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writes:I'm in a bit of a dilemma, theres a guy I took a shine to at work, problem is he's a client at the animal clinic I work at, I want to stay professional but at the same time don't want to miss out as I work wierd hours so it's difficult to find a man. He made a comment the other day about not being able to get a girlfriend because of his pets (is that a chat up line?) I wish I had the confidence to say "we'd be well suited then" without that little voice saying business and pleasure don't mix, please help!
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reader, clairebear +, writes (17 March 2007):
clairebear is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey, thanks for the replies, ive had mixed views from people who says go for it, whos been in the same situation, and no-gos. its just a case of waiting to see when he comes in again and whether ive got the balls to make conversation, or leave it be.......i'll try to keep you updated. thanks you for your comments i really appreciate it. (how cool is this website?) clairebear.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (17 March 2007):
 If you see him again, ask him how his pet is doing, try and hold a conversation with him and casually say something like "hey if you ever want to go for a drink and discuss your pet then don't hesitate to get in touch," he'll get the message. He's only a customer after all! Won't be the first time a relationship has started under the same circumstances. I say go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): This guy brings his animals into the vets office where you work and you think maybe that is a reason not to date him? n/a
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): That may well have been a chat up line or a tentative attempt at one by a chap who's in a very similar situation to you.We all feel the same dilemma when we meet guys we like at work but often as busy people, work people are all we meet, and maybe they are all we needI'm marrying my 'I fancy him but work...'. Cheesy I know but we met at work and we always liked each other and eventually it's got to the stage where we're booking the church.Not to say this will happen to you, I'd keep an open mind about him and continue to do your own thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Hi. I have been in a similar situation but I actually dated a guy I worked with. We tried to keep it quiet, but it started to spread around work that we were together. It was terrible. The other women here would ask him questions about us and say things to try to get us to break up. We only made it for 6 months and then ended up splitting. We still work together but he and I hardly say two words to each other and it's been a year since we were together. My advice, is this: 1) make sure there isn't a company policy about dating clients, 2)if there's not, go on a date with him, see what happens, 3) keep it professional. Don't discuss your personal time with him to ANYONE at work. And keep in mind if it doesn't work out you will still have to be professional with him and not let anyone know that it bothers you. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): There is truth in the fact that business and pleasure don't mix, especially seeing as when you both split up it can make working together more difficult. The best thing to do would be just to stay mates. After all he might only seeing friendship with you and you might be jumping to the wrong conclusions.
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