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writes: Me and my boyfriend fight all the time we can't agree on any thing. But I love him so much. When I am around him I feel something I have never felt before and when he looks in to my eyes i know he is true but I am scared I will never be never be number one in his life and I want to be number one in some one in someone life I want that more than anything I have never been put first ever i have always been second everyones life and i just want to love me so much that they put me above all i dont think i can let go what should i do i am so lost... Reply to this Question
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (18 March 2007):
Well, it looks like i have found a match. I know 100% how you feel. I have ALWAYS felt secound best in everything. Im the least favourite child in the family. Ive usually always fell secound to another girl when ive been with a guy. Any job ive ever had, i just wasnt quite good enough. At school, there was just something about me people didnt like. But, finally, although im still a practicly kid...i have met someone that, in my mind...puts me up there on the top of the list. Or well, i beleive him when i say i am. I think we all find someone at one point, or eventually, that we feel comfortable. And how do you know that your not number one in your boyfriends heart. Even if some things came before you, you should be glad your his number one girl (or you should be). You need to become comfortable in your own skin, accept yourself and realise that your completely worth it. You need to know that you can still be loved without being completely number one, if someone put your 100% first, it might even annoy you. They would be like obsessed or something if was like that. You just need to know that, you are great, wonderful and worth it. You will find someone and there love will satisfy you enough that you wont crave to be number one. Because them loveing you will be enough. You boyfriend may or may not be this person. You need to love yourself first xxx
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (17 March 2007):
 You do indeed sound lost; but you can find yourself! You think that you have only ever been second best, well that`s just not true. I think from your message, you may be quite young; and we have ALL had doubts. Please look in the mirror, and see YOU, not just your reflection. You will see a young lady with lots to give, personality, sense of humour, and above all; a unique human being! That certainly does not make you second best! We all want someone to love us above all other, but first we must love ourselves. When we can learn self confidence & love & pride in ourselves; then we get that returned to us. Best Wishes and Love, Heather.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (17 March 2007):
 The best thing you can do here is be yourself! Don't nag your boyfriend over silly little things but show him how much you care about him. Have fun together and laugh instead of arguing. Don't come across as too needy or moan at him all the time as guys hate that. Instead be confident and assertive. Suggest going places together and don't let little things bother you. That way you'll be a ray of sunshine for him to be around and your loving, bright personality will reflect back on him and his actions towards you! He'll WANT to be around you more.
Eve
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