I ruined his birthday, but is it justified because his friendship with his ex was out of line.
Q. I'm talking to this guy and every now and then he goes and hangs out with his ex girlfriend. He knows that I don't like it at all because when hes with her I tell him not to speak to me. He tells me that hes sorry and hes trying to end things on a ...
A. 25 September 2013: The light just came on with your followup.
Wake up! His "ex" is not his ex. You are the piece of strange on the side. You are the girl he keeps around in case he wants to cheat on his CURRENT girlfriend.
What a complete waste of time. ... (read in full...)
Does he care about me? He's so busy training!
Q. I am in a new relationship where we have not yet decided if we want to take it real serious yet. We have just been getting to know each other. He has decided to get back into MMA fighting which I don't mind, but his time is going to become consumed ...
A. 24 September 2013: I think if you want to be with an MMA athlete, you must accept this. Training is very cyclical and regimented, usually starting from sunup to sundown. Oftentimes, such intensive training produces a tunnel vision that pushes aside all other ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is a girl who likes him and it really bothers me!
Q. Hey everyone so I'm not sure if I'm over reacting or what. But my boyfriend has a girl best friend I'm not used to dating guys who have girl best friends infact I absolutely hate it! But he's been friends with her way before we started dating. They ...
A. 24 September 2013: What is their history together? You didn't mention how they became to be best friends, because that is important on whether or not it's an issue in your relationship.
Often, family friends growing up remain close when they grow up. If she was ... (read in full...)
I found out husband is taking viagra. Is he lying to me about the reason?
Q. my husband is way. I found he took some Viagra with him. I asked him why did he need it? He said he need it when he feel like to have a sex and he will do it by himself with out any partner? I don't believe him.To you, it is a case? And do you think ...
A. 23 September 2013: I don't believe him either, UNLESS you know that there is a medically diagnosed reason that he was legally prescribed Viagra. Was ED an issue between you two, and he went to a doctor's appointment and was diagnosed and then prescribed it? Is there ... (read in full...)
Is it against the law to save photos from facebook?
Q. I have taken to saving pictures of girls in my class wearing bikinis from Facebook or Twitter. All I want to know is if it is first of all legal and secondly if its creepy to do so. I've never shown anyone this and nobody knows I do it. I am ...
A. 23 September 2013: It's creepy and actually, it *COULD* be illegal.
You are 13-15, right?? The girls in your class are the same age, making them UNDERAGE. If someone were to see a huge collection of underage bikini pictures in your hard drive, they would have a p... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a girl needs a cigarette after sex.
Q. What does it mean if a girl said right after sex: "after this I definitely need a cigarette". We met last week and had sex for the 1st time last night. Does it mean she enjoyed it? The issue is that she hasn't called or responded to my text. Tha...
A. 21 September 2013: The "After this, now I really need a cigarette" was her way of paying you a HUGE compliment for your lovemaking skills in satisfying her.
It's an old cliche that after really really good toe-curling sex, you smoke a cigarette. It's a sign of ... (read in full...)
I ruined his birthday, but is it justified because his friendship with his ex was out of line.
Q. I'm talking to this guy and every now and then he goes and hangs out with his ex girlfriend. He knows that I don't like it at all because when hes with her I tell him not to speak to me. He tells me that hes sorry and hes trying to end things on a ...
A. 21 September 2013: If there's one thing I can ever impress upon you, it's this:
Never *ever* lower yourself.
If you're just "talking" to this guy and you find out he's still messing with his ex and that's unacceptable to you, then end it then. By you telling him ... (read in full...)
Could he be serious or is he a catfish?
Q. I've signed up to a dating site, had some replies - actually 4, and one looked interesting. How do I know it's not a "catfish" though? The profile looked very natural, and had a [state].gov email address mentioned in his profile, along with photo...
A. 21 September 2013: He could be a city employee, which is not smart to use an email for personal use. Did you Google search his name or Facebook or LinkedIn? You should do a background check on him anyways if he's an online person.
Personally, I don't recommen... (read in full...)
We plan to wait for sex until marriage. He still tries it on me but get pouty if I don't let him.
Q. I'm 23yrs old while my boyfriend is 28yrs we've dating getting to 4yrs now and everything is moving fine we both love eachother so much and we've not have sex because we both agreed that sex should be when we get married but the last time i pay him ...
A. 21 September 2013: If he's been with you for 4 years, he's not pretending.
If you're waiting until marriage, that's okay and your choice. However, what's with the 4-year holdup?? Most couples who are celibate and have made that choice usually marry in a much qui... (read in full...)
Moving my boyfriend into the house I own - what is the best way to split the bills?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend and I want to move in together. I own, he rents. If he moves in with me what is the best way to split the bills if we earn about the same but he has child maintenance for 1 child which I don't have. Thanks for the advice....
A. 20 September 2013: Yep, 50/50. His child is his problem, and you are neither married, nor do you need to shoulder his child support burden, which you WOULD be if you gave him a break on the bills.
How much does he pay each month in renting? It doesn't matter i... (read in full...)
He says he no longer loves me-- how can I change his mind?
Q. This will be long, so bare with me.... I am 32, my boyfriend 35. We have been together for almost 4 years and live together. I have two children, both with special needs, from a previous relationship; they are not home on weekends. Our relationsh...
A. 20 September 2013: I didn't jump to any conclusions. You said this:
"We have gotten in about three fights (over the entire course of our relationship) where we have broken up, but we have always been back together by the next day"
You don't break up after f... (read in full...)
He says he no longer loves me-- how can I change his mind?
Q. This will be long, so bare with me.... I am 32, my boyfriend 35. We have been together for almost 4 years and live together. I have two children, both with special needs, from a previous relationship; they are not home on weekends. Our relationsh...
A. 19 September 2013: Pinktopaz is right. You blew up your relationship by treating Nuclear Events like breakups as a manipulation tactic to get his attention. Do you know how resentful that makes someone when they are emotionally blackmailed? As in "You don't love me ... (read in full...)
I don't like giving oral sex because of precum
Q. okay well i have been dating my boyfriend for a year now and 3 months and he asked me to give him a BJ. i have tried before but i just seem to get discusted each time because of the precum that goes in my mouth. is there any solution to solve this i ...
A. 19 September 2013: Flavored condoms always have that hint of latex on them. They could work, but what works better and feels better for him as well as tastes better for you are FLAVORS. Whipped cream, chocolate syrup, you know, in the general idea of "Is that a ... (read in full...)
As soon as we returned from a lovely trip, his whole demeanor changed. Why the 180?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now. We just got home from an amazing trip to the mountains (4 days). Everything wss petfect. No awkwardness, fights, nothing but hugging, kissing, hand holding, and love making the whole time. But as soon ...
A. 17 September 2013: One month into a relationship is way too soon to be doing 4-day trips. Many people dating aren't even exclusive at 1 month, and many others aren't becoming sexual at one month.
His distance may be because he needs to recharge. It may be that he ... (read in full...)
As soon as we returned from a lovely trip, his whole demeanor changed. Why the 180?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now. We just got home from an amazing trip to the mountains (4 days). Everything wss petfect. No awkwardness, fights, nothing but hugging, kissing, hand holding, and love making the whole time. But as soon ...
A. 17 September 2013: One month into a relationship is way too soon to be doing 4-day trips. Many people dating aren't even exclusive at 1 month, and many others aren't becoming sexual at one month.
His distance may be because he needs to recharge. It may be that he ... (read in full...)
Everytime his parents come to visit, he goes MIA!
Q. Hey everyone, I am dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now! Everytime his parents come to visit or stay at his place he goes MIA(missing in action)..first off we are in a long distane relationship so the only thing that keeps us together is the p...
A. 17 September 2013: You're long distance, and 5 months is pretty new even for a local relationship. There's nothing wrong with his waiting until he's in a private place to talk to you. You haven't been introduced to his family, and that is one of those "commitment ... (read in full...)
Everytime his parents come to visit, he goes MIA!
Q. Hey everyone, I am dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now! Everytime his parents come to visit or stay at his place he goes MIA(missing in action)..first off we are in a long distane relationship so the only thing that keeps us together is the p...
A. 16 September 2013: If his dad is coming to visit, it's natural that he spends time with him. He's not MIA if he's calling you late at night or texting you. You are going MIA by ignoring him, and you're hurting your relationship by your behavior.
So he has his dad ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has contact with her ex and lies to me about it. How do I talk to her about this?
Q. I dont feel hurt by her actions, just disappointed that shes lieing to my face and not telling the whole truth. I told my girlfriend that if she had contact with her ex it would break us up and its not that i cant or dont trust her its how he b...
A. 16 September 2013: I don't think it's cruel in the slightest to expect that an ex isn't a part of your partner's life unless there's a child and decisions must be made for the good of that child.
Your problem is that your wishes don't have teeth. You told her up f... (read in full...)
Friend-zoned ... I need help!
Q. Hi, I need some help and advice. I have been liking this girl. A week ago, I hint my feelings to her. We texted and heart to heart talk a little. She finds me a good friend and she don't want to be involve in a relationship. She wants to wait un...
A. 15 September 2013: You must cut off all communication with her, because your obsession is hurting your life. She doesn't feel for you like you do for her. It does you no good to torture yourself with the knowledge that she chose someone else over you.
Walk ... (read in full...)
I just moved in with my girlfriend and there is already conflict!
Q. Hi, Me and my gf, we moved in together 3 weeks ago. I got a new, very time-consuming job a week ago and her classes (she's a student) started at the same time. So we both come home tired, and I have to go to bed at 10 P.M. to wake up for work. ...
A. 15 September 2013: Her behavior is not normal. If this just popped up, it could be PMS, but if it's been going on the entire three weeks you both have been living together, then there are deeper issues.
Constant yelling, screaming, nagging, criticizing speaks t... (read in full...)
I masturbate about my colleague every night and I'm tired of it! Help!
Q. I have a crush on someone, a coworker. He has a girlfriend. I know I have no chance in hell with him. However, no matter how hard I try, I can't get him out of my head. I've felt like this about him for the past year, and the feeling is as strong as ...
A. 14 September 2013: The trauma you suffered is affecting your ability to live life on your terms. It's true that masturbation is normal and healthy, and fantasies are as well. Many people who haven't been affected by trauma find it difficult to interact with the ... (read in full...)
I love him so much but the possibility of never marrying is devastating to me.
Q. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 3 years and we have a 10 week old daughter together. Since I gave birth to my daughter I have been yearning to engaged/married we have a generally brilliant relationship and I love him dearly. The ...
A. 13 September 2013: This is a conversation you should have with him, not speculate about. I agree with whoever said that you may be dealing with postpartum depression, because you have a very young baby (10 weeks), and as a result are sleep deprived and stressed.
... (read in full...)
A one-night stand resulted in a pregnancy and the entire situation has just wrecked my relationship! What do I do now?
Q. Dear cupid me and my ex have been through some hard times in the past few years and it was my fault for not putting enough into the relationship. We split in march and in june I had a one night stand as I thought I could not get her back due to my ...
A. 12 September 2013: I don't believe it and think it's in your head about protection, especially with the huge amount of different types and materials they are in. Some guys are allergic to latex, but there are so many options when it comes to protection, like ... (read in full...)
Wasn't the sex good for her? Why did she have to start masturbating immediately after I had my orgasm?
Q. If I slept with a girl after our 2nd date and after a 10-minute intercourse where I orgasmed, she proceeded to immediately start masturbating and even asked me to do it for her the next 20 mins. Does it mean she didn't enjoy the intercourse or ...
A. 11 September 2013: You mentioned 10 minutes of intercourse? What about before that or after that? Many women are unable to have an orgasm through intercourse alone, because many positions don't allow for adequate stimulation of the clitoris.
Could you have an ... (read in full...)
I am feeling very sexually frustrated!
Q. About 2 weeks ago my girlfriend gave me my first blow job. It was great and all but I find that now I am very sexually frustrated. I get turned on a lot and long for her to do it again. But this isn't like the normal horny where you can just go ...
A. 11 September 2013: This is "new toy" syndrome. After she gave you a blow job, any lesser pleasure simply dulls in comparison. This is common, and you being hyper-excited about what she did and the fact that you have to wait for another go is driving you crazy.
... (read in full...)
Is this just sex or something more?
Q. I recently met this guy who is a regular customer at my job. I'm a restaurant manager. He comes in and has a drink every now and then and has gotten to know the bartenders well. He inquired about me with one of the bartenders and she got us to start ...
A. 11 September 2013: Heh. You had sex and now the feelings are happening. That's what this is. You might get hurt with this one, because right now, you do not have a relationship. You have a Friends with Benefits.
If you're interested in becoming a relation... (read in full...)
What can I do to convince her I'll never cheat?
Q. hello all. i am in a relationship for 4 1/2 years now. i love my gf very much. ive never felt for someone else in my life. she has all the qualities i like in females. smart, calm, a good listener and a better advisor, supportive , loyal. with ...
A. 11 September 2013: Actually, I have to disagree with WiseOwlE on this one. With a long term relationship, it's more likely that SHE has had a change in self esteem that makes her insecure. Has she gained weight? Had a job setback? Lost a family member or a friend ... (read in full...)
A one-night stand resulted in a pregnancy and the entire situation has just wrecked my relationship! What do I do now?
Q. Dear cupid me and my ex have been through some hard times in the past few years and it was my fault for not putting enough into the relationship. We split in march and in june I had a one night stand as I thought I could not get her back due to my ...
A. 10 September 2013: WHAT?!
"Before I had sex I asked the girl if we was to have sex and a situation arose what would her viewpoint be. She said she would have an abortion."
So you asked *THIS* question, and previously you went through another abortion AND a b... (read in full...)
A one-night stand resulted in a pregnancy and the entire situation has just wrecked my relationship! What do I do now?
Q. Dear cupid me and my ex have been through some hard times in the past few years and it was my fault for not putting enough into the relationship. We split in march and in june I had a one night stand as I thought I could not get her back due to my ...
A. 9 September 2013: What *can* you do?
Actions have consequences. Not using reliable protection got you into the pickle with the one-night-stand. And lying to your ex got you dumped.
AuntyEm is spot on. What is scarier is your moral code. You have no problem ... (read in full...)
Asexual or not, either way help!
Q. I am about to turn eighteen and have been questioning my sexuality for awhile now. I have had only 3 relationships in my life, one i am currently engaged in, and the previous two have ended because i showed no intent on a sexual relationship with ...
A. 9 September 2013: Hmmm...
I don't think you are asexual. You said this:
"There are people that i am psychically attracted to in the sense of kissing and hugging and so on"
An asexual person would neither have the interest, nor attraction to kiss or hu... (read in full...)
Who takes off the condom after sex?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I've been sleeping with my boyfriend for a few months now, and we always use a condom. Thing is, it kind of gets awkward when it's time to remove the condom. After the act, I always remove the condom for him and wipe the mes...
A. 9 September 2013: I let him do it because after sex, the glans of the penis is pretty sensitive for him. The part where my hands (and other parts) are all over him is before and during. Afterwards, he can clean up with minimal discomfort, as I am doing the same for ... (read in full...)
Did I break his trust by talking to a man during our break?
Q. hi, i want to ask ...that i was in relationship with a guy since 3 years. i listen to whateva he says be it whatever as im soo in love with him. he is very restrictive regarding whom to talk , where to go , what to wear etc . i initially had prob...
A. 8 September 2013: Do you want to hear the truth?
Your biggest mistake was getting back with your boyfriend. He is way too controlling, and it will only get worse.
You said this:
"he is very restrictive regarding whom to talk , where to go, what to wear etc ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mother why I don't come to see her?
Q. My boyfriend, Mason and I have been together for 8 months now. He's 26. I'm 22. I'm constantly at his place because I feel that it's so convenient since my college is two blocks away and so is my workplace. And I like being with him. He makes me ...
A. 7 September 2013: Seriously? Get over that feeling, and right quick. I know you're lovestruck on your boyfriend, but you only have one mom, and she loves you. Not visiting for weeks and barely calling is not cool if you have a mom who loves you and was a good mom ... (read in full...)
I want to score with this girl but cant get her attention!
Q. I really like this girl. I met her at work. she's beautiful, sexy and smart. She is oozing with breath taking sex appeal. she knows how to dress well and very down to earth. The problem is, I learned that she is older than me by 7 years. I didn't ...
A. 7 September 2013: You want to "score" with her??
If she's older than you, she's probably tired of guys wanting to merely "score" with her. She probably knows your interest is only about having sex with her, which is why she changes the subject.
As far as her... (read in full...)
What should I prepare for when visting an escort for the first time?
Q. I'm 27 years old and a virgin, and I always thought about waiting for the right girl that I liked or was into me, however I just grew impatient. I'm shy, I don't feel comfortable in myself so I feel that I'm not any girls type and not attractive to ...
A. 7 September 2013: And just how will you explain to your future wife or serious girlfriend exactly how you lost your virginity?
I don't know about you, but if I found out that a guy I was into lost it to a prostitute/escort, I'd be going for an STI test and thinking... (read in full...)
Is this a form of verbal abuse or am I being overeactive?
Q. So, I was discussing with my boyfriend how a woman got rescued from being kidnapped. I then proceeded to make a comment that one always needs to be aware of ones surroundings. My boyfriend turned to me and said "No one would kidnap you." I ...
A. 7 September 2013: It was not verbal abuse. You were talking about being aware of your surroundings, and he was trying to make a dumb joke. You are already touchy about your age, so it's called "stepping on an emotional landmine" when someone inadvertently says ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my girlfriend if she enjoys sex?
Q. Lately after sex with my girlfriend i have been asking her if she enjoyed it or if she had fun. Is this bad? And i don't know why i started asking her that. Maybe i feel like she does not enjoy it? By me asking would that make her less attracted to ...
A. 6 September 2013: Euphoric is right -- instead of asking the "Was that good for you" question, ask her open-ended questions, such as "What can I do to make you feel even better?". That would convey a love of sexual adventure versus a confidence check.
Ask h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ignores me but doesn't like it when I don't respond right away!
Q. My bf can be quite bad at communicating. I see him on the weekends only due to work/distance. However during the week we hardly speak. He isnt soneone who likes talking on thr phone - its probably only happened a handful of times in our how ...
A. 6 September 2013: Hold on a second -- you don't hear from him at all after he's off of work, you barely hear from him while he's at work, and you only see him on the weekends?
Not only that, but he's very sensitive about the speed and attentiveness of your response... (read in full...)
He goes to strip clubs and told me I'm not as sexually attractive to him as I was 14 years and 2 of our children ago!
Q. I don’t know what to do anymore. I have been married for 10 years to my husband, we dated for about 2 years before that and we have two children together ( almost 8 and 4 years old) (he also has two from a previous marriage). I just recently found ...
A. 6 September 2013: Exactly Radner. My mother took care of my father until the end, helping him through months and years of chemo and appointments and care.... (read in full...)
Why do I make women bleed?
Q. Hello, the past 2 girls I have had sex with have bled after the intercourse was over while they weren't on their period. It didnt happen everytime we had sex but it did happen the 2nd or 3rd time. This has also happened a few times in the past and ...
A. 6 September 2013: Yep, you are being way too rough when it comes to intercourse. That is another reason why I firmly advise guys on here to never consider porn as a way to learn how to have sex, because that whole jackhammer pounding for several minutes at a ... (read in full...)
He goes to strip clubs and told me I'm not as sexually attractive to him as I was 14 years and 2 of our children ago!
Q. I don’t know what to do anymore. I have been married for 10 years to my husband, we dated for about 2 years before that and we have two children together ( almost 8 and 4 years old) (he also has two from a previous marriage). I just recently found ...
A. 6 September 2013: Sorry, but your husband gives Red Blooded Men a bad name. Real men honor their commitments to their wives and children and don't run off to strip clubs every couple of months and then blame it on their wives' appearance. No one can be expected to ... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend? His girlfriend's family don't accept him!
Q. My friend's 19, and he's told me he's started dating this Indian girl who's lovely. I'm happy for him, however, it's the reaction of her parents that worries him (she's Muslim but not by choice). She does not want to be Muslim, she is not at al...
A. 6 September 2013: This one's really a tough one, but in truth, the real issue is what your friend's girlfriend is going to do. Your friend will never be accepted because of his religion, because it's a grave issue to leave Islam. Typically, to formally renounce ... (read in full...)
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