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writes:I met a man back in the fall online. We dated for a couple of month's. He broke up right before Christmas saying he needed space. I know it sounds strange, but we were very much in love. We were getting ready to meet each other's families and had made plans for the future. Things were moving really fast, and also got physical really fast. I've never done anything like this before. We are both divorced with kids. I was very needy at the time, going through a lot. I kept calling but he wouldn't answer or call me back. I had to let it go and move on. Last week I called. Hadn't spoken since before Christmas. I still love him, although I wouldn't admit it. We talked for an hour and 1/2. He brought up the relationship and said things were just moving too fast. People need to be friends first. I truly agree. We talked about each other's kids. He said he was glad to hear from me. He thought about me the other day, but he got a new cell phone and lost all of his programmed nos. We talked like we were old friends. He was actually in town, but I didn't want to seem pushy or obvious. How do I know if he's interested in getting back together? He hasn't called back and it's been 10 days. Should I call him again?
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reader, tninlove +, writes (17 March 2007):
tninlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Eve. I will keep your advice in mind.
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reader, Donna1234  +, writes (17 March 2007):
I recently have been through something similar, but me and the guy in question was not dating but we did discuss it and i even considered it until he text me and said he never wanted to talk to me again. No, do not call back it will seem as though you are desperate for him to talk to you again and i know this may be hard but maybe you should consider leaving your ex in the past and moving on
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reader, AskEve +, writes (17 March 2007):
 I would send him a text "Fancy meeting me for a coffee as friends? Really enjoyed our recent chat and would love to keep in touch." Leave it at that and see if he answers. If you don't hear from him (he'll have your number now so there's no excuse there) then accept the fact he wants to move on alone. Any more contact from you will only come across to him as a nuisance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): I hate to say this Sweetoe but if this man was truly interested in pursuing a relationship with you he would have called you by now. I know it must be tempting to call him, but I really think you should let him call you, and if he doesn't call he isn't worth your while.
If he could break up with you at Christmas then he could do it again. It must have been horrible for you at the time, do you really want to risk that again? You can do much better and you deserve much better in my opinion! xxx
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