (17 March 2007):
 You haven`t said whether this happened while you were together with your girlfriend, or before you met her; but from the distress of your letter, I`m presuming that you two were at the time an item? You say she gave several reasons for it, we would like to help if we can, could you give more details, if it`s not too painfull for you. Kind Regards, Heather.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (17 March 2007):
 The bad news is she slept with someone else, the good news is she was honest enough to tell you about it. If this was a one off and she can promise you that she is genuinely sorry for what happened then you should maybe give her another chance if you feel the relationship is worth it. You'll have to rebuild that trust in her again which might not be easy.
Ask her why she did it? What was wrong with the relationship that she felt she wanted to stray? Talk about your relationship and try to get to the bottom of WHY she did what she did. Was she drunk? Had you both had an argument? Tell her to show you by her ACTIONS that she loves you and will never do it again. Hopefully in time, things will be back to normal and this will only be a very distant memory.
Eve
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