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writes:I had a funny feeling at lunch time earlier in the week and went home at lunch to see what was going on there. My boyfriend is not working as he quit his job and he is "off the chain" as they say....I found him and two other people, a friend of his and his friends girl, getting high and everyone was in various stages of nakedness...I immediately threw the other two out and told my boyfriend to pack his things. He's not on the apartment lease. He was too stuck to move and then, there came a knock on the door.It was his father...THIS WAS A PRICELESS MOMENT...I let dad in to see his son buck naked with stem in his hand....Dad took one look and flew out the door. I had to return to work so I left.This is the same boyfriend that gave my clothes to a hooker.....hmmmmmI don't think his parents want him at their place, I don't think I can take his leeching and drug use anymore. I love him, but love is not paying the bills or solving the problem.What would someone else do in my position?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all soooo much!
I know I've been way too easy; unfortunately, I inherited the "give enough chances to let them bury themselves" gene...when I finish things, I never look back, however. Just my nature. We've known each other eight years & been togther most of them.
Drugs are the heartbreaker here, unfortunately. I'm moving on and out very soon & he'll have to figure it out from there.
Again, thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Guess he isn't all that young...see what happens when you read too many posts...they begin to blend.
He's how old and still living like a retarded youth?
He's a loser.
Focus on counselling for yourself and learn why you would think this type of man is worth your love, effort, and energy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): If you came from a healthy home and were raised by two loving and nuturing parents...you would know that staying with a drug abuser and a stone's throw away from a street bum is not a good life choice that will bring you happiness.
Your love will not turn him into a prince and he isn't that good looking-no one is - to risk your mental health and physcial well being.
Drugs effect ones brain capacity and who knows what circumstances he put himself into and what life altering STD's he may be exposing himself to and you.
This young man has no love or respect for himself and therfore he sure in heck doesn't have the capacity or ability to love and respect you.
KICK HIM OUT ALREADY and join your nearest Al-Non group for support and understanding as to why you would pick such a man to 'love' and change for that happily ever after.
Get strong Chica, Start loving yourself-Make YOU your first priority, get 'selfish' for once in your life.
Tell yourself, I MATTER, I AM NUMBER ONE, I DESERVE BETTER.
Please get some counselling ASAP as you need to be taught how to love yourself.
Best Wishes.
*hugs*
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): I agree with Eve. Not only do you deserve better but I would be worried about the fact that he has shady people in your place with all of your belongings. And if he's high, you know he's not paying attention to what others might be doing. What if someone called the cops? Since the lease is in your name, YOU would be held accountable whether you were home or not! And, I would ditch him because if he's that careless, I'm assuming he hooked up with the hooker, I would be worried about catching a disease. I have been with my share of jerks and have realized that I am better off being by myself than being treated like crap. End it now. You will have more respect for yourself for doing so.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (16 March 2007):
 You ask what would I do in your position? I would NEVER be in your position! I would have gotten rid of him long before now. The guy is a total waster and is using you and your home. He has no respect for you or anything you own. Why are you still with him? Are you afraid to be on your own? Is he "better than nothing?" Come on, take stock of yourself, you sound like a sensible woman, tell him it's over and MEAN IT! You need to close the door on this part of your life and only then will another door open for you!
Get rid of him and you'll see how your life changes and opens up for the better. You'll feel better in yourself too, you won't have the worry about what you're going home to or what state he's going to be in. You know I'm right, don't you...?
Eve
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (16 March 2007):
 Get rid of him. He is taking advantage of you financially and emotionally. You deserve better.
Find someone who better appreciates you. He is not worth your time and he is taking you for a fool.
Be strong, stand your ground and move on with your life with a fresh start.
Take care
Angel of Love
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Kick him out, he's proving totally irresponsible,selfish and is not meeting your needs in any shape or form. He is abusing your trust, your life and home. You work hard while he lays around taking drugs and having naked threesomes! How could you possibly love that?
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