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*Gema*
writes:hey... well Im only 14 but i feel that myn and my boyfriends relationship is a lot more than a teenage fling.. we go to the same school and we see each other every morning because we are in the same form. We are in some classes together as well.. we have been together just over 9 weeks, he started going outside at dinner and break times about 2 weeks ago, but before at break we would sit in the canteen and talk to other mates and at dinner we would sit on the stairs at school, but then one day he went outside.. we harldy ever spoke then, but another thing is i was in relationship with another guy in my form just before christmas, we had liked each other for quite some time, we broke up and then we was just friends for a while. Now in the mornings when i go up to my form, i have all my friends there.. my ex and my boyfriend, i dont go upto my boyfriend and kiss him because it is awkward infront of my ex, so we dont act like a couple in the morning neither, any way, me and my boyfriend wernt spending no time together then, so i started to go outside too, still we didnt really act like a couple, he would go and play football and i would just stand there talking to the other people around me, and whn he was kicked out the football tornament thing he wouldnt come up to me, he would go and talk to his friend mike. Just lately i feel like i dont mean nothing to him and i dont feel like his girlfriend, i have tried to talk to him about these problems but he qeither goes in an mard or jus says " carnt i play football now " but he does'nt understand, i dont want to break up with him because i think i love him. I really need help on what to do and what to say.Please helpThanks.Gema xxx
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reader, agony aunt j +, writes (18 March 2007):
 love is a really deep powerful storng word. at this age i dont know if you really are in love or not. thats for you to decide. but a relationship is a two way thing, it should never be one person always giving. I think telling him you love him could be a bit strong, but if you've already spoken to him and he's giving you that arrogant attitude then maybe you shoudl express slightly more how deep you feel about him. You should try and spend more time with each other but if he's not willing to make the effort then maybe he doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about him. i dont like to be a bit on the negative side here, but i'm going to tell you a possiblity. maybe he likes you but wants to break up and is keeping distant because he doesn't quite have the guts to do it. this isn't definately the case, but it's something you should consider confronting him about. If he doesn't love you like you say you love him, you'll have to try and accept it, sweetie. There's pleanty more fish in the sea right? one day you'll find someone for you, no worries. and you never know, it could just be a rough patch anyway.
just talk it out with him.
let me know how it goes!
good luck
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reader, bby lolly +, writes (18 March 2007):
 ovcourse he likes you or he wouldnt be going out with you.
Im 14 to and i have had many boyfriends in the past that have been like that and lasted a long time and i finished with them.
if he didnt like you or even love you he wouldnt be goin out with you now would he? at my school most off my friends have boyfriends like that, that play football and dont really spend time with there girlfriends what i would do is either let him know you really love him and go and kiss him and stuff in the morning ( it doesnt matter about your ex boyfriend being there beacause that was in the past)or you could play really hard to get and let him come running let me know how it goes girl!! good luck xx
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reader, AskEve +, writes (17 March 2007):
 Maybe he's noticed you don't act like a couple when your ex is around and he could be hurt because of this. You need to talk to him and ask him if there's a problem. It could be that he's just bored and doesn't feel the relationship is going anywhere. It's up to you to say you've noticed that he's been quiet and ask him what's wrong.
Eve
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reader, 20teri07 +, writes (17 March 2007):
 Sound like your in a really horrible situation. Maybe your not meant to be together, but maybe you are. Ask him who he thinks is more important you or his friends. He might feel like he has got to act like the one i charge of the relationship infront of his friends. What is he like when his friends arnt there. If he really loves you he will tell you. Tell him you love him and see what his reaction is, If he says he loves you too then ask him why he treats you like this and makes you feel the way you do. Make him listen to you by asking him to come around to your house or go out with him on your own and see how he treats you when nobodys there. Hope everything goes well.
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