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writes:I've liked her for 2 years, we went out a few times...and we've always been close, but she said we wont ever go out again,cuz id have to change and she said im perfect as a best friend.an weve been best friends for those 2 years now, but i still like her, i don't want to like her if nothings ever gunna happen, well i would want to if we had a chance.but i dunno wat to do i need to get over her i guess,i dunno how. and its so hard because were best friends.but i jus dunno, any help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2007): when a girl says to you i just want to be friends, you feel your heart has been pulled out of you and shredded!!
i recommend you stay has friends, but NOTE this, she will never have a relationship with you! I repeat she will not have a relationship with you.
Tip for you:-
go out to a dance class like ceroc, (easier than salsa!). do not ask any of the women out for 7 months. Note, you will than find that those women will want you. Ask one of them out, you must tell the lady she looks really sexy, had you hope she will become your girlfriend on the first date or find an moment to give a surprise kiss. Note you must tell her, you can not have women has friends in your life, your not looking for this.
Remember- look smart, clean hair, nails, and smart shoes. P.S if your over 24 years old, you must have your own place… none negotiable!
If your overweight, tall, short. It does not matter, you must be positive always.
One more thing, you most expose yourself to lots of women, do not seek to ask out for a date, you will then learn how they think.
Best of luck,
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reader, agony aunt j  +, writes (17 March 2007):
 You never know what could happen. she likes you as just a friend for now, so understand what she feels. I understand that it would be awkward for her if you started a relationship, but she shouldn't want you to change. if you're perfect as a friend, then you'll just have to live with it. you cant make someone love you, but i know how hard it must be to accept that - believe me. but who knows? Give her some time, 2 years is a while but still, things could change. its not easy to ignore your feelings, but maybe go out with some other friends and you could meet someone else. Dont USE anyone to get over her, but if you do find someone you like dont be afraid to go for it. if she doesn't want to take things any further you have to try and move on. no one can tell you how, only you can do it.I hope things turn out for all the best, I really do. I'm sorry she doesn't feel the same way.good luck! :):)
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reader, AskEve +, writes (16 March 2007):
 Don't change for ANYONE! She can't like you that much if she wants you to change. Distance yourself from her and do your own thing. Maybe she'll miss you more than she thinks. She went out with you before and prefers friendship rather than a relationship so respect that for now, who knows what might happen a couple of years down the line.
Eve
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