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writes:I have lived with my fiance for 10 years, we have child together. I recently caught him cheating- his girlfriend is pregnant. He stays at her house with her family and her daughter he took our son with him, but he comes home every day to get cleaned up. He wants me to move- i have paid all the bills for the last 10 years. He doesn't talk about it- I want him back- Help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): I am in a similar situation,my partner of 11 irs moved out and ive recently found out he moved in with this girl from his wrk that he had been seeing for 6 mnths before he left, ive recently found out she is prgnant with his child, cant trust him no more, dont love him like i used to, i look at him and think how could he do this to us, we have 2 kids together, he still with usw and says that he dosnt want anything to do with her or the baby but will support it financially.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): You say you want him back, why may I ask? Can you REALLY look him in the eyes without thinking all what he has done (and not done!) Knowing he has been unfaithful and lied to you is just totally unacceptable in my books. Many married couples have tried to work things out or go seek council for help, but the majority divorce because they will always bring it back in there face somehow and they eventually start fighting and it gets worse then it was before. You are paying the bills while he sleeps around and finds someone else....and you love him? And please...don't bring the child in to this! Love your child and always be there for him....you will meet someone else. Please don't be a needy - desparate woman...if your already paying the bills, you can make it on your own AND meet a new love who will adore you! His loss not your's!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Kick him out straight away!! He's only using you - you've been paying the bills for the last 10 years and he has the cheek to ask you to move?!?! First things first - change all the locks, telephone numbers. This will show him you mean business and will not tolerate any more of this crap that he's been carrying on with for the last while!!! Don't be a doormat for this jerk! He's taking advantage of your good nature and loving every minute of it! He wants to have his cake and eat it too!!!
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (16 March 2007):
 You are too good for him and he's using you as a doormat and has even resorted to cheating on you! Get a grip of yourself and throw him out. Don't let him come round to "clean up". He's still using you even now when he's living with this other woman! Have some respect for yourself and kick him to the kerb once and for all. I think you just fear being on your own more than anything else.
Why would you want to take back someone who cheats on you anyway? You're only giving him the green light to continue doing what he's doing, in a way you're telling him it's all right to do that, I'll take you back nevertheless! I would definitely get rid of him once and for all and find someone who can be loyal to you and love and care for you the way you deserve.
Eve
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reader, LISAG +, writes (16 March 2007):
 Once a cheater always a cheater in my book ! Sounds like you are being used, I am sorry to say! Stop paying for everything, you are suffering I know, but you deserve better than this and you know it. That's why you're asking for advice. He should be the one paying for everything, not her family, not you, HIM! His kids - his responsibility - altho he's getting it easy all ways it sounds ! We all want someone back desperately once they've shown they are happy to move on to someone else etc...! I can imagine your hurt even more so, once a child is involved. This is harsh advice, but you need to remember you and your child are number one and two - he is definitely number three in this case. He needs a wake up call ! As hard as it might be, accept he is not able to do anything for himself (lazy) and is taking full advantage of you! I'd kick him out personally, let him live full time at her parents - see how long that lasts !!! Yeah right as if they know the full story !!!! Let him realise his mistakes quickly, otherwise he will continue to take you for granted and what he has, which is all very convienent ! Try to get over wanting him back (as hard as that is - it WILL make you stronger and you have a child to think about too, this child is watching your every step remember - do your kid a great favour!), he dosent talk about it because he is probably at heart full of shame or too immature to realise what's happen'. Feeling defensive and thinks you are a walk over. Prove him wrong !!!! As scary as that might seem, in time maybe he will mature and have realisation! I hope for you and your kid - dont let your kid down girl !
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